we moved out to the suburbs this week. still tidying up the old apartment, but we're sleeping at the new place.
im a bit surprised to find that i actually like a suburban home an awful lot
some time ago i took a medium dose of a tryptamine and among other things considered my relationship with work. one thing that I realized was that in fact I was holding myself back from some of the drudgery of the job for reasons of identity
i actually monologued about it to @selentelechia. something like:
"the thing is i think ive been approaching work and meetings and schedules and corporate life like im too cool for it. (pause) which. I am"
and nevertheless here i am living in a boring suburban house with a yard and owning a car and having a wife and a baby and actually paying attention to work and busting my ass every day
and it feels good actually
I spent some time turning this over as i drove to the store to get dinner for my wife and it was productive.
two points
1. there are several major periods in a person's life. some of them are biologically linked, others not. they are not of fixed duration. most are common but some are not.
examples from my life include infancy, adolescence, young adulthood, whatever im in now
the demands of life and desires of the heart are very different across these phases. a schoolboy wants very different things, and needs to be a different sort of person, than a breadwinner
2. letting ones desires and identity transition to accommodate the demands of a new phase is disorienting and possibly the most challenging part of a person's life, and stumbling may be the source of many hard lives.
I am imagining two main classes of failure modes here
the first failure mode is the obvious one of not letting oneself change. i had been stumbling about with this one without knowing it for a while by keeping work (which does actually matter) at arms length from what I imagined my life to be about
the second failure mode is swerving so hard into the new phase that one fails to integrate it with their past lives
this is subtler and I don't have any clean examples from fiction but I suspect its nevertheless a real problem
im imagining the damage from such a failure as the debris of broken relationships and a loss of personal meaning, of waking up at 45 and getting a divorce and a sports car and getting hair plugs and wondering what has happened with your life
I hate a lot of things about _American Beauty_ but maybe it does get this right
I dont know that I have any good advice about how to manage this apart from "this happens, and remember that scylla and charybdis bound these channels"
let your identity be flexible as your needs change I guess, while tending to things you care about to keep them continuous
as I've written before--I can't find the thread--pseudonymy is easily defended. it has had a substantial tradition in american discourse since the founding
and there are very good reasons for maintaining it, even--*especially*--in a political context
the thought foremost in my mind is, education is going to become much more important for our children. not as a means of earning a living but as a means of becoming realized and independent humans in a dehumanizing age
the notion of education in the latter 20th century being wholly a matter of practical knowledge rather than of personal development has always been exaggerated
but set aside practicality; imagine a world where bodily survival and provision are not dependent on such learned skill
there is still a purpose to education in conveying to children the ways of living, thinking and acting and speaking, that we have found worthy
that is, the point of such education is guiding a child to becoming the kind of person who it is worth being for a lifetime
i was curious if or how they might justify any such moves
explicitly calling it "compelled speech" in a public statement is much more assertive than I'd expected
i wonder where this new respect for speech freedom is coming from ha ha
but fr i hadn't expected this and it feels like a big deal
it's the first meaningful rollback of Awokening policy, and MIT doing it in these terms gives significant elite cover to other schools that might _want_ do it
this isnt just netflix or doritos this is every product
the main reason it tends to be more pronounced in tech products is that tech products have vastly better and cheaper telemetry than legacy industries and it's easy to run sufficiently-powered A/B tests on consumers
facebook in particular was when i was there incredibly well-developed in this kind of measurement; their internal tooling and organizational practices in product analytics were afaik the best in the world
it was an exquisite organizational and technical accomplishment
i won't get into details although I don't think it's much of an industrial secret
but basically, the impact of every feature change and every product team could be rigorously measured and tracked and usually were
there was a ton of upside to this but perhaps one major downside