Thread by @bethallisonbarr

Maybe I should write a history/memoir on being married to a pastor.

I just read another heart-wrenching message from a pastor’s wife.

I know being a pastor is hard; but being married to a pastor is just as hard…..

It isn’t a paid position, but the work expectations are real.

It has no authority, but often what you say or do is seen as authoritative—as representing your spouse—and used against you.

It comes with lots of social obligations, but real friendships are hard to make…..

You see how hard your spouse works, often with little or no downtime, often in high-stress and emotion-filled situations…and the impact often seems so small.

People still leave the church, not because of you, but because it isn’t right for them….

The criticism is much higher than the pay, and the stress often doesn’t seem worth it.

But you are called to this life. And so you stay, and you keep going.

I see you. I know you. And I promise God does too.