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9 harsh truths about relationships

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Harsh Truth #1
There is a high chance you will outgrow your best friends from childhood.
And you wouldn't want to be friends with them.

Do not feel guilty.
Wanting to maintain a distance from someone you do not relate to anymore doesn't mean you don't care about them.

It just means you care about the relationship you have with yourself more than the one you have with them.
Harsh Truth #2
Your parents are human.
Which means, they too can be wrong.
They too can be toxic.
They too can be unreasonable.

Do not think they are above all of this.
As long as you are financially dependent on your parents, you are answerable to them.

If you wish to be independent of them, while still respecting them as your parents, buy yourself financial freedom.
Harsh Truth #3
Some people only know how to suck energy from you.

It is not their fault.
They do not know any better.
They need energy from everyone else, because they cannot generate it within.

But we all have finite energy.
Stay away from relationships that suck energy out from you.
These relationships are rarely give and take.
They only take.
And you have only so much to give.
Harsh Truth #4
How we treat others is a reflection of how we treat ourselves

It is rare, almost impossible, to have a mean, conniving, hurtful, racist, bigoted person, to truly love themselves.
So when people say mean things, troll you online, or back stab you, rise above and show empathy.
Their actions reflect the relationship they have with their own self!
Harsh Truth #5
Some people do not love themselves. So they don't truth anyone who does!

They are constantly telling themselves "there is no way someone can love me so much. There is nothing to love. This must be fake"
People who are loved the most, are the ones who BELIEVE that they are worthy of love.
Harsh Truth #6
One relationship choice can alter your life - who you choose as your life partner.

Your life partner will come to shape your choices, your worldview, your past relationships, your future ones, your time, your priorities, your goals, your aspirations.
It is far more important for your partner to have the same values than to have good looks.

It is far more important for your partner to know how to be happy, than to know how be fun.
Harsh Truth #7
We are not the average of the 5 people we spend most time with.
We are the average of the 5 thoughts we spend most time with.

And those thoughts needn't come from people in our life.
Those thoughts, in today's world, mostly come from social media and the people you follow, from the WhatsApp/Telegram groups you are part of, the college you go to, the company you work at, the news you consume, the books you read.
Harsh Truth #8
Your kids lose their innocence because of what you tell them

They were born with no bias, no hatred, no segregation, no difference and no fear.
All the hatred, fear, risk in their head, was planted by their family.
The single biggest impact on how the world functions, is because of how parents function as parents!
Harsh Truth #9
The most difficult person you will spend time time, is you yourself

Most of us do not spend time with ourselves.
Because we are scared of what we might find.
Or scared of what we might tell ourselves.
Our thoughts are our biggest strength, our biggest enemy and our biggest competition.

It is up to us which role we play for our own self.
EVERYTHING in this world boils down to the relationships we have.
EVERYTHING!
The relationships we have not just with the world, but with our own selves.

And yet, there is so little that tells us how to navigate through them.
We all seem to be learning on the job.
Through trial and error.

But people are not products.
There is no A/B testing.
There is no "fail fast"
A wrong step can be damaging.
Forever damaging.
Which is why, what helps, is to start with our own self.

Know yourself.
Understand why you feel the way you do.
Ask questions.
Keep asking questions.

"Why am I angry?", "Why am I jealous", "Why am I dejected",
And another why.
And another.
And another.
If you truly know yourself, you will be able to know anyone else, through your own self.

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