You don’t have to be perfect to find your Ideal Match. There is someone for everyone, but here’s the caveat… Who you are decides who is compatible for you.

The more expectations you have for your relationship and your future spouse the more responsibility you have to yourself to grow, heal & refine yourself.

But you can do that without losing your authenticity, here’s how:

If you don’t have a decision filter… you’ll keep making choices that cost you years of cleanup.

For example:

•You say “yes” when you mean “no.”
•You chase what feels good now, but sabotages your future.
•You keep dating the wrong people.
•You build a life you eventually want to escape. It’s not because you’re reckless. It’s because you’re making decisions without a meaningful values-driven system you align with.

When emotion, habit, or other people’s agendas call the shots… you lose alignment, self-respect and momentum.

True intelligence in a wife goes beyond IQ or advanced degrees.

If you want to know how to vet for a woman like that, here’s what you do👇🏼 Look for a woman with curiosity, emotional depth and the ability to connect with your inner world…

Someone who inspires you, shares your values and truly gets you.

These qualities spark the intellectual intimacy and chemistry that make a marriage thrive.

Cont…

When a man scoffs at the idea of marrying an intelligent woman…

He’s not rejecting intelligence.
He’s avoiding the discomfort of having his flaws exposed and how emotionally unsafe he feels in the presence of healthy feminine strength.

🧵 Let me expand: He assumes “intelligent” means:

• Abrasive
• Disrespectful
• Neurotic
• Impossible to lead

But he’s not describing female wisdom. He’s describing trauma. Often rooted in a mother who criticized, controlled, or shamed him, then called it love.

You’re smart, self aware and you want a healthy relationship…

So why do you keep falling for people who leave you anxious, confused, or questioning your worth?

Here’s the truth: It’s not just bad luck or a “bad picker.”

It’s a survival pattern. 🧵 Most of my clients are emotionally intelligent and introspective.

But they keep ending up in one sided, emotionally unavailable, or chaotic relationships.

Not because they’re broken,
but because their nervous system learned to crave the familiar feeling of uncertainty.

No, you’re not “too much” or “too needy.”

You just learned early on that love had to be earned by being easy, agreeable, or impressive.

So now, when someone shows up for you… you panic and shape shift into who you think they want—to feel safe being loved. That panic isn’t drama, it’s survival. If you grew up feeling like affection came with strings, then receiving love can feel dangerous.

Guilt floods in and you shrink, overfunction, perform just to avoid the fear of being “too difficult to love.”

Telling people to hurry up and get married is dumb.

Here’s what I’ve learned after working with hundreds of men & women trying to do it right… The data doesn’t support it. The outcomes don’t justify it. And the reasoning is based in fear, not wisdom.

But I keep seeing posts saying things like:

“Stop overthinking and just get married.”

“Don’t wait too long, or you’ll miss your chance.”

It sounds romantic. But it’s terrible advice.

Here’s what most people get wrong about vetting & why you’re still stuck in dating 👇 Most people assume vetting is about getting what they desire.

“My Ideal Partner”

That may be the byproduct, but that’s not what “vetting” means.

Let me explain 👇

Shy Women Make Great Wives & This Is Why… In a world that rewards loud confidence and constant visibility, it’s easy for shy, modest women to wonder:

“Am I too quiet to be chosen?”

The truth?

Shy women often make incredible wives!

They’re discerning, deeply loyal, emotionally attuned and bring peace into a relationship… not performance.

Their quiet strength creates safety. Their reserved nature invites trust. Their values are grounded vs reactive.

If this is you…

Why women are obsessed with my text coaching program 💬

One of my clients recently realized something that flipped her entire approach to dating:

“Flattering the ego is not the same as fulfilling the soul.”

She was attracting all kinds of people, but not the right ones.

Why?

Because she hadn’t created a strong vetting filter. She was still casting a wide net instead of a wise one.

In just a few days of text coaching, we reframed everything and now, she’s grounded, authentic and attracting from alignment.

Another client said this:

“It’s been the most fruitful coaching experience I’ve had. I didn’t realize how many emotional thorns were still in my side.”

That’s the power of daily, responsive support. Like another lady client of mine explained...

“Unpacking the moment a thought arises, unfiltered and raw, produces the best results.”

THIS is why text coaching works. Not because it’s going to guarantee you'll be married in 6 months.

But because… it meets your needs in the moment and gently, but firmly encourages you to do the work you need to do to connect with your Ideal Match...

With my grounded high-level, high-touch, psychologically-informed, strategic coaching.

This isn’t accountability-only coaching. It’s calibrated, objective, emotionally intelligent guidance that meets you in the moment…

The feminine thrives in devotion. The masculine thrives in responsibility. The wounded masculine says: control or collapse.

The healthy masculine says: contain and lead.

Most people don’t need another course, ebook or podcast episode. They need a wise, emotionally attuned mentor they can lean on in real time—without breaking the bank! That’s exactly what my exclusive 1:1 text coaching provides!

Because let’s be honest:

Most intelligent, self-aware people don’t struggle because they’re clueless.

They struggle because they’ve never had support that meets them at their level & walks with them while they’re in it.

💍 Marriage is multidimensional, it can be approached in many different ways. For some:

1️⃣ It’s a romantic gesture, symbolizing love & devotion.

You’ve found your soulmate✨

More views below… 👇 For others it’s:

2️⃣ A sacred covenant, essential for intimacy and religious honor

A divine union 🙏

Keep going… 👇

Alignment is the new attraction.

Not abs. Not bravado. Not a 6-figure income. Real masculine presence starts with alignment. Alignment means your values, energy, goals, actions and relationships match. No more double lives. No more chasing women from a place of confusion.

If you’re over 35 and still single… this outdated advice might be what’s keeping you that way.

(4 and 5 are just for the ladies)👇🏼 6 Outdated Dating Tips Keeping You Single

For healthy, marriage-minded Conservatives

1.“You’re fine, you don’t have to do anything. Love will find you one day.”

→ Not without effort, it won’t. Passivity is a fool’s distraction. Be outcome independent sure, but doing nothing and expecting to have it all is just entitlement.

How to Create Sexual Tension Without Saying a Word…

and Why Most Men Fail 🥸

Most men either come on too strong… or play it so safe they become forgettable.

The result? No spark. No tension. Just flat energy.

They think seduction is about doing more. It’s not.

It’s about energy. Intention. Polarity and Frame.

Here’s how to create sexual tension with your steady, masculine presence 🧵 Sexual tension is the unspoken electricity that builds when desire is felt but not acted on too soon.

It lives in the pause. The restraint. The space between moments.

Without tension, there’s no chemistry. Without safety, there’s no trust.

You need both!

If you’re a good man and still being overlooked by women, you’re not weak…

You’re not lacking value…

You’re lacking polarity. Let me guess…

You’ve spent years becoming responsible, emotionally available and stable.

But if you don’t know how to create tension, leadership, or desire in the dynamic, she’ll say:

“You’re amazing… but I don’t feel that spark.” ☹️

Sound familiar?

There’s a difference between a woman who’s emotionally ready for commitment and one who’s still acting out her wounds.

Here’s what I teach my male clients to look for when vetting for emotional maturity and long-term potential 🧵👇 💚 Healthy women who ARE ready for a marriage minded relationship:

– Take feedback without getting defensive
– Seek repair after conflict, not just resolution
– Prioritize growth and emotional health
– Feel secure without constant attention
– Own their emotions instead of blaming you
– Don’t confuse drama with depth
– Stand by their values, even when it’s hard
– Can sit with discomfort without lashing out

Most women dream of a passionate romance—so when a man you’re falling for proposes with a beautiful ring, it’s tempting to believe it’s the real thing.

But if he’s sweeping you off your feet, whisking you away on lavish trips, showering you with gifts and jewelry, or proposing within the first 3 to 6 months…

There’s a strong chance you’re being love bombed.

Of course, he might genuinely believe you’re perfect and want to cherish you forever. And that can feel magical—until reality sets in and he realizes you’re human, with flaws.
That’s when the fantasy often falls apart.

In my experience, a relationship moving that fast has, at best, a 25% chance of lasting long-term… And the data backs it up:

Couples who date for less than a year before getting engaged have the highest divorce rates.

Those who date 1–2 years have a 20% lower risk of divorce, and couples who date for 3+ years see that risk drop by 50%.

Time doesn’t just reveal truth—it builds it.

How to Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person 🧵

…because choosing a life partner is the most important decision you’ll ever make 1) Know Yourself First:

Understand your triggers, values, needs, goals & what you truly seek in a relationship. Self-awareness is key.

2) Observe Actions Over Words:

People often show who they are through actions, not what they claim. Look for consistency & congruence.

4 Relationship Must Haves That are Non-Negotiable Before Dating: ➊ Emotional Health

This involves emotional resilience in the face of stress, conflict & negative emotions.

It’s the ability to experience & express yourself effectively through a wide spectrum of emotions and somatic feeling.

This includes: emotional availability, emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, emotional stability, emotional regulation & vulnerability.

These skills create the foundation for emotional connection and emotional intimacy in romantic relationships.