Power doesn’t extend free speech to marginalized groups. I have a friend who’s facing multiple forms of academic punishment including a year of delay in their studies for standing up to transphobia. Why? Because apparently vocal self-advocacy is “disrespectful.”
Those using slurs and spreading discriminatory views are constantly defended as merely exercising their free speech, but when marginalized people complain about their oppression, merely raising one’s voice becomes disrespectful, unprofessional aggression that warrants a sanction.
Power has structured freedom of expression around tone, ensuring that those who harm can get off scot-free so long as they dehumanize with a smile. But if you are rightfully angry towards those who harass, discriminate, and harm? That falls outside the purview of free speech.
That’s why I’m so cynical, skeptical, and distrustful about freedom of expression. Because even if marginalized groups intensely need it, its everyday deployment in society damn nearly only benefits power.
If you’re wondering what prompted my post, it’s this:
How nerdy are you? I can tell you race, class, spec, and profession of this character as well as which raid it’s from. I can also identify the classes of 19 of the 25 players, and I know the specs of a few of them. Might be 20, but I’m not sure about one of the icons.
Let's flex. From the spells we can tell it's a Tauren elemental shaman that plays engineering. War stomp on the bars, elemental-only spells, and there's boots, cloak, and belt in bar which means on-use engineering enchants.
The raid is easy. We can tell it's Twin Val'kyr fight from Trial of the Crusader in Wrath of the Lich King (2009), and it's in 25-person mode based on how many people there are in the raid frames.
And I think it’s so punny. It’s probing at ‘X’ gender markers, asking if they’re inclusive enough and why we don’t have access to more options. So the title is asking: why ‘X’?
But it’s also a reference to XY chromosomes, because the paper concludes that gender markers’ existence is fundamentally rooted in bioessentialism.
As I conclude: “There are no good gender markers, because gender markers will always be tainted by their cisnormative past. If we are committed to material equality, we must imagine a future without them.”
All this to say, my title is very punny and I’m very amused.
Polyamory taught me to pick apart jealousy and process it. Jealousy isn’t one thing, but a multitude.
Am I envious the other person is going on dates more than me? Am I feeling insecure about our relationship and fearful the person might leave me or deprioritize me?
Do I feel like they haven’t been going on dates with me enough and am resentful they’re going on dates with others instead? Do I feel possessive and like their having sex with others is making our sex less special or socially valued?
Jealousy comes in many forms and being able to pause and identify what it’s about is an immensely valuable skill in life, one that everyone should develop. Once you know where your feeling comes from, you can challenge it or communicate how your needs aren’t being met.
One thing I learned studying law is that a lot of what people do every day is illegal and much of our ability to live in society is predicated on the discretionary non-application of laws.
Now ask yourself: how scary would it be if people started religiously enforcing every single law against you? How quickly would your life crumble?
What if we add laws of sufficiently vague and case-by-case application that you need to go through a whole trial before the claim against you fails?
What if we add claims that are ludicrous enough to be rapidly dismissed—but not before you’ve sent tens of thousands of dollars?
Since my retweet got some very White Replies™, let’s retweet it again. White trans people have white privilege. Being trans doesn’t mean you stop being white.
And you know what? I sometimes get that emotional ‘oomph’ when people point to my white privilege. It’s something I’m actively working on, because I absolutely have it and having it detracts in no way from whatever hardship I may have experienced.
However much I may get shit for being trans, I don’t have to worry about facing racism and that’s significant. There’s nothing wrong with people mentioning that, and it’s not okay for me or others to try to minimize our white privilege because we feel attacked.
The first is that the Court confuses consent to puberty blockers and consent to hormone therapy. Though the latter often follows, it is independently consented to at a later time. Full knowledge of the latter shouldn't be required.
This confusion is related to a second issue, which is the Court's confusion as to the purpose of puberty blockers. Puberty blockers serve at least three purposes: (1) alleviate gender dysphoria, (2) prevent bodily changes that would have to be reversed, and (3) gives time.
It isn't one or the other - if blockers weren't about giving more time to the youth (a goal I disagree with), then we would just prescribe hormone therapy directly and skip over blockers. After all, waiting until 16 for hormones significantly delays puberty compared to peers!