For my new followers: writing Surviving the White Gaze was enormously challenging and deeply freeing. I am grateful to have had the support and encouragement from literary giants, chosen family, people whose work I admire so tremendously. It meant everything to me.
Like @KieseLaymon: "Carroll shows, page after page, how the journey to, and through, survival, necessitates unrelenting interrogation of the nation's cauldron of innocence. Carroll has crafted a book as textured, layered and effective as any memoir penned in the 21st century."
And @DamonYoungVSB: "Carroll has devoted her life to sharing, developing, and amplifying our stories—and our story. And in Surviving the White Gaze she tells us hers with the same rigor, the same verve..the same radical vulnerability that reminds us why we're lucky to have her."
And @surlybassey: "Surviving the White Gaze cuts through all the gauzy platitudes and fragile myths we tell ourselves about family, race and belonging in this country...a must for anyone wanting to figure out how to build a better world, and how to survive this one."
And @nicolesjchung: "... 'Thankful' can be a loaded word for adoptees, but I am and have long been thankful for Rebecca Carroll's bravery and her honest, uncompromising voice."
I am grateful to have cultivated the emotional fortitude to write this book, and further grateful if it even just slightly begins to shift the narrative around transracial adoption in the broader context of the relentlessly cruel and inherently racist foundation of America.
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My memoir Surviving the White Gaze, which came out earlier this year, is not just my story about the enduring trauma of being adopted into a white family, but an excavation of the chillingly foundational dynamic of transracial adoption in America. 1/1
Amy Coney Barrett's callous suggestion that birthmothers just gestate children and then give them up for adoption is sadly emblematic of that foundational dynamic. That she is an adoptive mother of two Black children all the more so.
If her remarks don't awaken you to the potential repercussions of continuing this dynamic without a rigorous interrogation of how transracial adoption works — please reconsider, and spend some time thinking about it.
My thoughts abt this are hewed to my thoughts abt systemic racism. It's not that the system is broken, it's that the system emboldens and promotes the fallacy of "genius" men and the women they desire and jack off to in the guise of muse. rollingstone.com/tv/tv-features… via @RollingStone
There is always a racial element never discussed when it comes to these high-profile men at the center of the #MeToo movement —their desires and muses center around young white women and girls who embody a purity that black women and girls are not perceived as embodying.
I remember reading Lupita Nyong’o's Op-Ed in the NYT abt her experience w Harvey, the chosen-ness of it that was layered throughout. The entire "What could this be? How could I get this lucky? How do I navigate this terrain as a black woman?" It resonated. nytimes.com/2017/10/19/opi…
I've had an enormously gratifying year creatively — I'm v grateful to be able to work across several different media platforms, and hope to broaden that work even further in 2020. Here are a few highlights from 2019. Bc Twitter.
I can't stop thinking abt the white boy frm the other soccer team at the after game party who was so cute and I was enamored and none of the popular white boys at my school liked me that way and this boy asked me if I wanted to talk and led me to a dark room #WhyIDidntReport
Once in the room he shoved a bureau up against the door so no one could get in and never turned on the lights and shoved me on the bed and took his pants off and shoved my head down and held it there and I panicked and began to feel tears and wanted to scream #WhyIDidntReport
It makes me sick remembering his hand gripped down hard on my head and suddenly someone pushed through the door and the bureau fell over and all the things on top of it tumbled off and the girl who opened the door was so angry at me and demanded I clean it up. #WhyIDidntReport
Honestly @jes_chastain as an outspoken voice for equality how do you pose for a photo like this and not feel absolutely mortified by the blatant exclusion? How is it possible to not understand the msg this photo sends?
It is literally the antithesis of "a shift in focus" -- this is literally The Same Focus on White Women in Hollywood.
To present these women collectively worth millions of dollars as change agents when black women with like regular jobs just saved an entire Southern state from a racist pedophile getting seat in the US senate is just beyond.
As a young black woman starting out as a producer for the prestigious Charlie Rose show, I had to gauge every day whether to respond to casual racism or sexually predatory behavior.
I spoke out about racialized or micro-aggressive racism and was punished for it. The predatory behavior was ignored or accepted or laughed off -- it was inherent to our daily culture.
There was no infrastructure for learning the job (I was a first-time producer) let alone a place or person to report such things. We were embedded in the massive Bloomberg offices, but there was no sense that our issues were relevant overall.