1. You feel guilty asserting yourself. Codependent people feel like they aren’t worthy, so they feel bad about making their needs known. Do you feel guilty when you let people know what you want or need?
2. You crave approval and recognition. We all like to be noticed and appreciated, but the codependent person takes this to an entirely different level. Many of their decisions are based on the opinions of others. How often does the opinions of others affect your decision making?
3. Fear of being abandoned or alone. No one likes to be alone but codependent people feel worthless unless they’re helping someone else. Do you feel you have value when you’re spending time alone?
4. Your life revolves around your relationship. Do you live and die for your relationship? It is greatly important to you than anything else in your life?
A relationship should be an important part of your life but it should never be your entire life.
5. If you ever lived in a household with emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, there’s a higher possibility that you’re codependent.
Codependency is a serious issue that requires professional help. Be sure that you’re not confusing codependency and unconditional love.
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At what point did you start unlearning that a relationship doesn’t revolve around you and men also have needs.
At what point did you realise “oh damn, I have to put in effort to make this man happy, too”
How was the unlearning process for you?
Before engaging, please be sure to understand the context.
Any urge to do
“but men do this and that”
“Women have been conditioned to wait on men”
Fight it
Cuz that’s an entirely different conversation
And you deflecting suggests you’re being defensive🤷🏽♀️
We’re talking about unlearning toxic traits as women & how we can be better partners.
This is what healthy people do.
If this conversation has triggered you in any way, I totally understand and I hope you grow
Until then, being mean to me, won’t solve your issues babes.