6 years ago today I found my nude pics on Pornhub, posted by my ex who had made a profile with my full name, address, & phone number. Today I fight for victims going through something similar. It's crazy how far away it feels but at the same time the way it feels like it was yday
It feels close to me when I feel a phone vibrate, or when I'm shamed (by strangers or people in my life) for my sexuality, or when I get a cryptic DM/text from a random creep that makes me go searching online to make sure nothing's out there. The PTSD is real & brings me back
But at the same time I'm proud looking back at how far I've come since 2015. That 19 y/o girl had been so drained and worn down. Feeling ashamed of having sent nude pics, feeling trapped by an abuser who was set out to ruin my life. And afraid of the consequences of speaking out
The exp made me rethink everything I thought I knew about the world. Was 1 of the worst things I had been thru but also gave me the opportunity to look at the values I had & decide for MYSELF what I would take with me. Realizing that the shame was his, not mine to carry, was key
I still struggle & have bad PTSD days. But I have learned to turn the anguish and pain and anger into something powerful, a force for change. I've learned so much over the past 6 years, about myself thru therapy + connections w/ other survivors + learning from experts
It's one of my life goals to make the world a safer place for marginalized groups, for there to be consequences for those who weaponize tech, and for Big Tech to pay for the harm it's caused. But it's as important to me to eradicate the shame around non-cis-male sexuality.
Anyway long way of saying these past 6 years have been full of reflection & growth & change and I'm only just getting started fighting ✨💣
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