Many of us feel POWERLESSNESS when we hear depressing political news. Many also want to know "how can I get involved?"
Here's how you do it:
Think globally, act locally.
Why not help de-radicalize someone you know and care about? Rather than just cut someone out of your life, if you have the bandwidth, and learn what is effective, you could put in a few hours each week into the effort.
In this thread, I will link to a few other threads and blogs I've composed that outline my Strategic Interactive Approach (SIA). This is the approach I've applied for the last 45+ years in helping people out of cults and conspiracy thinking!
There's been a great deal of talk about expanding the Supreme Court and entirely NOT enough talk about impeaching Amy Coney Barrett.
First, this is not a "Republicans bad, Democrats good!" appeal. I often disagree with Clarence Thomas but I would NOT call for his impeachment.
This is about Amy Coney Barrett's DEEPLY troubling affiliation with the destructive group "People of Praise."
The People of Praise (POP) are not a conventional religion. The POP displays many cult-like attributes.
Here's a brief summary of the People of Praise:
The People of Praise reportedly require a lifetime covenant commitment, require wives & children to be submissive to husbands, promote fear of losing God’s grace, allow & even encourage corporal punishment of children & wives, engage in forced exorcisms, & shun former members.
Many of you are familiar with my BITE Model (as a reminder, BITE stands for):
Behavior Control
Information Control
Thought Control
Emotional Control
The BITE model outlines the specific set of methods and techniques that can influence how a person thinks, feels, and acts.
I've come to understand that Information Control is one of the most POTENT parts of my BITE model and there are few groups who've been controlled through information more than Indigenous people.
Indigenous kids were forced into schools and required to assimilate.
Our very own Declaration of Independence-our most FOUNDATIONAL document-refers to Indigenous people as "merciless Indian savages."
Whenever I talk about my patient, kind approach for getting people out of cults and extreme beliefs, there is always a small group of people that get mad at me. They tell me how TOXIC a family member or person has been and that they needed to cut them off for their own sanity!
As always my friends, this is your own life. 🙏 It is not my intention to tell you you're "wrong." Do as you wish.
I've been doing this for 45+ years though, and never once was anger or confrontation or isolation helpful (and I've worked with the most EXTREME of the extreme!).
Perhaps, if it is too painful, those of us who DO have the bandwidth to have conversations with family or estranged friends from high school can be the ones who step up!
I can report one refreshing, encouraging aspect of this approach though:
The antidote to helping friends and loved ones OUT of extreme belief feels counterintuitive to most.
When we hear a hateful extreme belief expressed, the NATURAL reaction is to respond with anger and condemnation!
But unfortunately, this approach just doesn't work.
When we throw our anger at someone, though it may feel justified and warranted, it drives that person FURTHER into their extreme belief.
Here's one quick story from my life...
When I was in the Moonie cult, we were ordered to SELL items for the cult (flowers, candy, etc.).
Often while doing this, people would yell things at me (sometimes they'd even throw beer cans at me). When this happened, it drove me DEEPER into the cult. After all, the cult taught us that we were the persecuted ones & these outbursts of anger toward us VALIDATED this!
In the last few years (especially during the stressful pandemic), there has been renewed interest in seeking help from a therapist or a life coach.
I APPLAUD paying attention to your mental health, but one should know what a healthy client/therapist relationship looks like. Why?
Because a therapist/life coach can exert influence over someone in the SAME manner as a cult leader if they are unethical. The power dynamic at play-an authority figure with "answers" over a client seeking help for their perceived deficiencies-can lead to some truly bad outcomes.
Here are some red flags to look out for if you're seeking treatment or if you already see someone:
-Therapy should be time-limited, address a specific issue, and move toward agreed-upon goals. A client should not be seeing a therapist for ten years and not be doing any better.