When will you get married/Are you married?
Where are your kids/why don't you have kids?
Sometimes, these questions are honest. People are just too broken to have honest conversations and that is why they take offence.
Where are your kids/why don't you have kids?
Sometimes, these questions are honest. People are just too broken to have honest conversations and that is why they take offence.
I have heard answers like
- We are trying.
- I am unmarried. I have had 2 broken engagement and frankly, I guess I'm not looking forward to it anymore. I have a partner who loves me. That is enough.
It helped me understand their situation and hold the faith where necessary.
- We are trying.
- I am unmarried. I have had 2 broken engagement and frankly, I guess I'm not looking forward to it anymore. I have a partner who loves me. That is enough.
It helped me understand their situation and hold the faith where necessary.
There are weird instances of people who claim marriage is overrated and don't want to get married and those who say they don't want kids, take offence when you ask them why they aren't married/don't have kids
Simple answer - I don't want to get married/I don't want to have kids.
Simple answer - I don't want to get married/I don't want to have kids.
To take offence at a genuine question is a dishonest misstep. You deny people the truth but expect them to understand.
It is like asking a child why he isn't in school. Simple answer - I lost my parents/My folks can't afford the fees.
How can you understand if you don't know.
It is like asking a child why he isn't in school. Simple answer - I lost my parents/My folks can't afford the fees.
How can you understand if you don't know.
It is a normal human expectation and rite of passage that people get married and have kids. Their concern isn't always sinister. You can judge/blame them for judging your choices or mocking your situation when truth is known but you can't blame them for asking what, when and why.
You are not the only broken person and life crisis is not limited to marriage and childbirth. In the words of @Mrpossidez "every person wears an exaggerated version of themselves. Inwardly, we are mostly a series of self defeat."
Nobody has it all figured out. Life breaks everybody and those it doesn't break, it kills. People will never stop talking and being curious because it is the inevitable way of humans to live.
However, they will judge you less if they know why.
However, they will judge you less if they know why.
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