Things you can try to do to protect yourself on twitter.

1. Think "Do I have the spoons for this?" (usually it's no!)
2. Use the mute function, mute people and conversations.
3. Recognize that other people are upset to be upset, not because they want a conversation with you.
4. If you're mildly frustrated/annoyed by something, consider - "Is this worth arguing with people on twitter about?"
If no, just keep scrolling.
5. You don't owe anyone your time or explanation, esp. when you don't have the spoons.
6. You can't control other people.
7. You cannot "fix" or resolve other peoples feelings or emotions, especially if they read your tweet in a different way than intended.
8. You do not exist to make everyone else in the world happy with what you say on twitter. And it's probably not worth the effort to attempt.
To people who want to be upset on twitter:
If you're frustrated that someone is making threads about 1 area but not another area - make your own thread and then ask them to boost the thread. Don't tell them their area or issue isn't important.

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17 Jun
So much of autistic trauma is -

not being allowed to feel upset, frustrated, or angry,

feeling shame and guilt for being upset, frustrated, or angry,

being punished for being upset, frustrated, or angry.
So much of autistic trauma is -

being misinterpreted when reaching out for help,

being ignored when reaching out for help,

being punished when reaching out for help.
My problems didn't start when I felt sad, angry, frustrated, or upset.

My problems started when I learned to feel bad about feeling sad, angry, frustrated or upset.

When I told myself I shouldn't be feeling sad, angry, frustrated, or upset.
Read 6 tweets
16 Jun
Non-autistic parents:

You will never be able to prevent every single bad thing (teasing, bullying) from happening to your autistic child.

Something you can do?

Don't tell them to change who they are because you think there's slightly less of a chance they'll be bullied. 1/5
There is such a strange notion out there:
That if you tell autistic children to change their behavior, their interests, or their way of speaking to "fit in,"

the autistic child will be forever protected from bullying and ableism. 2/5
Please don't pre-emptively tell your child that who they are or what they like is wrong or should be "hidden" - You're just telling them those things before bullies do it.

That's it. You're just giving them that shame and anxiety earlier so they're "ready" for the bullies. 3/5
Read 5 tweets
16 Jun
I think eventually I'm going to make list on google doc of autistic people's favorite/best ear protection.

Please drop your effective
earplugs
ear defenders
regular headphones
noise-canceling headphones

in the replies!
Quick list of my favorite brands of earplugs (best listed first):

Earasers (silicone, very comfy)
Etyomic (silicone, relatively comfy)
Flare Audio (metal w/ foam tips)
(Make sure to list the specific model of headphones or earplugs if you have that info!)
Read 5 tweets
16 Jun
This is going to sound harsh but it's my opinion:

Autistic autism nonprofits need to stop putting "Women" or "Girls" in the title of their nonprofits

if they also actually support autistic people who aren't girls or women. 1/3
Like it's really great you want to support women + other genders, but also I don't want to be associated with a "Women's" nonprofit because that means I will likely get misgendered by other people (not the org itself, but people who see it).

Like just.. yea I'm not a fan. 2/3
Also at some point an LGBTQ+ autistic nonprofit really needs to be created cause there's a huge hole there. 3/3
Read 5 tweets
15 Jun
Thread on parenting -
[food]

Imagine adult you waking up one morning & deciding not to get dressed, but stay in pajamas because it’s comfier and warmer. You look at your desk and think “I’ll just sit down and check my email really quickly.” The emails then lead to tasks,
1/19
which lead to doing work.. And you keep thinking “I’ll get up to get breakfast soon.” You have that thought maybe every hour, or whenever you look at the time on your computer. You think “I’ll just finish this and then I’ll get up..”
2/19
and it’s not that you don’t want to eat breakfast, it’s that you can’t get your body to physically get out of the chair. Eventually you realize that it’s been 5 hours and you haven’t gotten out of your chair. You realize this and know you need to eat but you simply can’t. 3/19
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14 Jun
I don't think non-autistic people have "better theory of mind" than autistic people do.

I think (and some studies have shown) that non-autistic people are simply absurdly confident in their assumptions of other people.

The more confident they are, often the more wrong they are.
"In another study, people were ready to decide whether an unfamiliar face should be trusted after looking at it for just 200 milliseconds. Even when given a chance to look longer, they rarely changed their mind [6]."

theatlantic.com/magazine/archi…
Neurotypical people are bad at reading autistic people's facial expressions -
theconversation.com/research-on-fa…
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