Being a part of the LGBTQ+ community is isolating. Even more so in a religious environment, where the common consensus is that LGBTQ+ and faith cannot coexist.
4 years ago (to the semester) I took Eternal Families. While discussing LGBTQ+ topics a student in my class said, "I don't have a problem with gay people. I just don't understand why I have to be their friend."
This was devastating. This student didn't even know me, yet because I was gay had just admitted to the entire class that he would never want to be my friend.
Tolerance is not love. "Allowing" LGBTQ+ individuals to exist but keeping your distance is not allyship. We need you to stand with us, sit with us, cry with us, and laugh with us.
We need your friendship.
We are your children, siblings, parents, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and peers. We see you. Do you see us?
I grew up in a black and white world. It was dull & muted but it was comfortable & easy on the eyes. It was my reality and I didn't know any different.
When I realized I was gay I was told I had to make a choice. I could either honor my sexuality or cling to my spirituality.
But it's not black and white. It's Rainbow. I didn't want to choose one or the other. So I chose both.
Growing up I knew love. I saw it in my parents, in my siblings, in my friends. I felt it in my church and knew I had Parents and a Savior to love and be loved.
I was taught that love is the most powerful force in the world. There is nothing stronger than love.
Then I realized I was gay. Love, as I knew it, became my enemy. Now I was being taught my love was a perversion, something evil and distorted.
For years I believed this lie. My life lost meaning and purpose and joy because if love was now my enemy, I was destined to fail. Nothing is stronger than love.