Someone on here once described the modern dating scene as “sexually liberated but romantically prudish” and I have not stopped thinking about that since I read it.
I think the original example was something like: people don't elope anymore, and while that's obviously only partially practical, I think there's some very real points here too.
I know @BassamMasarwa and I were discussing something similar maybe a year back, on when it is socially appropriate to confess one's love. What the semantic border of love now is. And how independent & tactically disinterested we are expected to be for what amount of time.
Falling head-over-heels is practically faux pas at this point. A strong approach of committment is a warning signal.
A healthy avoidance of co-dependence is correct, but coupled with a general sense of romantic regression breeds an atmosphere where one is unsure of the strength of the other's commitment. Back doors are always open and a return to another life only a momentary step away.
idk, maybe im just projecting...
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The context for this hike was a joke we were making along the way about our next trip being us walking to Amsterdam. Cut forward almost to years later and at a meet-up braai we're discussing summer plans. A friend posits doing something physical.