A vital part of a healthy relationship is communication
A vital part of communication is confrontation.
Couples, professionals, employees, bosses, students, friends, business owners etc... you need this
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A vital part of communication is confrontation.
Couples, professionals, employees, bosses, students, friends, business owners etc... you need this
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SOME REASONS WHY SOME PEOPLE AVOID CONFRONTATIONS.
• Painful memories of confrontations that didn’t turn out well.
• Maybe Cuz people have called you too sensitive for not liking a particular thing and now you think it’s not that deep.
(Remember, your feelings are valid)
• Painful memories of confrontations that didn’t turn out well.
• Maybe Cuz people have called you too sensitive for not liking a particular thing and now you think it’s not that deep.
(Remember, your feelings are valid)
• Finding it hard to master your emotions effectively when talking about something challenging or fear inducing.
THINGS TO NOTE BEFORE A CONFRONTATION
1. Prepare
- carefully evaluate what the real issue is. Is it a pile up of events that’s causing you to explode ?
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THINGS TO NOTE BEFORE A CONFRONTATION
1. Prepare
- carefully evaluate what the real issue is. Is it a pile up of events that’s causing you to explode ?
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- leave out unnecessary information. Some people just like drama and like to show themselves. ESP if they’ve bragged to their friends that their going to “clear” someone. “Una know sey my head no correct”
Ogbeni calm down and have a proper discussion.
- leave out unnecessary information. Some people just like drama and like to show themselves. ESP if they’ve bragged to their friends that their going to “clear” someone. “Una know sey my head no correct”
Ogbeni calm down and have a proper discussion.
- asses the persons worldview and values and put them into consideration.
Eg:
“I understand why you might have acted this way. This project is something you’re passionate about but I would have been happy if you informed me before taking that step”
You’ve shown empathy.
Eg:
“I understand why you might have acted this way. This project is something you’re passionate about but I would have been happy if you informed me before taking that step”
You’ve shown empathy.
2. Set the atmosphere/ Stage.
Don’t call or text someone at 7am and say “we need to talk” and leave the person hanging till 7pm
You’ve induced fear
The person automatically becomes defensive
Just slip it in a casual conversation .
Doesn’t need to be intense.
Don’t call or text someone at 7am and say “we need to talk” and leave the person hanging till 7pm
You’ve induced fear
The person automatically becomes defensive
Just slip it in a casual conversation .
Doesn’t need to be intense.
3. Avoid accusations of arguments
It’s hard but you can master it.
Devil is the accuser of brethren. We’ve been redeemed by Christ.
Present the issue as an observation rather than an accusation.
The person will be more open to actually sit and talk.
It’s hard but you can master it.
Devil is the accuser of brethren. We’ve been redeemed by Christ.
Present the issue as an observation rather than an accusation.
The person will be more open to actually sit and talk.
You’ve made it this far you don’t want to start saying
“ You always do this”
“Why would you even behave like that”
Try;
“This is how what you did made me feel”
You know sometimes, for sane people( had to add that 💀) they didn’t mean to hurt you intentionally.
“ You always do this”
“Why would you even behave like that”
Try;
“This is how what you did made me feel”
You know sometimes, for sane people( had to add that 💀) they didn’t mean to hurt you intentionally.
4. Try and control the volume or tempo of your voice.
If you’re the kind to start screaming , you better go somewhere and cool down. Treat people with respect please. I’m sure you wouldn’t like someone yelling at you.
If you need to sleep on it, please do.
If you’re the kind to start screaming , you better go somewhere and cool down. Treat people with respect please. I’m sure you wouldn’t like someone yelling at you.
If you need to sleep on it, please do.
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Remember! The context of my teachings stem from healthy relationships. People that are willing to learn and improve.
If you go and apply these on someone that doesn’t have sense, my hand no dey 😭
Remember! The context of my teachings stem from healthy relationships. People that are willing to learn and improve.
If you go and apply these on someone that doesn’t have sense, my hand no dey 😭
