Reminder to anyone who thinks that autistic people just "have" to do X/Y/Z because the world is harsh and unwelcoming -
Accommodations in the workplace exist. "It's the world we live in" doesn't prevent us from trying to make a better one. Stop thinking this as a good reason.
Autistic people do not have to mask to make friends - we can make friends with other autistic people or neurodivergent people in general (and we often do). Be able to interact with others? Again, we can interact with other autistic people.
Asking autistic people to mask in order to get a job is essentially asking autistic people to mask for the rest of their lives while in that job.
Effectively you're saying I'd rather you have a job than have sound mental, emotional, and even physical health.
CW suicide
You're telling your kid that you'd rather them be miserable and have a job than need support and not have to mask.
"The world isn't perfect" doesn't mean "mold yourself to societal needs even if it comes with the cost of wanting to take your own life."
Don't do this.
And by the way, constantly adding in "but everyone has to do this, even neurotypicals" is pretty much sealioning because that is simply absolutely not true.
Society caters to neurotypical people.
Society does not cater to autistic people.
It's not the same.
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Reminder: Changing surface-level terms, using "autistic people" instead of "person with autism," doesn't make up for perpetuating myths about autistic people.
"many experience some level of difficulty with social-cognitive mentalizing, also known as 'theory of mind'" 1/13
"..understanding the early course of social-cognitive neurodevelopment may afford the best opportunity to mitigate the profoundly negative effects that social-cognitive differences can have on some autistic people." 2/13 scientificamerican.com/article/autism…
I'm also not a fan of the framing of "let's learn about autistic people so we can figure out how social attention works because they don't have it!" as if we're some fun commodities to be studied.
Not to mention that neurotypical people are crap at reading autistic people.. 3/13
Autistic kids who are "high achievers" (i.e. get good grades in school) are often seen by adults as more mature/loser to adults.
There are a few reasons for that. They may -
like talking to adults more than peers
like to talk intensely about topics
Have interesting insights 1/11
They may even prefer talking to teachers rather than students.
They may not like the sensory overwhelm of other students around them.
They may think about life more abstractly or seem to talk about "more mature" topics than peers. 2/11
They also probably notice adults around them treating them more like an adult because of how they act.
They may also want to people-please especially with adults and seek validation, so they may seem more "well-behaved" but that's actually from anxiety. 3/11
Alternative communication methods are not only for nonspeaking or minimally speaking autistic people.
Being "highly speaking" as an autistic kid does not mean "can express myself in words super clearly all the time even when nearing meltdown/shutdown"
Use typing/writing/etc 1/4
And it certainly doesn't mean "can easily label emotions and explain sensory sensitivities by speaking."
Being able to talk doesn't equal being able to explain everything at all times. For me, 70% of the information I wanted to get out was missing when I speak. 2/4
Email (where you can take time to read and reply without someone expecting you to talk immediately), AAC devices, writing, or typing on a keyboard/phone can be easier ways to talk about stressful subjects or about emotions. 3/4