1. A jurawalo, tìjàkadí kó. This loosely translates that there are people who have more power and clout because of either their pedigree or position. Stop fighting it and stop deceiving yourself. It doesn't mean they're better than you as humans.
2. It is just what it is that they can open doors that you cannot. Sometimes, life then brings you close to some of these powerful people where you would have gained a lot or that may have helped you to advance in life.
3. Some don't recognize such advantage or access or even worse still, they mess it all up. Either with youthful exuberance or sheer silliness. Such opportunities don't come often. If these people have brought you close and are also kind to you,
4. don't make the mistake of thinking that access to them is a leeway to misbehaving. Sometimes (infact most times), it is not village people that are after you. You are the architect of your own misfortune.
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1. Sometimes, ask your spouse these questions with an open non-judgmental mind without being defensive. And listen. Not to respond or find faults but listen with a mind that wants to do better.
"How can I make my relationship with you better?"
2. "Is there anything I can do to improve our relationship at my end?"
"Do I make you happy?"
"Am I holding my end of the relationship well?"
"Is there something I am doing that you'd like me to stop?"
Don't just assume. Ask. You may be surprised at the answers.
3. Sometimes, life gets to us and we forget the most important people in our life and complacency enters the equation. We then start to take our relationships for granted. Before you know it, you're losing each other gradually and becoming flatmates in the relationship.
Medical students, residents and infact anyone that would love a good mentoring....please watch this interview from the first female urologist in Nigeria.
Executive Discourse | Dr. Abimbola Ayodeji Abolarinwa | NTA via @YouTube
I am happy to have her on board as one of the 8 contributors in my soon to be released book. I have 9 excellent bonus chapters in my book by doctors making strides home and abroad. You don't have to know people personally to learn from them. You can read from them or about them
I am so excited about the book "Medi-thrive"
Anticipate!
Coming your way soon.
Yorubas say, ''abeere ona kii sina." (The person that asks for directions will not get missing).
Not about asking for directions from anyone, it is by asking those who know & are willing to show you.
1. This advice is for parents and intending parents trying to do right by their children or who intend to do right by their children. Disclaimer - I am not a parenting coach. Just a parent trying to do right by her children and the society at large.
2. In a world filled with 'anyhowness' that keeps rising by the day - the best thing you can do for yourself is to be deliberate and intentional about raising your children from the very start. Especially when they're still young. When they're easily malleable.
3. When those teenage hormones are not roaring yet.
Down to the kind of friends they play with in school. Be observant. My son said some words recently and I immediately knew he was moving with someone that was the antithesis of what I wanted him to be.
1. I remembered the words of my lecturer Prof. EJC Nwanna out of the blues today. Some of my classmates failed exams and were dejected. Prof laughed in that his throaty manner and said something that stayed with me ever since.
2. "We will all fail at something at one time or the other. Be it an exam or even in our relationships. Because failure is a normal part of life. But my dear, there are some types of failures that when you fail at it, it creates a festering wound. Failure at parenting?
3. Then that is a major failure. As for your exams, if you fail...you try again! But you may never get the chance to right the wrong if you fail at something important like parenting." And with that, their moods appeared to improve.
1. I think it happens to a lot of people.But religion (not faux religion) and spirituality helps.There are some verses in the Quran that help me to take life easy and not have morbid thoughts. Even when those thoughts happen, remembering these verses help me to move on quickly.
2. The first says, "I have not created man and jinn for anything except to worship me." Through this verse, I remember that every act in life is a form of worship- kindness, goodness to fellow man, fairness, justice, love and it is up to me to uphold the tenets of worship.
3. The second says, "Every soul shall taste death." This helps me to remember the certainty of death and the uncertainty of its timing. It helps me to take life a little less seriously and procrastinate less. I must admit my dad helped in this aspect.