when a kid thinks theyre trans, people logically want to focus on the mental health of the kid and make them go to therapy etc. but considering that family relationships are the most powerful tool a family has to getting through this chaos,
parents would benefit a lot from addressing their emotional and relationship struggles. even though a dependent child/teen expects relational perfection (not because theyre selfish, but because theyre wired to be that way), parents can be struggling
with mental health issues, marital issues, trauma, attachment issues etc themselves. and when the trans crisis hits, this can really smoke out these issues as the family struggles more and more in their relationship.
putting all the burden on the kid to go to therapy and figure all this out in their own head is unrealistic and could even exacerbate things. i think this is a crisis where everybody in the family needs to be humble and honest with themselves about where theyre struggling.
and i dont think a child/teen can do that very well if the parents arent doing it too.
i honestly think parents going to therapy/doing healing work, and the downstream effects of them becoming emotionally healthier and strengthening family relationships, is better than only the kid going to therapy.
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