Maybe I should write a history/memoir on being married to a pastor.

I just read another heart-wrenching message from a pastor’s wife.

I know being a pastor is hard; but being married to a pastor is just as hard…..
It isn’t a paid position, but the work expectations are real.

It has no authority, but often what you say or do is seen as authoritative—as representing your spouse—and used against you.

It comes with lots of social obligations, but real friendships are hard to make…..
You see how hard your spouse works, often with little or no downtime, often in high-stress and emotion-filled situations…and the impact often seems so small.

People still leave the church, not because of you, but because it isn’t right for them….
The criticism is much higher than the pay, and the stress often doesn’t seem worth it.

But you are called to this life. And so you stay, and you keep going.

I see you. I know you. And I promise God does too.

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11 Jun
I know I shouldn’t tweet when I’m angry, but I’m going to break that rule. Because this matters. The SBC needs to realize how much this matters—a 🧵
I haven’t been on Twitter much lately. Not because I’m tired of criticism, but because I was tired of how self-centered it was making me.

I was focusing too much on what people thought about my book when I really didn’t write the book for me.

I wrote it to help women.
And every time I have jumped on lately, I have seen something else about the corruption inside the SBC.

Racism. Sexism. Angry men accusing each other. Calling victims of sexual assault whore and Potiphar’s wife…

Is there anything of this that looks like Jesus?
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23 May
Y’all this week has been fun. I missed all the convos. I suspect I’ll be going in and out for a while, though, so I just want to be clear on a few things before I go quiet again…. 🧵
1. I wrote #makingbiblicalwomanhood because I believe complementarianism is wrong. I agree with egalitarians/mutualists (I think I like term mutualist best) that God calls women and men equally to serve in church and home.
2. I think the claim that patriarchy is God-ordained is wrong. I think patriarchy is a product of human sin.
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