When you believe your girl is more important than you, you lean in to her subconsciously. By leaning in, you inadvertently reveal your feelings of inferiority. Women find this very unattractive. So don't do it. Stand up straight, gentlemen. Don't lean in!
THEY ARE NOW BROKEN UP
When you feel your bandmate is more important than you, you subconsciously lean in to him. By leaning in, you unintentionally reveal your artistic insecurities. Don't do that. Be proud of your musical accomplishments and stand up straight. Don't lean in!
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You can literally be British royalty, but if you believe your commoner wife is more important than you, you will lean in to kiss her in front of the entire world. By leaning in, you reveal that you aren't ready to be king of anything. Don't lean in!
A ROYAL MESS
Notice Harry's slumped shoulders and droopy eyes. Notice his head tilt. And notice Meghan's hand control. She is completely in control, completely in charge. Our bodies don't lie. Our bodies reveal much more than we realize. Don't be like Harry. Don't lean in!
REMEMBER HER FACE
That's the face of bitter disappointment. Disgust, even. She doesn't want to see your weak emotional side. She wants to see your strong confident side. Be her hero. Don't be her baby. Don't lean in!
"Her tits excite you. Your confidence excites her" –Rivelino
THEY ARE NOW DIVORCED
When you lean into your girl, you reveal psychological inferiority or worse, emotional neediness. Women find this unattractive. You must stay strong and vigiliant. Don't lean in!
"She loves you when you're strong. She leaves you when you're weak" –Rivelino
THEY ARE NOW DIVORCED
When you lean into your girl like a boy hugging his mom, what you are effectively communicating to her is "Please don't even leave me". Women find this very unattractive. You must stay strong, you must stay vigilant. Or you could find yourself dumped!
THEY ARE NOW DIVORCED
Notice the reverse polarity in this photo. She is standing tall and strong against the tree, and he is leaning into her with his body and tilting his head to touch hers. Also, look at how she's holding his hands in her hands. Three big polarity mistakes!
THIS IS NOT A JOKE
"Don't lean in!" is real advice for real men - and it really works. Our society today teaches men to be weak and submissive. My goal is to help men find their masculine strength and masculine frame. This helps men find LOVE. Green lines are just the beginning!
BEING A MAN IS NOT EASY
Your girl wants you to be powerful but also wants to steal your power. One way she will try to steal your power is by establishing hand control. You can't let her. You must always be in control of her hands, not the reverse. Don't give up hand control!
THEY WANT YOU WEAK
"In this image they are expressing the utmost comfort with one another" — No. In this image, he is being submissive to her. You can't trust what you read in magazines or see on TV. They want weak and docile men. Weak men are easier to control. Don't lean in!
LEANING IN IS NOT ABOUT SEX
Leaning in is about power – about who feels more powerful and who feels less powerful. One man will lean into another man if he feels the other man is more powerful than him. If you want to appear more powerful, don't lean into anybody!
DON'T LEAN IN
I used to think leaning in showed I loved her. And in a way, it does. I want to nurture her, adore her, give her everything. The problem is women invariably misinterpret this as low value behavior. When we lean in more than they do, they start taking us for granted
HE IS A MESS
His body is leaning in. His head is tilting away. Sexually, he wants her. Logically, he disapproves of her arrogance. His body and mind are at war. He is a mess. In contrast, notice how her head and body are aligned. She is centered. She is living in her own reality
THE WAY TO LOVE HER
Be her rock. Be her protector. Be her leader. Don't lean into her world. Bring her into your world. Focus on your mission. Make her work for your love and attention. Become higher value every day. The more success you have, the more you have to share with her
DON'T LOSE YOUR BALANCE
Look at the picture below. Remove him from the photo (bottom left), and she is still centered in her own reality. Remove her from the photo (bottom right), and he is off center, off balance. Don't lose your balance. Don't lean in!
THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE
Unfortunately, it's gettting harder to find the truth. They only print the truth when they try to ridicule and confuse men. But the truth about polarity and evolutionary psychology is hardwired in humans. The truth is inside us dailymail.co.uk/femail/article…
IS LEANING IN ABOUT HEIGHT?
"He leans in because he's taller" is what a lot of people say. A lot of people are wrong. Leaning in is not about height. It's about feeling important vs feeling insecure. Look at these two photos below. Is the taller person leaning in?
You need to look for women in general, learn how to talk to them, how to attract them, how to date them
Once you’re able to date lots of women, then you can start to compare and contrast them
That’s when you can start to see which girls are more modest, wholesome and trustworthy — and which girls are more vain, loud, self absorbed, superficial and attention seeking
One thing you will start to notice:
You probably won’t find a modest wholesome girl at a crowded dark place with loud music, drugs & alcohol
You are more likely to find a wholesome girl at a healthy daytime activity focused on self improvement
For example:
Tennis class
Ceramics class
Yoga class
Museum tour
Hiking trail
Language class
Cooking class
Weekend book fair
Farmer’s market
You are also more likely to find a wholesome girl doing “regular” daytime activities like:
Grocery shopping
Walking her dog
Walking home after work
Reading or studying at a cafe
Shopping for clothes
At night, you may find her at more upscale cultural activities, like:
University lecture or talk
Film festival
Poetry reading at a cafe
Book reading at a bookstore
Opera or ballet
Another important thing to realize. She probably won’t go out of her way to find you. You will probably need to find her and talk to her first
That’s your masculine burden — to go out and find her
Remember:
1-Her job is to look pretty
2-Your job is to talk to her
HOW TO MEET A GOOD WOMAN
One of the biggest mistakes I see beginners make is relying on dating apps to meet women
Dating apps are mostly a waste of time for men. They can be frustrating and demoralizing
Instead:
1-Develop a sexy hobby
2-Learn how to do cold approach
"The primary reason why women stop having sex with their husbands is because they don't feel emotionally safe, and the reason that they don't feel emotionally safe is because their attachment needs are not being met inside of the relationship.
Attachment needs are our deepest needs inside of a romantic relationship, and if those things are not fulfilled, we will not feel emotionally safe. And especially for women, when there is a lack of emotional safety, they start feeling very unsafe giving their bodies to their partner and they start to feel extremely unattracted to their partner. Like basically, they can't get physically turned on by their partners anymore."
–Sarah Hensley
My first comment, she's not entirely wrong
She is speaking "her truth", as some people like to say
So that's step one: really listening to what she is trying to say and getting the sense of whether she is being genuine and sincere or fake and artificial (or even deceitful and manipulative)
I feel she is being genuine in her intentions. That's important because that means that there could be something to learn from her
But let's go deeper
Listen to her voice, feel her energy
To me, she sounds anxious, tense, uptight. The word "shrill" comes to mind
She sounds the opposite of "emotionally safe"
She doesn't sound calm, relaxed, PROTECTED
Does she have a strong confident man in her life guiding her and protecting her?
It's almost as if she is making this video for herself
Men, if you don't have female friends and can't see yourself having female friends –– could this be because you see women as sex objects and not as regular people?
ASK RIVELINO
"Women have little of interest to offer a man other than sex."
That is the exact opposite of true. This just means you're evaluating women by male metrics
ASK RIVELINO
"My attention is like currency. I can't dish it out freely to random women."
This assumes that women have nothing of value to offer apart from sex. This is the same incorrect mindset as the previous man
The first time you have sex with her, you are auditioning for her
If you pass the audition, you get invited back for more sex
She holds most of the power before sex
Once you have sex with her, you now have much more power
Roissy had this saying, that you need to have sex with her three times before she truly bonds to you emotionally
I believe that it depends on the type of woman she is –– I feel there are five types of women –– but overall, I agree that having sex with her once is probably not enough to establish a strong emotional bond with her
"My gf (22f) said she is not sure of kids. She is shy, attractive, cooks very very nice and is very sweet. I love her. What should I do?"
I would guess that some or even most girls in their early 20s would say that they're "not sure" about having kids because the current cultural propaganda has got them all confused and disconnected from their feminine essence. It's tragic and frustrating
The best thing you can do is become more masculine in every sense: become wealthier, stronger, a better provider, a better protector, a better man. The more you grow in your masculine power, the more feminine you will make her feel. The more she feels protected by you, the more she will trust you, and the more likely that she will re-connect with her feminine desire to have children and to have a family
You didn't tell me how old you are and how long you've been together –– important details –– but generally speaking, I think it's normal for a young woman these days to need to grow into the idea of being a wife and mother. Most girls in their 20s want to focus on their career and want to "find themselves". Your challenge as the man is to guide her on the path to marriage and family. (This used to be the job of society overall, but not anymore. We are living in dark times)
Another related point, it's important to listen to your girl and to hear what she is saying and what she is trying to say –– but it's also important to realize that what she says at any moment is just what she happens to feel at that moment
David Deida talks about this a lot in his book The Way of The Superior Man, it's the most insightful explanation I've seen on this topic of female communication, female emotions and how for us men a woman's shifting values and priorities can be so frustrating and confusing
A good woman is very malleable to the influence of a good man. In fact, a good woman is *looking* for a good man to guide her on the path of life
She may not be fully aware of this need right now, but she is most probably aware that her own emotional world can be very chaotic and that your strong, steady, calming influence makes her feel less anxious and more safe
That's one reason I've talked so much about not blaming your girl for *anything*. Take all the blame. Always. Free her of this burden. Don't blame her, don't argue with her, don't make excuses, don't fall for her shit tests, don't let her temporary moods or even her accusatory words rattle you or bruise your ego
(This is why it's almost always better if the man is older than the woman, it usually means he is more mature and more in control of his own emotions)
You want to be the strong, steady, calming influence in her life. You want to be the man she ADMIRES. You want her to admire your strength, your wisdom, your maturity. She doesn't want to be able to rattle you, anger you, upset you, distract you –– especially when she gets angry or upset
She wants you to be her ROCK
The more emotional she gets, the more she wants you to stay calm. This is how you earn her trust, this is how you can start to guide her
Expect this process to take time
If you truly believe she's a good woman, be patient with her. She's only 22. If you do a great job of becoming a strong man and of earning her trust and she *still* doesn't want to have children in a few years, then maybe you need to let her go
Good luck and keep me posted
Rivelino cares 💚
My first post above talked about the "lighter" side of masculinity and femininity:
• You becoming stronger, protecting her, understanding her mood swings, her emotional needs and her communication style
• Her feeling increasingly safer with you, trusting you and letting you guide her
That's beautiful and extremely important. It's what love is all about
However, there's another important point, a warning about the "darker" side of female nature:
Be very careful about showing your girl too much of your profound, idealistic, long-term romantic intentions too soon (even if she is a sweet shy girl)
Here's the problem:
If you reveal to her that you are more "attached" to the relationship than she is, you could make her feel trapped or bored or you could even make her feel that she is too good for you
Without going too much into the controversial topic of hypergamy, it's enough to remember this concept, which I think I got from Todd V:
"If she knows the end of the movie, she doesn't want to watch the movie"
You CANNOT bore a female if you want to keep her
She needs a bit of drama and mystery in her life –– and you need to give her that
Not only that, she can't feel that she has totally domesticated you
You need to maintain a wild side, an edge, otherwise, she may start to get bored of you and annoyed by you
This is why I strongly recommend that every man get a SEXY HOBBY –– a hobby that displays his talents and has him constantly meeting new people
And here's the thing –– your woman *will* try to fully domesticate you, without even knowing why or even knowing that if she succeeds at fully domesticating you, she will admire you much less and not want to fuck you as often
This is a huge shit tests every married man faces, and many men fail this test, which is one of the main reasons why their sex life starts to go downhill
I hope this third point wasn't too vague. I will link below to one of my main essays about having a sexy hobby
I will also link below to Roissy's 16 Commandments. Read his essay carefully, it's deep and concise and covers a lot of key concepts that are important to keeping a long term relationship alive