11 fundamental questions to answer before marriage:
1. What’s their stress language?
How do they act when they’re overwhelmed?
2. How have they applied the lessons they learned from their previous mistakes?
Can I forgive them for all their previous mistakes without a trial?
1. What’s their stress language?
How do they act when they’re overwhelmed?
2. How have they applied the lessons they learned from their previous mistakes?
Can I forgive them for all their previous mistakes without a trial?
3. Do we agree on important things + contrast comfortably elsewhere?
e.g. Life vision, core values/life principles, health, relationship standards, family planning.
4. Are they globally healthy or on track to be by their own merits?
Mentally, physically, financially, etc.
e.g. Life vision, core values/life principles, health, relationship standards, family planning.
4. Are they globally healthy or on track to be by their own merits?
Mentally, physically, financially, etc.
5. Are we passionately drawn to each other, do we feel energized or stifled by each other, are we enthusiastically connected?
6. Do we function well as a team?
Can we be both follower + leader effectively as appropriate, according to our values?
Do they collaborate or control?
6. Do we function well as a team?
Can we be both follower + leader effectively as appropriate, according to our values?
Do they collaborate or control?
7. Do we respect, honor + trust each other by default?
Can we communicate respectfully even if we doubt/disagree with each other’s intentions?
8. Do we make each other + our lives better or worse?
Do they take you away from your growth, peace of mind, health or add to it?
Can we communicate respectfully even if we doubt/disagree with each other’s intentions?
8. Do we make each other + our lives better or worse?
Do they take you away from your growth, peace of mind, health or add to it?
9. Do we conflict + confront in heathy ways?
Are they accountable or defensive?
Do we grow together or apart after we disagree?
Do we disagree + problem solve effectively?
10. Do we love in a way that’s healthy + meets my relationship needs?
Do we have secure attachment?
Are they accountable or defensive?
Do we grow together or apart after we disagree?
Do we disagree + problem solve effectively?
10. Do we love in a way that’s healthy + meets my relationship needs?
Do we have secure attachment?
11. Judging them on who they are today, do I know their worst traits?
Can I accept + live with their flaws + vice versa?
Is their shadow side well integrated?
Do we bring reprieve to each other’s weaknesses or do we antagonize them?
Happy vetting and remember:
🧠+🔥+♥️=🎯
Can I accept + live with their flaws + vice versa?
Is their shadow side well integrated?
Do we bring reprieve to each other’s weaknesses or do we antagonize them?
Happy vetting and remember:
🧠+🔥+♥️=🎯
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