Why? They want a promo code
Why? They think your price is too high
Why? We didn't do market research
Why? We're understaffed
Why? I haven't filled the position
Magic, right?
Well, almost.
7/ The 6th Why
Do you notice what happens as we move through the Whys?
💡 They get specific -> We progress from what happened to what caused it.
💡 And more personal -> Groups narrow to individuals.
There's one more Why & it's uncomfortable.
But that's where the growth is.
8/ Back to our example
Why haven't you filled the position?
❌ Maybe you designed an unattractive role
❌ Perhaps you didn't see the demand coming
❌ Or you are losing people faster than you can hire
These answers are raw & imply something about YOU is causing the issue.
9/ This isn't just about work
I can't get in shape
Why? No time to workout
Why? Day is packed with work
Why? My boss keeps piling on more
Why? B/c I haven't told her no
Why? B/c I can't disappoint her
Why? B/c I need the money
Wait, it's a money issue not a fitness problem?
10/ Now what?
Don't overreact to one mistake. We all make them.
Do watch for patterns of mistakes. These tend to reveal true weaknesses.
As a manager, my 1:1s were broken for years. I cancelled on my best people. Used the time as a live status report. Did most of the talking. I thought I was leading. I wasn't even managing. Here are 4 tests to know if your 1:1s are actually working...
Test #1: The Ownership Test
Who sets the agenda and drives the meeting?
If it's you, they're not owning their role. You're still doing it and they're just a glorified helper.
The moment they own the agenda, they own their job.
That might feel risky, but that's leading.
Test #2: The Q&A Test
Are you asking or answering 90% of the time?
If you're giving answers, you're not coaching. You're doing their job out loud once a week.
Great 1:1s feel like a great coach and a motivated player.
As a manager, I spent years thinking my job was a juggling act. Keep a bunch of things moving along. What a waste. Hired people we didn't need. Built systems nobody used. There was only one problem worth solving: the bottleneck. Here's how to find yours...
Step 1: Supply vs. Demand
Is your problem internal? (Can't produce enough.)
Or upstream? (Not enough work.)
These are two distinct problems. Opposite sides of the ledger. One needs you to build. One needs you to hunt.
Any effort to improve the other side is wasted.
Step 2: Flow Rate
Map the actual work. Watch where it piles up. Not where it's supposed to. Where it actually stalls.
Some leaders are superhuman. Deliver outsized results. Fastest to respond. Zoom in on the key detail everyone else missed. We used to just admire them. Now we can become them. Here are 10 short videos to become an AI-powered leader:
1. Your AI-Powered Management Diagnostic
• Diagnose your strengths and blind spots
• Turn diagnostic data into clear insights
• Build a 90-day improvement roadmap
Most people overcommunicate. They ramble. The dive into the weeds. They lose their audience. And in doing so, lose their credibility. Change how you think and you'll change what you say. And how you say it. Headlines. Punchlines. Here's my 5-step formula to find your voice:
Step 1: Define Winning
Before anything else, answer this question:
"I win if [who] does [what]?"
Example: "I win if my VP approves additional headcount."
Without a target, you're shooting from the hip. With it, you're building a targeted case.
Step 2: Empty Your Mind
Write out every single detail.
Don't filter. Don't prioritize. Don't edit.
Yes, all 27 things. Empty your brain completely.
This step feels counterintuitive. It's not. A clear synthesis is hard to find in a cluttered mind.
As a manager, one of my biggest regrets is losing top performers. They said they we're leaving for a "better opportunity." I figured they left for more money. Turns out, they left because I failed these 3 tests:
Test #1: The Autonomy Test
Are they empowered to make decisions, including improving how the work gets done?
If No, they're micromanaged, not trusted.
Top performers don't want to execute your plan. They want to shape it. Give them co-ownership or watch them find it elsewhere.
Test #2: The Challenge Test
Are they working on problems that stretch them, or are they mired in routine?
If they're coasting, they're leaving.
High performers need to be challenged. When the work becomes routine, they start looking for anew hill to climb.