FOR BEGINNERS

Looking for “a good woman” is a mistake

You need to look for women in general, learn how to talk to them, how to attract them, how to date them

Once you’re able to date lots of women, then you can start to compare and contrast them

That’s when you can start to see which girls are more modest, wholesome and trustworthy — and which girls are more vain, loud, self absorbed, superficial and attention seeking

One thing you will start to notice:

You probably won’t find a modest wholesome girl at a crowded dark place with loud music, drugs & alcohol

You are more likely to find a wholesome girl at a healthy daytime activity focused on self improvement

For example:

Tennis class
Ceramics class
Yoga class
Museum tour
Hiking trail
Language class
Cooking class
Weekend book fair
Farmer’s market

You are also more likely to find a wholesome girl doing “regular” daytime activities like:

Grocery shopping
Walking her dog
Walking home after work
Reading or studying at a cafe
Shopping for clothes

At night, you may find her at more upscale cultural activities, like:

University lecture or talk
Film festival
Poetry reading at a cafe
Book reading at a bookstore
Opera or ballet

Another important thing to realize. She probably won’t go out of her way to find you. You will probably need to find her and talk to her first

That’s your masculine burden — to go out and find her

Remember:

1-Her job is to look pretty
2-Your job is to talk to her HOW TO MEET A GOOD WOMAN

One of the biggest mistakes I see beginners make is relying on dating apps to meet women

Dating apps are mostly a waste of time for men. They can be frustrating and demoralizing

Instead:

1-Develop a sexy hobby
2-Learn how to do cold approach

Do you see the difference? ASK RIVELINO

"I guess you always have to be in the middle of the picture."

Nobody told that to Robert Kraft

Here's her main point:

"The primary reason why women stop having sex with their husbands is because they don't feel emotionally safe, and the reason that they don't feel emotionally safe is because their attachment needs are not being met inside of the relationship.

Attachment needs are our deepest needs inside of a romantic relationship, and if those things are not fulfilled, we will not feel emotionally safe. And especially for women, when there is a lack of emotional safety, they start feeling very unsafe giving their bodies to their partner and they start to feel extremely unattracted to their partner. Like basically, they can't get physically turned on by their partners anymore."

–Sarah Hensley My first comment, she's not entirely wrong

She is speaking "her truth", as some people like to say

Men, if you don't have female friends and can't see yourself having female friends –– could this be because you see women as sex objects and not as regular people? ASK RIVELINO

"Women have little of interest to offer a man other than sex."

That is the exact opposite of true. This just means you're evaluating women by male metrics

The first time you have sex with her, you are auditioning for her

If you pass the audition, you get invited back for more sex She holds most of the power before sex

Once you have sex with her, you now have much more power

ASK RIVELINO

"My gf (22f) said she is not sure of kids. She is shy, attractive, cooks very very nice and is very sweet. I love her. What should I do?"

I would guess that some or even most girls in their early 20s would say that they're "not sure" about having kids because the current cultural propaganda has got them all confused and disconnected from their feminine essence. It's tragic and frustrating

The best thing you can do is become more masculine in every sense: become wealthier, stronger, a better provider, a better protector, a better man. The more you grow in your masculine power, the more feminine you will make her feel. The more she feels protected by you, the more she will trust you, and the more likely that she will re-connect with her feminine desire to have children and to have a family

You didn't tell me how old you are and how long you've been together –– important details –– but generally speaking, I think it's normal for a young woman these days to need to grow into the idea of being a wife and mother. Most girls in their 20s want to focus on their career and want to "find themselves". Your challenge as the man is to guide her on the path to marriage and family. (This used to be the job of society overall, but not anymore. We are living in dark times)

Another related point, it's important to listen to your girl and to hear what she is saying and what she is trying to say –– but it's also important to realize that what she says at any moment is just what she happens to feel at that moment

David Deida talks about this a lot in his book The Way of The Superior Man, it's the most insightful explanation I've seen on this topic of female communication, female emotions and how for us men a woman's shifting values and priorities can be so frustrating and confusing

A good woman is very malleable to the influence of a good man. In fact, a good woman is *looking* for a good man to guide her on the path of life

She may not be fully aware of this need right now, but she is most probably aware that her own emotional world can be very chaotic and that your strong, steady, calming influence makes her feel less anxious and more safe

That's one reason I've talked so much about not blaming your girl for *anything*. Take all the blame. Always. Free her of this burden. Don't blame her, don't argue with her, don't make excuses, don't fall for her shit tests, don't let her temporary moods or even her accusatory words rattle you or bruise your ego

(This is why it's almost always better if the man is older than the woman, it usually means he is more mature and more in control of his own emotions)

You want to be the strong, steady, calming influence in her life. You want to be the man she ADMIRES. You want her to admire your strength, your wisdom, your maturity. She doesn't want to be able to rattle you, anger you, upset you, distract you –– especially when she gets angry or upset

She wants you to be her ROCK

The more emotional she gets, the more she wants you to stay calm. This is how you earn her trust, this is how you can start to guide her

Expect this process to take time

If you truly believe she's a good woman, be patient with her. She's only 22. If you do a great job of becoming a strong man and of earning her trust and she *still* doesn't want to have children in a few years, then maybe you need to let her go

Good luck and keep me posted

Rivelino cares 💚 My first post above talked about the "lighter" side of masculinity and femininity:

• You becoming stronger, protecting her, understanding her mood swings, her emotional needs and her communication style

• Her feeling increasingly safer with you, trusting you and letting you guide her 

That's beautiful and extremely important. It's what love is all about

However, there's another important point, a warning about the "darker" side of female nature:

Be very careful about showing your girl too much of your profound, idealistic, long-term romantic intentions too soon (even if she is a sweet shy girl)

Here's the problem:

If you reveal to her that you are more "attached" to the relationship than she is, you could make her feel trapped or bored or you could even make her feel that she is too good for you

Without going too much into the controversial topic of hypergamy, it's enough to remember this concept, which I think I got from Todd V:

"If she knows the end of the movie, she doesn't want to watch the movie"

You CANNOT bore a female if you want to keep her

She needs a bit of drama and mystery in her life –– and you need to give her that

Not only that, she can't feel that she has totally domesticated you

You need to maintain a wild side, an edge, otherwise, she may start to get bored of you and annoyed by you

This is why I strongly recommend that every man get a SEXY HOBBY –– a hobby that displays his talents and has him constantly meeting new people

And here's the thing –– your woman *will* try to fully domesticate you, without even knowing why or even knowing that if she succeeds at fully domesticating you, she will admire you much less and not want to fuck you as often

This is a huge shit tests every married man faces, and many men fail this test, which is one of the main reasons why their sex life starts to go downhill

I hope this third point wasn't too vague. I will link below to one of my main essays about having a sexy hobby

I will also link below to Roissy's 16 Commandments. Read his essay carefully, it's deep and concise and covers a lot of key concepts that are important to keeping a long term relationship alive

At the club vs the morning after

https://twitter.com/alpharivelino/status/1730175796172448116

Tits out. Tongue out. Pussy facing the world. Kissing a dog

Is this who we want as a role model for young women?

https://twitter.com/alpharivelino/status/1765865899473424640

THE CLAW

"She grabs your neck when you lost her respect." –Rivelino

When a woman loves and admires you, she wants to belong to you. She wants to feel your masculine strength as the shield that protects her from danger. She keeps her hands low on your body, around your waist, out of feminine deference for your power

When a woman starts to lose respect for you, she will start to grab your neck and shoulders, putting her hands high up on your body, the same way a mother handles and controls her small children

Here's an example of Gisele grabbing Tom Brady by the neck with BOTH hands

They are no longer together In this thread, I talk more about THE CLAW and other mistakes that men make when posing for photos with their girlfriends

https://x.com/alpharivelino/status/1754214662076235776?s=20

TOM BRADY'S FIVE MISTAKES

Tom Brady is a legendary football player, but being an alpha at your career doesn't automatically make you an alpha at home. Tom made five key mistakes that doomed his marriage with Gisele

1–TOM CHOSE AN ALPHA FEMALE
Tom chose to marry an alpha female who had more money, power and fame than him. A woman will always compare your power to her power. If she is more powerful than you, why does she even really need you around? I mean, she may love your companionship and your affection, and you may even be the father of her children –– all huge factors in your favor –– but ultimately for a woman, POWER is what she respects the most. If she is wealthier than you and more famous than you, she may start to feel that you are not good enough for her. This is especially true if you also make the other four mistakes that Tom made

2–TOM GOT DISTRACTED
Tom didn't put his mission first, which is what a man needs to do in order for his woman to admire him. He was tricked into feeling guilty for wanting to continue playing football. Gisele pressured him to retire and he fell for her shit test. Now, a man absolutely needs to balance his career with being a good husband and father, but again, when you choose to marry a powerful alpha female, she will be more forceful in criticizing you and wanting to get her way. She will challenge your leadership more forcefully because she has more power to challenge you

3–TOM DIDN'T SET BOUNDARIES
Tom didn't set proper boundaries and limitations with Gisele. For example, after they got married, Tom started wearing trendy ridiculous outfits to social events. I'm sure these outfits were picked out by Gisele. A woman will start to lose respect for you if she can manipulate you to the point that she controls what you wear. I don't think Gisele wasn't purposely trying to make Tom look like a fashion victim. She just has bad taste since she has worked in the fashion industry for so long. Regardless, Tom looked foolish and that's not her fault, that's HIS fault. How can you lead your wife if you can't even dress yourself?

4-TOM LET GISELE DISRESPECT HIM
When a woman starts to disrespect her man publicly, that's when you know the end is near. When you let her disrespect you and you don't punish her, she loses even MORE respect for you and it's a downward spiral. For example, in a March 2021 video interview with a Brazilian journalist Pedro Bial, Gisele literally ambushed Tom solely to embarrass him. Gisele and Pedro called Tom "Giselo" and they laughed at him. It was brutal

5-TOM LEANED INTO GISELE IN PHOTOS
Green lines don't lie. We have photos of Tom leaning in and Gisele leaning away from 2018 and possibly earlier. One of the main goals of green line theory is to help men gain higher levels of self awareness about their own emotional state and the emotional state of their woman

Most men are good, genuine, caring, romantic men, and we want our marriages to work out, especially if we have kids together. For a good man, the mother of his children is the most important woman in the world, and that's beautiful. But love is a tricky thing, and this feeling can ironically backfire on us because that feeling can make us start to act needy, clingy or anxious if the relationship starts to have fights, arguments and deeper struggles –– and so we may start to lean, both figuratively and literally

But a woman doesn't want a man who leans into her world. She wants a strong confident man who magically and effortlessly pulls her into his world. When you as the man start leaning into her, she may start to feel trapped and she may start to feel that you are weak and insecure. This is very unattractive to women –– even if you are Tom Brady

6-CONCLUSIONS
When it comes to keeping love alive and keeping our marriages strong & healthy, we must be eternally vigilant. We must protect our relationships from external enemies and against internal sabotage. This is one of the trickiest things about love. Love is a powerful force but love is also fragile and easy to destroy if we make some crucial mistakes. The Tom Brady and Gisele divorce is proof of this

For years now, I've gotten the strong sense that Tom Brady is a good man with good values. But for years now, I've also gotten the strong sense that Tom was in over his head in his marriage to a very powerful ALPHA FEMALE, and sadly, from seeing all of his mistakes and the end of their marriage, this seems to be the case

Some guys might say that Tom can easily date another beautiful women, or that he can "upgrade" to a younger woman, but these men are cynical and bitter and completely miss the point. Love, marriage and family is the way forward, and any time a family breaks up, this is a tragedy for the kids, for the parents and for society

Hopefully Tom will read this essay, realize his mistakes, realize the importance of green line theory, and come out of this better and stronger

Also, I hope that next time Tom will choose a nice sweet shy girl instead of a famous supermodel or actress

Women are beautiful adorable creatures but the more a woman loves being the center of attention, the more difficult she will be to guide and protect

And the most important person to protect her from is from herself and her own worst instincts

Love you, Tom. You're a legend

Rivelino cares 💚 ASK RIVELINO

“It's OK. Tom can replace Gisele with a 22-year old model. He'll be fine.”

Just because a man is famous doesn’t mean he can’t get his heart broken

The superficial beauty of a 22 year old fashion model could never replace the depth and richness of a 13 year relationship with the mother of your children. The shared memories and experiences, the growing vulnerability, intimacy and trust, the little rituals and daily habits and quirks, the future dreams and hopes of building a life together –– the future moments lost

Starting over with someone new is extremely hard and gets harder after every additional failure. The more we fail at love, the harder it can be to trust someone new. Our hearts begin to shut down in order to protect ourselves from further pain. Life becomes more about basic survival than about big dreams

(This is how people become bitter and cynical –– and bitterness is the death of life)

Being wealthy and famous like Tom Brady has many advantages but also some big disadvantages. For example, it must be difficult for him to trust new people and give them access to his private life

Only a jealous foolish man would think that Tom Brady could easily replace the mother of his children with another woman

Furthermore, any time a family breaks up it’s a tragedy. For the kids, for the parents, for society

Boys without fathers are more destructive, girls without fathers are more promiscuous. Divorce has major repercussions for all of society –– like throwing a stone into a lake

She wants a wild man but then she tries to domesticate him — and if she succeeds, then she doesn’t want him anymore Remember: if you allow your wife to fully domesticate you, that’s your fault

Always stay a little bit WILD, a little bit unpredictable, a little bit mysterious

When you get lazy and boring and predictable, that’s when you start to lose her

When you do everything she tells you to do, that’s when you start to lose her

When you don’t establish fair, respectful and appropriate boundaries on *her* behavior, that’s when you start to lose her

Can you see her head leaning away or do I need to draw the green lines?

If her head is leaning away — you have work to do

https://twitter.com/alpharivelino/status/1757115617524498693

MASCULINITY 101:
How To Sit In A Chair

Don’t sit with cock shame, like Antony Blinken

Sit with cock confidence, like Hakan Fidan

COCK SHAME
When a man is afraid to point his cock to the world, he has cock shame. He is afraid that his cock is too small and not worthy of admiration or respect. He is afraid that the world is too dangerous for him and that he will get hurt so subconsciously protects his cock and balls with his hands. A man with cock shame is an insecure weak man and should not be trusted

COCK CONFIDENCE
When a man feels secure in his masculine strength, he sits with his hands at his side and confidently points his cock to the world. He knows his cock is his life force and worthy of admiration. He knows his cock will guide him to unlimited success, wealth and power. A man with cock confidence is a strong man who will not betray his values

#greenlinetheory This is a man sitting with cock shame. He instinctively covers up his cock and balls because he is timid and insecure

BODY LANGUAGE POP QUIZ

How many differences can you spot between photo 1 and photo 2?

Tell me in the comments

In my very first green line thread from May 2020, the first instructions I gave to men was "don't lean in!"

https://x.com/alpharivelino/status/1256697210936463362?s=20

HOW TO POSE FOR A PHOTO WITH YOUR GIRL:
Here are 10 things to remember

Initially, you may have trouble remembering all of them, but over time it will become second nature HOW TO POSE WITH YOUR GIRL
1-Stand up straight. Don’t lean into her
2-Keep your head straight. Don’t tilt your head towards her

Strong body. Weak mind ASK RIVELINO

“What do the green lines mean?”

The green lines represent the angle of your posture in the photo. They are a visual representation of your body language. As a man, when you pose for a photo with your girl, you want to stand up straight with your body straight and your head straight. This is represented by a solid green line. When you stand up straight, you give your girl the opportunity to lean into you and feel your masculine strength. This is healthy and attractive male-female sexual polarity

When posing for a photo with your girl, don’t lean into her. Leaning into her is a dotted green line and is very likely to be interpreted by her as being needy, weak and unattractive. Maybe consciously or maybe subconsciously. Body language communication often works in terms of feelings, and women are very sensitive and perceptive to what feelings their environment makes them feel

When you stand up straight and let your girl lean into you, you have passed the green line test

When you lean into your girl, you have failed the green line test. And if she leans away from you, then you have *really* failed the test

Don’t lean in!

LEFT: Green line test passed
RIGHT: Green line test failed

#greenlinetheory

#greenlinetest

Leaning in + face claw = this is NOT going to last

#greenlinetheory ASK RIVELINO

"What is the face claw?"

LEFT: When she grabs your face to kiss you, it's not romantic, it's dominant

RIGHT: If anything, you should be holding her face to kiss her, like in The Princess Bride

ASK RIVELINO

"When does a man peak in the dating market?"

A man peaks from 27-35

EXAMPLE

If you want some proof, take the fourteen NFL QBs that made the playoffs this year

Average age?

28

Football is a popular sport because it's designed to closely resemble war, and the QB is the field general

DATA

NFL Playoffs 2023-2024: QBs and their age

Lamar Jackson 27
Brock Purdy 24
Joe Flacco 38
CJ Stroud 22
Tua Tagovailoa 25
Patrick Mahomes 28
Dak Prescott 30
Jordan Love 25
Jared Goff 29
Matthew Stafford 35
Josh Allen 27
Mason Rudolph 28
Baker Mayfield 28
Jalen Hurts 25

=391 / 14

= 27.9 Playing sports challenges and forges a young man in five ways

• physical
• mental
• emotional
• strategic
• social

This is why Western society used to give so much importance to the "scholar athlete"

Sports is way more than just physical exercise

https://x.com/theoccasian/status/1746654403266847193?s=20

Don't believe the manosphere fairy tale that men peak in their 40s

In the dating market, men peak from 27-35

After 35, men have a much harder time attracting peak women (18-25)

If you're in your 30s, stop chasing sluts and start looking for a good woman

Before it’s too late We tell ourselves we are the logical ones and women are the emotional ones and then we write stuff like this

https://twitter.com/integrity824/status/1738609482824024253

ASK RIVELINO

"What is the green line test?"

When you pose for a photo with your girl, don't lean into her. That is needy and reactive. Keep your head and body straight. This is masculine

LEFT PHOTO: Green line test failed
RIGHT PHOTO: Green line test passed

#greenlinetheory

ASK RIVELINO

"What is the Claw?"

The Claw is when a woman puts her hand on her man's shoulder or up near his neck. The Claw is a domination move by her –– VERY BAD. A submissive woman's hands should be lower, around his waist

L: Leo getting clawed
R: Daniel not getting clawed

GREEN LINE THEORY 101
by Rivelino

I started drawing green lines on celebrity couples photos and posting these photos on Twitter in May 2020. I did this to help men see that they should be standing up straight and not leaning into their girlfriends/wives

For men, standing up straight in photos is important for two main reasons:

• A man should trust himself. He should trust his own strength and believe in his mission and in his capabilities to achieve his ambitions. He should not be "reactive" to those around him. Trusting himself means standing up straight. Being reactive means leaning into others around him. Our bodies reveal more than we realize. Leaning in reveals doubts and insecurities. Standing up straight displays self-confidence

• A woman wants to lean into her man and feel his masculine strength. She wants to rely on him and feel that he is her rock, her protector, her leader in this dangerous and uncertain world. One of the greatest gifts you can give your woman is giving her the gift of leaning into you. In fact, if you don't give her this gift she may start to doubt your ability to be her leader and protector. If you lean into her, she may start to feel "trapped" and start to feel that you are needy and weak. This can begin to subconsciously undermine her attraction for you. She doesn't want to be with a weak and needy man. She may start looking to replace you with a stronger man, a man who stands up straight

THE STRAIGHT GREEN LINE

When a man stands up straight, his green line is straight. You can draw the green line from his forehead between his eyes down to his balls, and his green line will be straight. This is good for you and good for your woman. This is consistent with healthy masculinity and healthy femininity, also called "male-female polarity"

THE ANGLED GREEN LINE

When a man leans into his girl, his green line is angled. This is bad because this reveals that the man is NOT standing up straight and that he may be subconsciously transmitting neediness and weakness to his woman (women are extremely sensitive to their surroundings)

Plus, visually he looks weak to the people around him and in the photo. And as we know, society has no need for weak men. The man who leans into his woman is hurting himself, damaging his masculinity and hurting his relationship

Standing up straight and not leaning in is the core concept of green line theory

THE GREEN LINE TEST

When a man stands up straight and his woman leans into him, this is a good sign that this couple has healthy male-female polarity. When his green line is straight and her green line is angled towards him, this is healthy and beautiful. This couple has PASSED the green line test

When the man is leaning into his woman –– his green line is at an angle –– and her green line is straight or worse, angled away from him, this is a BAD SIGN that their male-female polarity is off. This couple has FAILED the green line test and may be in danger of breaking up

(If you want to see a disturbing example of reverse male-female polarity, check out the infamous Will Smith-Jada Pinket photo, it's 100% backwards and sad to look at. They failed the green line test and I worry that Will is in a bad situation)

ADVANCED GREEN LINE THEORY

In addition to standing up straight and not leaning in, green line theory has more advanced concepts which are also important:

• the claw (a female domination move)
• cock shame vs cock confidence
• cock facing the world vs cock facing the pussy
• pussy facing the world vs pussy facing her man (also known as "untamed pussy vs tamed pussy")
• hand shame vs hand confidence
• hand control
• thumb control
• tongue sluts (a degenerate act)
• eye shame
• head shame
• feet shame
• teeth shame

THE GREEN LINE THEORY BOOK

One of my goals for 2024 is to publish a green line theory book explaining all these concepts in detail. For now, here are a bunch of screengrabs that go deeper into green line theory and that answer some common questions and misconceptions

If after reading all the screengrabs you have any specific questions, let me know in the comments

Best,
Rivelino 💚

#greenlinetheory #greenlinetheory