Thread by @akahnnani

Over the course of last week, I got dragged here because of a video I posted on the love page I co-own with my wife.
As the tradition is, whenever I get dragged, I laugh about it but also tell the truth on #AkahBants
My response to the breastmilk saga👇🏾

Now let me use this opportunity to say this.
What you saw in that video was not the beginning of that discussion and it was not the end of it. If some of you who ranted unnecessarily on here had taken the time to actually go to the source (IG: @akahandclaire) and read caption.

You would have deciphered that we put that video there with an intention for our community to learn and to show that I had also learnt from that experience too.
You would have also known that the issue wasn't breast milk. Our main message was more about...

'handling communication in relationships' because the reality of it is that in real life, in marriage, in relationships, hard conversations must happen. And it's love that helps you bring your partner from the other side of the divide to see your point of view.

I didn't talk a lot. I was processing. But there was a prior conversation that occurred nights before where things were said, and reactions that I did not understand had to be talked about. YOU WERE NOT THERE!
I can never know what breastfeeding is.

But let me say a few things;

1. I believe in the 'We' factor. When my wife breastfeeds, it's we because I have afforded her the ability to, by washing the dishes, washing the bottles and sterilising them, waking up in the morning to make oats for her and making the process less stressful because if stress..

there will be no milk and she may not have the strength to even do it.
In the same vein, When I go out to work, it's 'We' because my wife would take up night duty with the baby so that I wouldn't sleep in my meetings or while driving on 3rd mainland bridge. It's team work!

2. I have a say over my wife's body and what she does with it. At the very least, to discuss it. Why? Jesus told me that my wife's body belongs to me. And my body belongs to her. That's on that. So all you misandrists screaming at the top of your lungs, scream more.

3. Most of you have had trauma in your life and interprete everything that happens around you with toxic energy. Remove the poison in your heart. Go for therapy. Not everytime gaslight. Sit down and have that talk with your partner. And move forward.

4. That video was meant to show growth and encourage it in others. To show that marriage is not a bed of roses. We use our joint page to show truth and our love journey. We are both learning and growing. We have never been married before. But we stay committed! Okay?

5. The sheer amount of conversation this whole thing has created is enormous and if that's the only thing we have achieved, that's success for me.

6. I truly am grateful for the 90% of you who got the message. It proved that not all Nigerians are mad, clout chasing and fake woke

... I am also thankful for those who had my back and know what I am about. From consuming my content you guys know me and know my essence. You stood for me but didn't disrespect anyone. Thank you, proud of you for being classy about it too. Lol.

7. So dears, those of you who were talking trash on this app, let me clear your doubt.
If you don't agree with anything I have said, that's fine but respect it, if not, I implore you to scratch your head on texcoat. ✌🏾

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