Folks know that I love #familyorfiance as a show that features Black family and love, and the importance of therapy in navigating relationships. But in the most recent episode someone raised a concern about abuse that the show just kind of bypassed in a way that felt egregious.
The person who raised concerns about the abuse was the bride-to-be's mom, based on reports from a sister who lives with the couple (a sister who they curiously didn't invite to the show, instead bringing family who doesn't know them as a couple at all).
Rather than discuss the issue of how his temper and how he speaks to her (which the couple AND the mom all raised), the bride blew up at the accusation and the mom went around apologizing for raising a serious concern. Red flags glaring all around.
Not sure how the show felt so much more meaningful the first season was with the same amount of time, but I hope they return to some of that. I'm deeply invested in this show as the only one I've seen really showcases Black families and help them heal.

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29 Dec
Wanted to share with y'all a news story that has always stayed with me and that I discuss with my students every semester.

In 2008, a 26 year-old mom named Tarika Wilson was at home with her kids and holding her baby in her arms.
Police officers in plainclothes burst into her house with guns drawn. Tarika went to a bedroom to hide with her kids. The police first killed their two dogs. Then they shot at the bedroom, killing her and shooting her baby who was permanently disfigured.
This scene has played in my mind too many times to count, her children watching terrified as a bunch of men kill their mother, seeing their baby brother bleeding and screaming in pain. I try not to think much past that.
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28 Dec
LOL. I really thought that COVID would force us to expand access to paid sick leave & leave to care for ill loved ones.

Of course it just ended up with us making sick people go to work or neglect their sick family, as always.

You'd think I would know this place by now.
Maybe I should just make this my chain of "if we had done better with COVID fantasies" and used this as an opportunity to enrich the lives of normal Americans rather than corporations.

For example, what if we used COVID as an opportunity to forgive student debt instead?
What if we used COVID as an opportunity to be more flexible about k-12 schooling, allowing kids with disabilities and other challenges to learn aside peers at home (and still have access to peers when they were well)?
Read 11 tweets
27 Dec
I just realized that I can only name 10 Whoopi Goldberg films off the top of my head and I'm pretty disappointed in myself.

Ghost, The Color Purple, How Stella Got Her Groove Back, Jumping Jack Flash, Sister Act 1 &2, [Angelina Jolie sociopath movie], Made In America,
[Movie where she played a carribean nanny], For Colored Girls (Tyler Perry version)...[Jumping Jack Flash 2?], [Film where she pretends to be a white man to succeed in business] That's all I can think of. I tried to come up with a 24 hour Whoopi marathon list and I petered out.
needed to share my shame.

Until that Roman Polanski defense, being Whoopi Goldberg's assistant was my dream job. A natural haired normal looking dark-skinned Black woman movie star??? She was my childhood hero, especially the drama kid in me.
Read 5 tweets
27 Dec
Just catching up on The Morning Show and the storyline of the young assistant who throws herself heavily at a reluctant male superior and goads him into an affair with her against a #MeToo plot backdrop feels... like a questionable choice.
Maybe it gets better, but the whole twenty-four year old subordinate who can't keep her hands off her middle-aged male superior and is hampered by an over-zealous HR feels like a Qanon "what if" fantasy and a red herring #MeToo argument to me.
I get their overall point, which is that a lot of sexual harassment is built into the everyday culture that we just learn to laugh off, that it's all gray, that consent is just too complex.

But consent pretty straightforward and a lot of #MeToo cases aren't gray at all.
Read 4 tweets
26 Dec
It's really depressing me that we've mostly decided to turn a public health crisis into an apocalyptic choose-your-own-covid-adventure game.
The short-term and long-term impacts of this virus won't be felt privately.
I totally get that COVID-19 can no longer be contained, but giving up entirely on mitigation when 1) kids under 5 still can't be vaccinated and 2) we still don't know very much about the long-term effects of this virus seems like a really, really bad plan.
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5 Nov
I really wish people paid attention to the ACTUAL experience of Black children in public schools rather than made up white grievance stories.

A thread:
Schools regularly ban Black children from wearing their hair the way it grows out of their heads. Braids have been banned. Covering their hair, too, has been banned.

chalkbeat.org/2020/1/16/2112…
Here's another list of discrimination against Black children's bodies in school, including a white teacher cutting off a 7 year old girl's hair in front of her class as punishment:

thegrio.com/2017/06/08/bla…
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