Thread by @FoundationDads

The biggest lie you have been told about patriarchy: that it oppresses women.

In reality, patriarchy is required for feminine women to flourish.

How does this work?

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Strong men allow women to be innocent and soft.

They are safe under the umbrella of masculinity, so they can focus on being women.

Patriarchy isn't just one dude leading his family, however. (though it is not less than that)

Patriarchy was always a cultural system of obligations, duties, and responsibilities.

With these came some authority.

When exercised properly, women blossom and flourish.

Women can build and grow their household, protected behind strong walls of masculinity.

Women can be vulnerable in a way that highlights their strengths.

They can remain innocent of some of the rough edges of the world, which allows them to focus on better things.

With patriarchy, what stops men from abusing their authority?

Other strong men.

For example, if one man is abusing his wife, he had to watch out for her father or brothers. Or other strong men from the community.

But often, potential shame was enough to keep most men in line.

So men were incentivized to be strong.

Women were incentivized to lean on and respond to that strength.

What happens when that strength starts to fade?

What happens when we "smash" the Patriarchy?

We take away the authority of the man, and so we see a degradation in the corresponding obligations, duties, and responsibilities.

Men are not as incentivized to be strong.

Women can no longer trust that strength to be there when they need it.

Women no longer have a safe harbor.

There are no walls to the garden of their heart.

There is no place to weather her own emotional storms.

Suddenly, their vulnerability can be exploited.

And so women stop allowing themselves to be vulnerable.

They stop being graceful.

They stop being feminine.

They no longer respond to strength because they can no longer trust that strength to be controlled.

Without this protection, women no longer have the luxury of being innocent and soft.

They must become hardened.

They must grow sharp edges.

They must engage with the rough edges of the world if they are to survive.

They stop focusing on better, higher, feminine things.

And the ironic thing is that this lack of femininity doesn't protect women.

It makes them easier to exploit and control.

They will sell their birthright to work as wage slaves for faceless corporations.

They will numb themselves with meaningless sex.

This, in turn, accelerates the move of men to adopt more feminine attributes.

Because something in a culture must be soft and responsive.

Some men are more than willing to take up that limp banner.

Without strong patriarchy, a culture gets second-rate men pretending to be third-rate women.

And it gets second-rate women pretending to be third-rate men.

It's a vicious feedback loop.

The best thing to do to combat this loop?

1. Be a strong, masculine man yourself.

You must not abdicate.

You must root out your own effeminacy.

In this era, all of us are effeminate in some way.

Kill it.

2. Forge strong, masculine sons.

They must become anchors.

They must become rocks.

3. Cultivate strong, feminine daughters.

They must learn to seek out proper anchors.

They must learn to build a house in the shelter of a rock.

Like past generations of men and women who conquered a continent through their cooperation, new generations must rise that will do that same.

And it has to start somewhere.

Let it start in your own household.

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