This Susan Walsh blog post from 2010 was one of the inspirations for my SEXY HOBBY concept

"Only Four Words Stand Between You and the Girl of Your Dreams"
By Susan Walsh, March 26, 2010


Only Four Words Stand Between You and the Girl of Your Dreams
By Susan Walsh, March 26, 2010

Reader Steve wrote recently to request a post written specifically for the guys – What do women find sexy?

I’ve been thinking about it for a week or so, and the answer is not complicated. Women are sexually attracted to men who exhibit social dominance. What’s very complicated is the implementation of that objective. Many men have trouble knowing how to go about getting social dominance.

• How can I be confident with women if I don’t have a lot of experience with them?
• How can I compete with the guys who seem to naturally dominate a group like they were born to it?
• Does being socially dominant mean turning into an asshole?

Telling a guy to become socially dominant is not helpful. Mystery provided a lot of instructional material when he wrote the Mystery Method, but it’s outdated and has other limitations:

1. It was written for picking up women in bars and clubs, and it focused on short-term success, i.e. getting beautiful women into bed. There are many men who would like to meet a quality woman for a long-term relationship, and for them it’s beneficial to focus on day game and women who are not “hired guns.”

2. Mystery is a magician, and he perfected openers and routines using magic and card tricks. Today there’s nothing more pathetic than a guy in a bar whipping out a deck of cards or offering to read your palm.

3. Mystery Method also requires a lot of time in the field, a lot of resources, and a lot of practice getting rejected. It can be extremely effective, but let’s face it, most guys are not going to undertake a program of sarging in bars every night for months to pull off the kind of transformation that Neil Strauss did.

[Photo of Bobby Flay]

I’d been thinking this over and trying to come up with concrete, useful information to share with guys, but nothing was really getting cemented in my brain. Yesterday, I was flying home to Boston when I noticed that the TV screen in front of me was tuned to the Food Network. I know the cooking shows are wildly popular, but I haven’t ever watched any of them. There was an OK looking guy, nothing special, talking to the camera and assembling ingredients on a counter. Meh. He put some tuna steaks on a grill to sear, then picked up an onion in one hand and a chef’s knife in the other. He proceeded to dice that onion into perfect little squares in about 15 seconds. The knife flew so fast it was almost a blur. He then did the same thing with a bunch of celery. Then a cucumber. I was riveted.

Tingle.

This guy, Bobby Flay, was masterful. I know that there’s nothing special about dicing vegetables quickly. It’s basic training for cooks. But there was something about his body language, the way he held and wielded his tools, that was really hot. I put on my earphones and watched the rest of the show – God, he was sexy.

Next up was this clown:

[photo of Guy Fieri]

The minute I saw this head I knew he could never be sexy. I can’t even tell you how not my type this guy is. I watched him handle lamb loin chops with his catcher’s mitt hands. Then I watched him mix up a vinaigrette. Nuthin. Finally, he gently folded dough over caramelized pears to make a strudel. He lovingly tucked the ends under with those fat, beefy fingers.

Tingle.

It doesn’t matter what a guy looks like. Guy Fieri is proof of that. It doesn’t matter what he does for a living or in his spare time. What matters can be summed up in two words:

Passion.
Mastery.

In that order. This is what you need to be socially dominant. There are a million ways to accomplish this. It does not matter what you are interested in. What matters is that you absolutely love it. And that you are very, very good at it (or working to get very good at it). Once you have this in place, you must display and share your expertise to achieve dominance.

Mystery wrote about this as Demonstrating Higher Value than other men. You’re probably thinking “Give me a break, these guys are natural performers, they were super confident to begin with!”

That may be true.

What’s important is that their confidence (and their comfort) comes directly from their skill.

When I was in grad school, my roommate and I decided to throw a rager in the spring of our first year. We distributed about 200 invitations that said “Wicked. Party. Come.” There was one guy who everyone knew was really into music – kind of like John Cusack in High Fidelity. He’d worked in the record industry, and he offered to help make a mix.

He invited me over one night to choose some songs, and as I entered his room I saw about 40 linear feet of LPs. In modern day terms, that would be a couple of thousand CDs. I don’t know what his filing system was, but as we discussed possible choices, he went straight to each album and pulled it out. He really, really knew music. I distinctly remember thinking how HOT that was. He was suddenly so much hotter than he was in Econ! He knew it too – he was really on top of his game that night, and he pounced, haha.

(Reader, I married him.)

Did you know that pregnant women often get crushes on their male OBs? And that mothers of newborns find male pediatricians adorable? It’s a cliche that every university has some old goat professor who has a way of seducing students. And female patients often crush on their male therapists (contrary to popular belief, this is not transference).

Women find it intoxicating when a man derives authority through mastery.

However, just being an expert is not enough. If you’re amazing at World of Warcraft, but the only people who know it are other guys online, it really isn’t going to help you get chicks. You must find a way to display your skill, a way to strut your stuff in front of women. Again, it doesn’t matter what you love to do, what matters is that you find a way to share what you know.

Display.

Some interests are easier to display than others. If you’re into fly fishing, that’s a cool thing to talk about on a date, but you’ll have to find a woman who loves the outdoors to demonstrate your expertise. Still, your passion and mastery can be communicated in conversation, and you can present authority that way.

Anything can be sexy. I’ve personally observed men achieve social dominance via the following interests:

• collecting Mission-style antiques/junk
• frisbee
• U.S. Presidents
• political activism
• brewing own beer
• playing guitar (Duh, you can get away with this even if you’re broke as a joke.)

Of course, not everyone will be equally enchanted by the brew you haul out of your bedroom closet. Which brings me to the last crucial ingredient:

Compatibility.

You need to identify and meet like-minded people. Once you have figured out what you like, and worked on getting good at it, you need to find people who like the same thing. OK, fly fishing might be tough. So join the Appalachian Mountain Club and go on some group hikes. A woman who loves the outdoors will probably be thrilled to fantasize about standing in a cold Montana river as you show her how to bounce the fly on top of the water.

If you can meet women who share your interests, you can also benefit from social proof as they witness the respect you command from others in that particular community.

This bears repeating: It does not matter what you are interested in! A poetry slam, acting in community theater, old books, quarks, jazz, hoops.

If you can find a way to include a woman in your interest, you will earn serious cred by virtue of your expertise.

Passion. Mastery. Display. Compatibility.

It sounds like a lot, I know. But the truth is, women respond to social dominance, not specific subject matter. If you can find a way to share what makes you tick, you will exude confidence, and you will get laid, er, I mean, female attention.

Girls, what do you think? Have you ever thought a guy was hot because he was really good at something?

Guys, does this make sense? Does it feel “doable?”

ASK RIVELINO

"If you have a sexy profession like pilot or firefighter, then do you need a sexy hobby?"

As a man, what you need is LEADS, and what you need is a durable robust SYSTEM for getting leads

A man without leads is a man who is dying

Some more thoughts on this...

https://twitter.com/BowTiedPhRaptor/status/1915818902912668035

On the importance of leads and having a SEXY HOBBY

1-A man without leads is a man who is dying. He is like a shark that needs to swim to breathe

2-If you're single and you don't have leads, you're fucked. If you're in an LTR and you don't have leads, you're also fucked

Perfect example of failing the green line test and what it means

1-He makes all the effort for the kiss

2-She makes zero effort apart from accepting the kiss

https://twitter.com/miguelpolop/status/1913337112671244541

3-When you make all the effort and she makes zero effort, you are subconsciously telling yourself — and subconsciously telling her — that her validation means more to you than your validation means to her

She fell for his strong frame
"He smoked around me, even though I expressed how uncomfortable it made me feel."

DISAGREEABLE MAN

Matthew McConaughey expands his green line aura. Ryan Holiday shrinks his green line aura

Be like Matthew RSD Tyler said you want to walk through the world with ease

I think that’s a good expression and concept

You want to be fun, playful, relaxed, radiating your beautiful masculine aura out into the world without fear or doubt

That’s the goal

When a woman gives off the appearance of being helpless, that helplessness can actually be sexy and attractive to men

When a man gives off the appearance of being helpless, that is massively repulsive to everybody I’m not saying don’t ask for help

In fact, most men should ask for help more often

(One of the bigger mistakes I made in my teens and 20s was not asking for enough help because I felt ashamed for needing anyone’s help)

If you’re looking for a woman to marry and have kids with, you have three groups of women to choose from:

18-24

25-29

30-35 18-24: This group contains the women who have the most youthful beauty and the healthiest emotional upbringing

25-29: Most women in this group have less youthful beauty and also more emotional baggage

30-35: This group is the least beautiful and the most emotionally damaged

Women who are both pretty and emotionally healthy usually find love in their 20s, even in their early 20s

They get taken off the market and rarely come back on

If you're a man in your 30s or 40s and you're looking to date women in their 30s, you'll find that most women fall into one of three categories

• Pretty but emotionally damaged
• Emotionally healthy but not pretty
• Not pretty and emotionally damaged (the worst)

So whatever category of woman you choose, you end up compromising. And this is because you wasted your 20s banging sluts instead of looking for a good woman

The lesson: GET MARRIED YOUNG Pretty good job by @grok

HOW TO STOP THE CLAW
This brunette tries to face claw the Donald but he is too smart. Green Line Theory comes to life!

Excellent find by @AsaadKundo

https://twitter.com/AsaadKundo/status/1897379303542985025

OBAMA gets face clawed
TRUMP stops the face claw

Green Line Theory: Body Language Rules for Men

SINGLE WOMAN
at 23: All the guys want her
at 33: Many guys want her
at 43: Old guys want her
at 53: Her cats want her

MARRIED WOMAN
at 23: Her husband loves her
at 33: Her husband & baby love her
at 43: Her husband & kids love her
at 53: Her husband, kids & grandkids love her More Wisdom 💚

https://twitter.com/alpharivelino/status/1638490799305289728

A woman cheating on you is like a dog biting you

There are almost always CLUES that you missed

https://twitter.com/alpharivelino/status/1647151478673637376

Not only clues that you missed, but also

• things you did to PROVOKE

• things you didn’t do to PREVENT

“Every couple is happily married until they get divorced.”

–Rivelino I believe in love and marriage 1000%, just to be clear

A beautiful marriage and a beautiful family is one of the pinnacle achievements of life and one of the crucial foundations for a strong healthy society

If you’re blackpilled on women and marriage, I’m sorry and I understand your pain and heartache

I’ve been divorced and I’ve gone through several periods of heavy anger and cynicism towards women

But there is a way out of the blackpill — and it’s not by listening to other bitter blackpill men

The way out requires wisdom, courage, a ton of hard work, a certain amount of luck — and it requires you to believe in love again

If you don’t believe in love, you won’t find it

The world is what you think it is

The girl is your mirror (credit: Tom Torero)

If you think all women are cold hearted manipulators, your life experiences will prove you right, again and again

You need to believe that good women exist if you want to attract them into your world

Love requires a scary leap of faith — and not just once, several times

If you don’t take that leap, if you don’t take that risk, you WILL get stuck on the wrong side of love

On the black pill, bitter, angry side

Now, you can take that leap with a full heart, with courage and hope, and also fail — and that’s just one of the incredibly tricky things about women and love

Good will and faith is not enough

But it’s required

Rivelino cares 💚

Tattoo on her arm

She will do you harm Tattoo on her leg

She will make you beg

The makeup industry is destroying our young women
ASK RIVELINO

“Yea it’s crazy how makeup never comes off once you put it on. Such a permanent decision.”

The makeup industry is destroying the self esteem of young women

And women with lower self esteem are often more sexually promiscuous

Psychological damage + sexual damage

1-A happy marriage is the best predictor of overall happiness

or

2-Overall happiness is the best predictor of a happy marriage

Which is it?

https://twitter.com/swipewright/status/1871463324715790517

The answer is much more 2 than 1

To get in a “happy marriage” and especially to STAY in a “happy marriage” for more than five years, you as a man need to have almost all of the fundamentals nailed down

Julie is right. It's the job of men to protect women

EVERYTHING is the fault of men. Nothing is the fault of women

If you think women are responsible for themselves, then you are a de facto feminist

"She is like a child." –Rivelino If you want to think in terms of the traditional view of women, think of Don Vito Corleone

If you want to think in terms of the feminist view of women, think of someone pro-pornography like Jon Ronson

Women don’t need a sexy hobby, but a woman who has a deep understanding and mastery of nature and animals, that’s beautiful

https://twitter.com/beyoncegarden/status/1862953679222870195

If a man had that level of bee mastery, that would be a SEXY HOBBY

In other words, he could be a 6 to a woman, and then she finds out he is a bee master, and all of a sudden he is now an 8 in her eyes

6 + Bee Master = 8

Low achieving men don't build, they just have vices

Passive vices, wasteful vices, cowardly vices

Then they get angry at women and say stupid things like "Women just wait at the finish line!"

When it's their own fault they didn't build anything great

Didn't even try Build something great

Do it for yourself, or do it to gain the admiration of women

It almost doesn't matter what your initial motivation is

Just start building

Building is how we feed our soul

If you’re stupid, you judge girls on a hotness scale

If you’re smart, you judge girls on a quality scale HOTNESS
-Lots of makeup
-Tits popping out
-Showing a lot of skin

QUALITY
-Naturally pretty
-Modest clothing
-Graceful and classy

High IQ introverted men need to stop studying philosophy and start studying PICKUP OUT
-Plato
–Kant
–Nietzsche
–Russell

IN
–Mystery
–Lovedrop
–Roissy
-Todd V

If you're Brazilian and want to understand green line theory better, @jazzvillany is doing a great job explaining it in Portuguese

This is a great thread:

https://x.com/jazzvillany/status/1865090772615225746

https://x.com/jazzvillany/status/1865091619742974333