Friendship - They can't all be your friends

It is amazing how some people feel everyone around them should be their friends; well news flash, it is actually not logically possible. Everyone cannot and will not be your friend and that is okay.
Learn to be comfortable in being a classmate, colleague, acquaintance etc and nothing more. And it doesn't mean that you are not walking in love or fighting them. Your friends reflect you, so be deliberate.
But Jesus did not commit Himself to them, because He knew all [men,] and had no need that anyone should testify of man, for He knew what was in man.

Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered,
The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.
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Relationship - Have a plan

Most miss it in relationships because there was never a plan for success in the first place. What plan are you following, what standards have you set for yourselves?
Design a plan for your relationship such that every meeting is purposeful and impactful. Prayer time, books to read, stuffs to learn together, people (places) to visit etc. Above all, reduce the times you spend together alone in a room planless, why tempt yourself?
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Sex was designed for marriage, 'a man leaves his parents and is joined to his wife and they both become one flesh'. Becoming one flesh only comes after leaving and joining (marriage).
Sex is not a proof of love or compatibility, that's a lie. Neither is 'engaged to be married' equal to married. Regardless of the prevailing culture and pressures, God will keep you if you choose to obey and follow him. Flee sexual immorality.
Honor the sanctity of marriage and keep your vows of purity to one another, for God will judge sexual immorality in any form, whether single or married.

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
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Relationship - Entering a godly relationship

While physical attributes are good, they are not sufficient for a lasting relationship. A solid relationship with God should be the foundation with godly characters. The fruits of the Spirit must be evidently seen.
Now, the perfect husband/wife is already married, so it is not about perfection but maturing. She/he must have a pastor and be actively serving God.
Finally and most importantly, there must be a deep conviction that he/she is the one. God will speak to you if you ask him.
The conviction will not eliminate challenges in the relationship, as all successful relationships have their own challenges; it will be your anchor during the turbulent times.

And the conviction should be confirmed by your pastor/mentor. Your pastors also have the Spirit of God.
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Relationship - First things first

There are things that should be done before meeting "The One". 3 of those things are: Prayer - start praying for your future partner especially when you are not ready to enter a relationship, you are sowing seeds to your future.
Secondly, have friends of opposite sex with all purity, it helps you to understand the differences in the genders.

Finally, read relationship books and ask questions from those in godly marriages, don't make your relationship a trial and error endeavour.
Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.

Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
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Friendship - Bear each other's burden

Friendship is more than just a name, it is a responsibility. You are supposed to be there for your friends, to offer a shoulder to cry and a companion for laughter. Their joy is your joy and their burden your prayer point.
David and Jonathan are a very good example of friendship, even at his own expense, Jonathan was happy for David to be the next king. Do you rejoice at your friend's successes or you become jealous? Be a burden-bearer
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There are "friends" who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
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Friendship - Truthfulness

"You are not properly dressed", if your friends are unable to say that to you, then you are not being truthful with each other. Friendship requires truthfulness and a certain vulnerability to the end of improvement.
While you are not always looking for each other's faults, you must be comfortable enough to point out your deficiencies, it is better it comes from them anyway than public embarrassment. Make truth the foundation of your friendship.
Friend deceives friend, and no one speaks the truth. They have taught their tongues to lie; they weary themselves with sinning.

One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
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