1. You feel guilty asserting yourself. Codependent people feel like they aren’t worthy, so they feel bad about making their needs known. Do you feel guilty when you let people know what you want or need?
2. You crave approval and recognition. We all like to be noticed and appreciated, but the codependent person takes this to an entirely different level. Many of their decisions are based on the opinions of others. How often does the opinions of others affect your decision making?
3. Fear of being abandoned or alone. No one likes to be alone but codependent people feel worthless unless they’re helping someone else. Do you feel you have value when you’re spending time alone?
4. Your life revolves around your relationship. Do you live and die for your relationship? It is greatly important to you than anything else in your life?
A relationship should be an important part of your life but it should never be your entire life.
5. If you ever lived in a household with emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, there’s a higher possibility that you’re codependent.
Codependency is a serious issue that requires professional help. Be sure that you’re not confusing codependency and unconditional love.

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More from @preshgaza

24 Nov
Ladies I have a question.

At what point did you start unlearning that a relationship doesn’t revolve around you and men also have needs.

At what point did you realise “oh damn, I have to put in effort to make this man happy, too”

How was the unlearning process for you?
Before engaging, please be sure to understand the context.

Any urge to do
“but men do this and that”
“Women have been conditioned to wait on men”

Fight it

Cuz that’s an entirely different conversation

And you deflecting suggests you’re being defensive🤷🏽‍♀️
We’re talking about unlearning toxic traits as women & how we can be better partners.
This is what healthy people do.
If this conversation has triggered you in any way, I totally understand and I hope you grow

Until then, being mean to me, won’t solve your issues babes.
Read 6 tweets
15 Feb
How my friends take shifts to stay with me in the hospital >>>>

God thanks 🥺
@chelseaamonye (via FT) @favour_emma and @ms_seyii are usually on call anytime. If it’s an emergency, their there.

I love you so much 🥺❤️
Read 5 tweets
4 Jan 20
Relationships are hard work!

But you see long distance?

Not for the faint hearted .

And definitely not for people that fornicate 🙂.

LDR people, I’ve got tips for y’all.
This isn’t a copy and paste situation. Look at how you can twig it and apply it to suit the dynamics of your own relationship.

This includes long distance friendships too.

Always remember that it takes both parties for it to actually work.

Call your friends...

1. Take pictures of everything you can!

Your food
Your view
Outfit of the day
Book you’re reading

That way your partner feels involved in your day.

Update your partner on your plans or movement for day. Where you’d be hanging out later or who you’ll be seeing etc
Read 10 tweets
1 Jan 20
A vital part of a healthy relationship is communication

A vital part of communication is confrontation.

Couples, professionals, employees, bosses, students, friends, business owners etc... you need this

(Thread 🧵)

• Painful memories of confrontations that didn’t turn out well.

• Maybe Cuz people have called you too sensitive for not liking a particular thing and now you think it’s not that deep.

(Remember, your feelings are valid)
• Finding it hard to master your emotions effectively when talking about something challenging or fear inducing.


1. Prepare
- carefully evaluate what the real issue is. Is it a pile up of events that’s causing you to explode ?

Read 11 tweets
30 Dec 19
Dear Human, in 2020, try the following;

1. When you text someone that isn’t a close pal or text for the first time, say hello, state your purpose for texting or sending a dm.


“Hey” ❌

“Hello, my name is .... . If you’re not busy, I’d love information on ...” ✅
2. When there’s a flyer,poster or IV for an event, read all the details . Make sure you read everything on that paper or graphic design.

It’s embarrassing to still ask for info that has been clearly stated.

It won’t take up to 5 minutes. Settle down and read please.
3. Always introduce yourself when you call someone you’re not well acquainted with.

We are actually tired of “so you don’t know my voice”

“So you don’t have my number”

We will now proceed and reply you with “Na so we see am oh”

Let’s all be guided.
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