1/6 - With regards to telling if you are speaking authentically:
2/6 - Listen to yourself talk, as if a stranger was talking. Try not to identify too much with what you are saying. Then, observe. See if what you are saying makes you feel stronger, physically, or weaker.
3/6 - If it makes you feel weaker, stop saying it. Try to reformulate your speech until you can feel the ground under your feet solidifying. Then practice only saying things that make you strong.
4/6 - Stop trying to use your speech to get what you want. You don’t necessarily know what you want. Instead, try to articulate what you believe to be true as carefully as possible. Then, accept the outcome.
5/6 - Assume that your truth, as lived and spoken, will produce the best possible outcome.
It’s an act of faith. But so is every other way of being.
6/6 - Tell the truth - or, at least, don't lie.
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My observation is that if there is a tight relationship and one party is betrayed by the other (falling in love with another person), it's almost always irreconcilable.
I've helped people try and struggle through that on both sides of the issue. The person who was betrayed and the person who did the betrayal.
People are often loath to figure out precisely where they are.
They don’t want to know because they’d rather be spread out, in a half-blind manner - in the fog - hoping that the place that they’re at is better than it is, and deluding themselves by remaining vague.
Rather than trying to figure out, “I’m right here, right now, with these specific problems”.
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