Every time I write something I think is brave, I think "That's the bravest I'll ever be." And every time I start a new essay, I ask myself "Am I not brave?" Yes, I am. But courage wilts & withers when it is not challenged, like muscles that need heavier weights. So I dare myself
The above is about abortion. This is about shaving all my hair off. Always, always, whatever scares me the most, in just the thinking about doing it, is what I need to do the most.

Since publishing my essay about my abortions, I'm reminded of this:

I think twice, thrice, and often more before I share moments of vulnerability on social media. feministgiant.com/p/essay-fallin…
When you’re a feminist accustomed to having the dogs of patriarchy let loose on you, you become more comfortable with vowing to bring pain to your enemies than to admitting to your own.
But I have learned to do both: be on the lookout for the dogs of patriarchy, ready to kick their teeth in, and also keep my pain soft.
Unfailingly, and surprisingly, when I do share my pain, it is held with such care and love by my community of total strangers and comrades online that I have to remind myself that softness drives the revolution as much as rage.

feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…
Am I not brave? Yes, I am. But courage wilts and withers when it is not challenged, like muscles that need heavier weights.

And so I dare myself to say/write the things that scare me the most and that I've avoided saying/writing and I accept the dare.

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28 Sep
After my first abortion 25yrs ago, I couldn't talk to anyone about it. Instead, I would endlessly search for stories on abortion, to nurture my need for support and community. If that is you today on #InternationalSafeAbortionDay, I hope my essay helps you. Love and solidarity.
Here I am finally sharing for my younger self who had no one to talk to about her abortions; for anyone who recognizes that their abortion is considered especially shameful or outrageous because it does not follow the few acceptable abortion narratives. feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…
The personal is political, of course. Where I come from, the personal is more dangerous than the political.

I am from a country w/ the greatest number of women & girls in the world whose genitals have been cut in the name of controlling female sexuality refworld.org/pdfid/5a17eee4… Text: With an FGM prevalence of 87.2% among all women aged 1
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28 Sep
The more marginalized you are, the sharper the blows of patriarchy and its attendant oppressions. In the US, gendered racism means that the victims who accused the singer R. Kelly of sexual assault were mostly ignored because they were Black women and girls.
Unlike the famous and privileged white women who accused Harvey Weinstein of sexual assault, who were interviewed and invited to write opinion pieces, the victims of R. Kelly, many of whom were teenage girls, were rarely sought out by the media. feministgiant.com/p/how-much-is-…
According to a study published in 2017 by Georgetown Law’s Center on Poverty and Inequality, as early as age five, young Black girls in the United States of America are viewed less as children and more like adults when it comes to discipline in schools.
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28 Sep
Sept. 28 is #InternationalSafeAbortionDay. Abortion should be safe every day. In 1996, I had an "illegal" abortion in Egypt. I was lucky.
I was lucky because when I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend’s cousin recommended an OB/GYN doctor in Cairo who performed abortions in his clinic. I was lucky because I could afford the procedure. feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-… #InternationalSafeAbortionDay
In 2000, I had a "legal" abortion in Seattle in the US. Again, I was lucky. I did not have to drive for miles to access abortion care. I did not have to take time off that I could not afford from work or find overnight accommodations because there was no clinic in my town.
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28 Sep
Today is #SafeAbortionDay. This is the first year that I have been able to say: I have had two abortions. I am glad I had my abortions. They gave me the freedom to live the life I have chosen. #Sept28 #AbortionIsNormal #AbortionIsHealthcare
I was not raped. I was not sick. The pregnancies did not threaten my life. I did not already have children. I just did not want to be pregnant.
#SafeAbortionDay #AbortionIsNormal
feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…
Criminalizing abortion does not eradicate it nor does it make it rare. It makes it dangerous and often deadly for the poorest and most vulnerable people who can get pregnant.
#SafeAbortionDay #AbortionIsNormal
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28 Sep
Everynow and then, I must have a Massive Attack marathon

All the way back their first album and this brilliance

I could post every single track off Mezzanine--I usually post Teardrop or Angel--but let's go with this one for now
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27 Sep
One in four women has had an abortion, including me. It's taken me years to write this essay. #AbortionIsNormal

feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…
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