Heteropatriachy says the two worst things a woman can be are:

1. Unfuckable
2. Fuckable but unavailable
This is so much the case that heteropatriachy tries to define womanhood essentially by whether a woman is fuckable & available to them.

Which is why lesbians, fat women, Black women, trans women, sex workers, disabled women all so easily get shunted to “unwoman” so often.
For trans women, you can see this manifest in Harry Benjamin’s insistence “true transsexual” were attracted to men.

You can see it in Blanchard and Bailey’s “autogynephilia” obsession...insisting womanhood without sexual availability to men must be a paraphilia.
Even our language reinforced this for generations...to “make a woman” of a girl was for a man to have sex with her for the first time.

What makes this extra dangerous is that men are essentially allowed to be wantonly violent to those not sufficiently “womanly”.
Patriarchy-annointed Womanhood, in theory, provides one “protection” by the patriarchal power structure (but very much in the organized crime conception of “protection”), because there are taboos on hurting women.

There aren’t taboos on hurting unwomen. Often, it’s *sanctioned*
The patriarchy-annointed women have a vested interest in maintaining this system, too. It gives them vast power/privilege over the unwomen, and it funnels the violence of men away from them. And there are some who think they can earn anointed status by exposing other unwomen.
This why the “gender-cr*t” movement is utter nonsense. The problem isn’t gender, the problem is heteropatriachy.

Now, let’s talk about the connection to current attack on trans kids. Because this is relevant beyond just the political scare tactics for the GOP.
The vast majority of panic about trans people up to now has been about trans women.

Because, while heteropatriachy largely considers us unwomen, the fact that some of us appear outwardly to meet their fuckability standards for womanhood makes us EXTREMELY DANGEROUS to them.
Adult Trans men are generally ignored because they are almost always in an unwoman category before they transition, so they’re largely irrelevant to the patriarchy.

But the attacks on trans youth are suddenly VERY INTERESTED and VERY UPSET about young AFAB people transitioning.
As much as people aren’t going to want admit this, those panics have a lot to do with heteropatriachy’s obsession with the sexual availability of teenage girls.

In the view of heteropatriachy, a pre-teen AFAB person choosing to take puberty blockers is denying men an opportunity
Essentially, every AFAB person who doesn’t go through their natal puberty is one less body for heteropatriarchy to sexualize, consume, and impregnate (heteropatrichy’s ultimate end goal, of course).

That’s an affront to them, and they cannot have it.
This is also why there’s such an insistence on referring to top surgery for AFAB trans teens as “mutilation.”

Because it’s robbing the patriarchy of teenage breasts to sexualize, and they find that horrific.

To take that analysis a step further...
All unwomen still have the potential of being useful to the heteropatriarchy. When their desires are unmet, men will “lower” themselves to fuck (or r*pe) an unwoman to slake their thirst.

But, when AFAB teens transition, they may move entirely outside the womanhood paradigm.
I’d argue that this particularly the case for those who identify as boys & go on T, and it’s messier for non-binary folks...but nonetheless, it’s a POSSIBILITY. And the idea that a potential object of sexualization could just nope out of the whole thing is DESTABILIZING and SCARY
Teenage trans girls aren’t EXEMPT from panic, obviously, but that’s rooted in something else entirely and in line with existing trans panics.

Trans women are viewed as dangerous bc heteropatriarchy views us as still containing enough “maleness” to undermine their heterosexuality
Largely, that’s a phallic thing, bc maleness, manhood, & the phallus are interchangeable for heteropatriarchy.

So even *ever* having possessed a phallus gives us a modicum of retained “essence” of male that makes even being attracted to us an indictment of one’s heterosexuality
Now, the heteropatriarchy soothes itself by insisting that “you can always tell”, because *insert some garbage about testosterone-driven puberty*, which means any man who finds a trans woman attractive must therefore also have known she was trans, so he must not be straight.
CW: violence

This becomes the source of much anti-trans violence...the man must then reclaim his heterosexuality by hurting (or murdering) the trans woman who caused this.

Now, enter a trans woman who never experienced a testosterone-driven puberty. Uh oh.
Allowing trans girls to skip puberty and testosterone essentially creates a constant fog of doubt and paranoia for straight men under heteropatriarchy.

Especially in a culture that, as we discussed earlier, hypersexualizes and obsesses over the bodies of teenage girls.
Earlier transitioning trans girls are also dangerous to certain classes of “feminists” who insist that “socialization” is why trans women cannot ever truly be women. After all, if someone socially transitioned as a child, skipped testosterone puberty, etc, that argument is moot.
Also...the deeply ironic thing is that heteropatriarchy PROFOUNDLY eroticizes & sexualizes trans women bc we exist at the intersection of a huge social taboo & heteropatriarchy’s central totem (the phallus). So while they’re terrified of us in public, they’re jerking off to us.
One last point to end this meandering thread:

Trans women and sex workers are natural allies because two sides of the same coin that threatens the heteropatriarchy that makes them the target of violence and oppression. One undermines heterosexuality, the other patriarchy’s power
Trans women represent an intrinsic threat to heteropatriachy’s rigid enforcement of its definition of heterosexuality.

Sex workers are an intrinsic threat to patriarchal power, which is ultimately rooted in men’s entitlement to sex and women’s bodies as they please.
There are certainly complications around the nature of capitalism and such that make this somewhat messier overall, but:

Sex workers have sexual agency in a way that disrupts male entitlement bc men must follow *her* directives to access her sexuality (or even some part of it).
Heteropatriachy tells men that sex is conquest, that they deserve simply by virtue of being men and wanting it. (And how dare a woman make them want it and then not want it!)

Sex workers take all the air out of that. There is no conquest, no taking. Only the price.
Anyhow, I think that’s quite enough of my pontificating.

If you like my words, consider throwing some bucks in my tip jar so I can some day not work a full-time abusive healthcare job?


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If the identity terms I use for myself offend you, I kindly invite you to Get Fucked.

Yes, I identify as transsexual, which I recognize as existing under the wider transgender umbrella. I identify this way because my experience of transness is rooted in physical dysphoria.
My needs as a trans woman centered around physical/medical transition. That is MY experience. Transsexual as an identity gives me space to both honor that specific experience and advocate for those needs.

It has *nothing* to do with having or needing bottom surgery to be trans
MANY trans women have reclaimed transsexual as an identity that they find affirming for their experiences.

Please don’t project *your* baggage with terminology onto others, or make ridiculous, facile assumptions about my beliefs based on a single word in my profiles
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Trans rights are not just for unobtrusive AFAB non-binary people and trans men who uphold traditional patriarchal paradigms

Being feminine & cis-passing has never gotten me any rights, just creepers, objectification, & accusations of “deception”

Smacks of femmephobia & misogyny
Trans women continue to be primary target of transphobic harassment, and the most vitriolic hate is reserved for us. That’s life under transmisogyny, and how pretty you are matters very little. Whiteness and wealth might protect a little.

But we are still villains, each of us.
Transmisogyny-exempt folk are written off as merely misguided...brainwashed by the Agenda.

Trans women are castigated as perverts, r*pists, deviants, & child-abusers...orchestrators of a grand sexual conspiracy to undermine society & ruin the youth

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I know I’ve said this before, but:

We are absolutely not prepared for the aftermath of the collective trauma experienced by healthcare workers during this pandemic.
My colleagues across functional areas and allied professions are so far beyond their limits. Not just doctors and nurses, but laboratory, radiology, respiratory therapy, transport, pharmacy, housekeeping, nutrition, physical plant, clerics, etc. It’s ALL OF US.
It’s also important to understand that most healthcare & hospital workers are women. Many are BIPOC and/or immigrants. Many of us are from poor/working class backgrounds bc healthcare was an accessible path to employment stability/benefits.

We’re people the world tends to ignore
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Unpopular opinion and rant time:

I don’t give a crap about whether a lawmaker displays the trans pride flag in their office. It’s a nice photo op, and a sign that we’re no longer *absolute* political poison pills. But, it’s a toothless milquetoast gesture.

What I DO care about:
-Does your office have trans people on its payroll?
-Are you actively pushing for a comprehensive LGBTQ civil-rights act?
-Are working to make healthcare and transition care available to every trans person?
-Are you working to address the rising violence against TWOC?
-Are you actually talking to trans people who don’t work for a national organization about what is important to us?
-Are you working to address the HORRIFIC treatment of trans women in prisons and immigrantion detention?
-Are you working for sex work decrim and SWer rights?
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Hey y’all,

I am genuinely curious...how many of you were “identified” as “gifted” at some point in K-12, but diagnosed with one or more learning/cognitive disabilities as an adult. Obviously, no need to participate if you don’t feel comfortable sharing.
I ask because I find myself really frustrated knowing so many of the things I struggled with, that I was made to feel were my personal failings, are things I have no control over, and maybe college would have sucked a lot less if I could have had support for disabilities.
I was ID’d as “profoundly gifted” when I was 7. I was in my mid twenties when I was diagnosed as autistic. Over the ensuing years, it’s been figured out that I also have sensory processing disorder, visual-spatial/visual-motor deficit, dysgraphia, and dyspraxia.
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Women, LGBT folks, and people of color have been talking for years about how “online hate” is the same thing as “real hate”. We’ve been telling you that the ultra-right are being taught to *enjoy* harming others in online spaces, and that it was breeding real world violence.
The Internet is not some walled-off, consequence free space. Whether someone is the target of a harassment/stalking campaign, being doxxed, being “swatted”, or being gunned down...the goal is the same: sadistic pleasure in harming marginalized people to feel powerful.
It’s time to confront the fact that right-wing political rhetoric is one of the roots of this problem. Cis straight white men have been indoctrinated to believe that they *belong* at the top, that anything less is discrimination, and any change is a direct assault on them.
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