Unless you're dating a woman in her early 20's, you have no time at all.
She wants a marriage yesterday and a baby today.
You have all the time in the world, but she doesn't. So everything is expedited in a mad rush to catch the tail end of her fertility window.
This is why the ancients married off women young.
Also why I think men who use up a woman's best years and then ditch her without marriage or children should be charged with some sort of crime. Honestly very bad for society. Those quality "we don't have to rush and can spend time enjoying each other" years are never coming back.
You meet and marry a woman at 20, you can fuck around like idiots going on vacations and being a couple until you're what, 25? Then start having kids. But what if you meet at 30? You going to get 5 years of pleasure and fun together before taking on that extra burden? Nah.
You'll be lucky to get 2 years of that. Your time together as a couple "before the kids" will be very slim. You will have few memories of what it was like to be a couple "before the kids came along" - it's really unfortunate and sad.
Remember this next time a woman says a man is a creep or a weirdo for wanting to date younger.
They never consider these things.
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Low self worth and agonising self pressure vs. supreme confidence and elegance in execution - both can (and often do) appear in the same person.
This is a seeming paradoxical contradiction at odds with itself until you realise the transmuted energy of the former is responsible for the exceptionality of the latter.
That is to say, it was only by so strongly hating their powerlessness and inability that they were able to cultivate the capacities that brought them their confidence - but this is fragile, and performance based as they never got rid of the psychological scaffolding (self-agonising) that got them there, and so if due to their very human limitations their performance dips or somehow despite their very best (super)human efforts they fail, they very quickly shift from elitistly self-assured to self-punishingly strivingly.
"What's the solution?"
I will be crude: stop trying to please your asshole parents. They're not gonna love you any deeper or more profoundly because you're successful or useful in some way. Love shouldn't have to be earned, but you were taught it is - that's why you're like this
The pursuit of excellence as the pursuit of validation from parents who can show you respect for competence, but never actually showed unconditional love
So you chase basic praise without knowing real warmth or affection
One of the greatest differences between a man and a woman, is when a man trains a woman to be exactly what he wants her to be, he loves her more for becoming his ideal, but when a woman trains a man to be exactly what she thinks she wants him to be, she loses respect for him, then disposes of him.
This is the difference between knowing what you want and leading, and falsely thinking you know what you want - and misleading.
Men are architects, women are saboteurs - even of their own dreams
Because to be an architect requires clarity of thought, vision and ambition in alignment.
And women, as the chaos bringing rather than order generating principle are incapable of that consistency
Unfit to lead.
This is why if a woman trusts her judgement more than she trusts yours - you have no business attempting to create anything with her
She is either so foolish she truly believes her judgement is on par with, if not superior to yours
A manβs vulnerability is sort of like spiritual porn to a woman, they get off to the connection, but feel disgusted in the aftermath. Itβs the desire for authenticity and connectivity (with the man) without the capacity to take responsibility for the full weight of his feelings.
Like you know how a young guy with no wisdom or maturity wants to have sex with the cute young girl, but canβt really handle the full weight of looking after?
Same here. Women want full spectrum shared spiritual emotional connection.
But canβt handle a man who breaks polarity.
Vulnerability outside the context of βI went through some bad shit and I conquered itβ or βIβm going through some bad shit but donβt worry Iβm a fucking warrior and will conquer all of itβ results in a polarity break. Loss of confidence? Polarity break. Despair? Polarity break.
Funniest thing about regular women is they call you evil when you give actual wisdom derived insight/ metaphysical analysis because their fragile egos can't appreciate nuance or handle the implications.
But if you sabotage them with ego affirmations they believe unquestioningly.
Which is actually why evil is more permeating and pervasive and the default and "stays winning"
Because it takes less skill, and there's less resistance to it
It literally takes 10x the skill to be a good, strong but ruthless man than just a straight up predator
And the thing is, all good men - in the real sense of the word - as in, could fuck your shit up and exploit you maximally against your best interest for their self-interest *BUT DOESN'T* functionally knows how to be a predator - they just choose not to be.
What do working out, *WINNING*, sex and getting paid all have in common for a man?
They make you feel powerful.
And it's crucial to a man's mental health to feel powerful. Regularly.
I believe this is the cure to depression in men. Depression in men = sense of powerlessness.
This is why men tend to be solutions focused rather than catharsis focused (though the latter does happen too) - just give them a way to feel powerful again, and you'll "fix them" - that's it. Being understood is great too, but it comes AFTER that, not BEFORE it.
Mainstream doesn't understand this, because mainstream is feminised to the point men are basically alien to them.
This is why it tries to apply female ways of doing things to male needs, and fails epically
The greatest lie the devil ever convinced you was that beauty is weakness, and ugliness is strength.
This is a widely believed illusion - a state of mass hypnosis almost, but it is functionally, archetypally untrue.
Being negative takes *ZERO* skill - so how can it be strength?
Just because some are more talented in the negative than others, as in, more creative and forceful with it, doesn't make them strong - makes them dangerous, yes, but not strong - dangerousness is not strength if we define strength as the capacity of a soul to resist impurity.
They are dangerous because they are influential, and because they can self-perpetuate the memeplex of destruction, because they are a chaos variable, but they are not strong, because they failed to preserve the inherent beauty they were born with, they let this world spoil them.