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Jun 16 • 10 tweets • 2 min read
A Colombian philosopher spent 80 years writing fragments that read like prophecies.
Known as the "Nietzsche from the Andes," he rarely left his library and published books that almost no one read.
His name was Nicolás Gómez Dávila, and he would have dominated X. Some bangers:🧵
“In an age in which the media broadcast countless pieces of foolishness, the educated man is defined not by what he knows, but by what he doesn't know.”
You'll be more informed about current events by reading old books than by watching the news.
Jun 6 • 25 tweets • 7 min read
Wall-E is not the movie you think it is.
is often celebrated or dismissed as environmentalist propaganda. This misconception is understandable. The film pummels the audience from the opening credits with a cartoonish version of human waste, prodigality, and corporate excess.
Towers of trash have replaced skyscrapers and the earth is bereft of all life except for robots and cockroaches.
If you asked a 6-year-old what the Earth would look like if adults kept littering, he might draw a similar picture.
Jun 3 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
A recent study highlighted what everyone already knows, deep down.
Divorce places a generational curse on its children. The effects last for years, and unless someone stops the bleeding, they are passed down to the grandchildren.
Divorce is bad even for adult children.
Household income plummets by 50% and never fully recovers, even after a decade.
May 22 • 11 tweets • 2 min read
What a young man does in his 20s will set the course for the rest of his life.
Here are 7 ways he can screw it up:
1. Waste time and strength on worthless pursuits.
A man will never have more energy and strength than in his 20s.
He can use that energy to build something.
Instead, many men waste their strength on video games, binge-watching entertainment, and nights at the bar or club.
A man won't have the same energy in his 30s.
If you spend your 20s wisely, your 30s, 40s, and beyond will be so much easier. And your competition will be low.
May 19 • 12 tweets • 3 min read
What does every culture in the history of the world have in common?
None of them treat men and women equally. All of them have different roles for men and women.
ALL of them.
Here are the 4 patterns they all have in common: 1. Sexual division of labor.
Every culture divides tasks between men and women. These tasks can change from culture to culture (though there is remarkable consistency), but the division is always there.
The types of tasks men perform across cultures are similar. Same for women.
Apr 22 • 11 tweets • 3 min read
Peter Jackson committed many sins against Tolkien. None worse than his butchery of Aragorn.
The books show us a KING who knows exactly who he is.
The films gave us a whimpering man questioning his birthright.
One commands respect. The other begs for validation. (thread) 🧵
Book Aragorn has no character arc.
This was intentional.
From the moment we meet Strider at the Prancing Pony to his coronation, he knows who he is.
The story gradually reveals his greatness to others, not to himself. Aragorn is a constant anchor for other characters to grasp.
Apr 17 • 8 tweets • 3 min read
8 ways to make your wife despise you.
1. Always ask for permission
Join the gym. Plan a night with friends. Invite people over. Your wife is not your mom. If you always ask permission, you're asking her to be a husband.
Being considerate is not the same as asking permission. 2. Overshare
Don't gossip like a woman to your wife.
Don't vomit out your feelings at every opportunity.
Don't burden her with every little anxiety and fear. Don't make a habit of crying at the drop of a hat.
Ask for counsel. Ask for help. Don't ask for an emotional crutch.
Apr 16 • 11 tweets • 3 min read
11 truths every man must hear before he becomes a father.
1. You will let your children down.
You are not perfect. You will never "do the best you can."
It's not ok that you let them down, but it's inevitable. Repent, apologize, and do better. An example every child needs. 2. Your words are more powerful than you realize.
Your words have the power of life and death. They will live in your children's bones for their entire lives. How you speak to them will be how they speak to themselves.
Keep your promises. Control your temper. Measure each word.
Apr 15 • 11 tweets • 3 min read
Disney's The Little Mermaid is a story about a father who is punished until he learns to give his spoiled, naive 16-year-old daughter everything she wants.
But the actual fairy tale is more interesting.
In the Hans Christian Anderson fairy tale, the youngest mermaid still has a desire to live a human life on the earth. What stirs this desire, however, are tales of church spires, sunsets, green hills, and more.
She does see a handsome prince, but her longing goes beyond infatuation.
Apr 14 • 9 tweets • 2 min read
Modern fatherhood has been corrupted by a noble-sounding lie that will destroy your family: Everyone is equal and you are obligated to treat everyone equally.
Your children have a claim on your time and resources that no other child has.
This isn't bigotry.
It's wisdom. 🧵
Your household is the ONE place your children should feel special. You are THEIR father and no one else's.
Society pushes you to flatten these relationships in the name of equality.
Reject this.
A wise man knows the hierarchy of obligation.
Mar 31 • 10 tweets • 2 min read
What if your words could shape your family 200 years from now?
What was this ancient vow that outlasted kingdoms?
The zeal which made people refuse wine from a prophet?
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In Jeremiah 35, the prophet offers wine to a group called the Rechabites. They refuse, saying their ancestor Jonadab commanded them never to drink wine, build houses, or plant vineyards.
For two centuries, they kept these austere commands.
Mar 18 • 9 tweets • 2 min read
We're drugging an entire generation of boys for the crime of being boys.
I was nearly one of the casualties.
Couldn't sit still. Disruptive. Knees bouncing constantly. Tapping my pencil or making noises.
Doctors diagnosed me with ADD and wanted to medicate me.
🧵 (thread)
I'll forever be thankful for my mother, who reeled back in horror at the thought.
No medication for me. We'd find another way.
Eventually, we discovered I was just bored. Give me a challenge, and I'd focus for hours. Sometimes, I wouldn't even move.
Mar 16 • 10 tweets • 2 min read
Being a man means taking responsibility and killing excuses before they rot and fester.
In our age, victimhood is currency. Power can be gained from the pity you extract from others.
But taking responsibility is a superpower when everyone else is blaming others. 🧵
Some men get *angry* when told they don't have to be perpetual victims.
They don't want answers. They want to vent. They want pity. They want to signal to other miserable people that they're miserable, too.
The idea of "responsibility" threatens their identity.
Mar 13 • 10 tweets • 2 min read
I love homeschooling. It puts parents back in charge of shaping their child's mind and gives your household a deeper mission.
But there are pitfalls. Here are the 9 biggest mistakes homeschooling parents make, especially new homeschooling parents.
And how to avoid them: 👇
MISTAKE #1: Standards too HIGH
Don't make your 4-year-old sit still for 3 hours doing worksheets. You'll create needless conflict and teach them to hate learning.
Your kindergartner doesn't need a 6-hour school day. They need play and short bursts of focused attention.
Mar 4 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
"But how will they learn to socialize with other kids?"
This is the number 1 objection to homeschooling that always comes up.
Let's talk about what government school "socialization" ACTUALLY looks like vs. reality. 🧵
Government school socialization:
- Sit silently with same-age peers for 6+ hours
- Ask permission to use the bathroom
- Speak only when allowed
- Endure highest statistical chance of physical violence
- Get in trouble for talking to others
That counts as "social" for prison.
Mar 3 • 9 tweets • 2 min read
Boys and girls thrive in different educational environments. Homeschooling is ideal for your daughters—potentially through high school.
But your sons? Eventually, they might need something else. Maybe even the battles that come naturally with public school...
For daughters, homeschooling creates a nurturing, domestic environment. They can flourish under maternal guidance, developing at their own pace, protected from the indoctrination machine of public education that seeks to corrupt them.
Feb 27 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
Patriarchy was never the problem. The rejection of "father rule" is why we're drowning in laws, surveillance, and state control.
A healthy, robust, accountable patriarchy protected our freedoms more than it restricted them. It protected women more than it oppressed them. 👇
When fathers are removed from their role as protectors and the authority that comes with that responsibility, people don't become "free."
They become wards of the state.
And the state doesn't love you. It only knows how to punish.
Feb 26 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
Here is the terrifying truth about homeschooling:
You are 100% responsible. No scapegoats. No luxury of blaming other teachers for not doing their jobs.
Zero excuses. Just you.
And there's more bad news.
Parents who choose homeschooling aren't escaping educational problems. They're trading them for a mirror that reflects their own flaws.
Your kids' biggest educational obstacle might be staring back at you in the bathroom mirror each morning
Dec 30, 2024 • 22 tweets • 4 min read
Taking responsibility in an effeminate age like ours is a superpower.
Some people don't know what "taking responsibility" means, however, because they never had a father or anyone else who loved them enough to teach them.
So here is how to take responsibility. 🧵 1. Remember that you are not a helpless, incompetent person.
Things don’t just happen to you while you stare blank-eyed with your mouth open, using all of your brain power to remember how to breathe.
You have agency.
Dec 29, 2024 • 11 tweets • 3 min read
Daniel Everett is a celebrated linguist who started off as a missionary but eventually abandoned his Christian faith.
Why?
He realized that the Gospel would ruin the cultures he ministered to, leading to his growing doubt about Christianity.
But what culture would it ruin? 🧵
Everett was afraid his work would ruin the Pirahã's concept of truth and how it affected their language.
This same tribe forced alcohol down an infant's throat to kill it, an infant that Everett and his wife were attempting to nurse back to health. That was the Pirahã’s truth.
Dec 16, 2024 • 28 tweets • 7 min read
What happens when a man gives another man a hug, tears in his eyes? Often, someone points and snickers and says, "What are you, gay?"
Open homosexuality has killed male friendship. It has tainted all signs of true affection with something sexual and sinister.
How so?
We have re-contextualized all affection between men, past and present, in the context of our own lusts.
Because Shakespeare wrote passionate sonnets to a young man, he must have been gay, despite no evidence.
Because Lincoln shared a bed with his friend Joshua Speed and wrote personal letters to him that sound like love letters, Lincoln must have been gay.
Never mind that this was normal for both men and women in the past. In writing, they also used strong language when addressing each other.