Honestly, the droves of men demanding evidence that has been provided over and over again for years who appear in my mentions every time I criticize the only reasonable man - Jesse Singal - are more exhausting than the people who just call me a man.
Here’s Katelyn Burns talking about how Jesse threatened her employer with legal action until she lost her job
Here’s Julia Serano talking about how Jesse dismissed and slut-shamed her juliaserano.blogspot.com/2017/12/my-jes…
Here is Parker Molloy explaining what’s wrong with Jesse’s conversion therapy article juliaserano.blogspot.com/2017/12/my-jes…
Here is Emily VanDerWerff describing how Jesse directed an online dogpile of death threats and harassment at her
This is how people from marginalized groups are silenced in the modern era. If trans voices were given the same weight as cis voices, it would be enough for us to say that this man creeps us out with his obsession and harassment. You’d trust that we know what we’re talking about.
But instead, a mob appears asking for evidence they’ll never read by which they’ll never be satisfied. The message is clear: don’t complain about this man who has built a career on skepticism about your equal rights, or you’ll be pulled into an exhausting battle.
There’s an easy solution to this: stop letting cis men build careers writing about trans people. It’s not normal to be so obsessed with us. Usually cis men obsessed with trans women either want to fuck us or want to be us, and they project their psycho-drama all over our lives.
They get paid for their uninformed curiosity and we’re left picking up the pieces and defending our right to exist.

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14 Mar
Assimilationist trans people who waste the beautiful opportunity for perspective they’ve been given by defending transphobia, capitalism, and the patriarchy make me so sad
Being a white trans woman is like living through your own version of A Christmas Carol. Your previous privilege and power are suddenly revealed to you in no uncertain terms as the result of oppression. Imagine clawing to have it back.
Something I think white trans people are too willing to let ourselves forget is that other people *still* see our whiteness first. If you transition and oppression doesn’t touch your daily life, it doesn’t mean the system is fine. It means you’re white and it’s built for you.
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25 Feb
Not one single trans person is quoted in this @nytimes article about the Equality Act passing today, but they did give three extreme anti-trans bigots a chance to spread hatred. Do better.
Not one single trans person is quoted in this @washingtonpost article about the passage of the Equality Act, and it also gives an extreme anti-trans bigot a platform to spout falsehoods about trans healthcare
Not one single trans person is quoted in this @NBCNews article about the House passage of the Equality Act, but they did allow give the Heritage Foundation a platform to claim without evidence that it would somehow promote sexual assault
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24 Feb
Holy shit the lady at Safeway asked for a date of birth and phone number to buy beer and then was like “you have weird parents, DEADNAME” and my brain just completely seized up and stopped functioning
I’m like honestly unsure she ever figured out I was trans, she had so many follow up questions about why I don’t use that name and what name I use and then asked if I was an Aries??? Weirdest interaction I’ve had all year.
I struggled with alcohol consumption before coming out and it’s like the world is working to make sure I never drink again, no matter how moderately. No beer tastes good enough to be worth getting deadnamed at the grocery store
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4 Feb
Are transgender women ruining women’s sports? NEW VIDEO - link below!
I'm also launching a patreon for this account. If you enjoy my videos, my writing, or my photography and you want to help me do more of that, here's how! patreon.com/aridrennen?fan…
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THREAD: Some makeup tips for trans women/femmes just starting out but maybe feeling a little intimidated. YouTube is a great resource - it’s how I learned! - but some things don’t translate perfectly from the (mostly cis) beauty YouTubers to trans faces:
The amount of makeup that looks good on camera with a ton of lights pointed at your face is completely different than the amount of makeup that looks good in real life. Go light, then take a hand mirror, step outside, and see how it looks. Less is more!
BEFORE FOUNDATION: moisturize your pretty face. It might seem counterintuitive but it’ll help your makeup last longer. Simple face lotion works! You could spend lots of money on primer but I stopped using it and haven’t noticed a different 🤷🏻‍♀️
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22 Mar 20
As a trans woman who started transitioning at 28, I’ve spent most of my life social distancing to some extent. Here are some tips in case they help anyone:
1) Do something that keeps you present in your body. Go for a hike alone, or meditate or do yoga at home. It’s easy to disassociate when you’re on the couch and disassociation feels really bad after a while.
2) Dress yourself up in something that makes you feel good every couple days. Put on a tie, or your favorite grey sweat pants, or a fancy dress, or draw on a dramatic smoky eye. Even if nobody is going to see you, when you look nice it should be for yourself, not for the world.
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