I want to talk about being safe, as a woman, within our movement. Especially for anon women if your anonymity is vital. Im not very tech savvy but on that side,if you’re using an email associated with your real name,consider changing it. Especially to something like proton mail.
But I’m not thinking specifically about safety against TRAs. Just safety. For example,I know some women have had weird interactions with straight GC men. In some cases they subsequently feel hesitant to break off the friendship as he knows their real name
There was also the instance where a prominent man allegedly handed over the name of a woman in this fight to a TRA who then went to the police about her. Many of us once gave our names and addresses to a man who later threatened to doxx women and went full TRA
Another man infiltrated a women's only Terven group by coming on here with an account purporting to be a woman. There’s a popular account that seems to be claiming to be a woman that many know is run by a man. As well as a further account that I personally suspect is a man
Online can be a hall of mirrors. Even our own corner of it. To the wrong man your name is something he can apparently try to control you with if you’re anon. You can still be subject to boundary violations from men who turn up to fight for women’s rights. It’s sad but true
Be circumspect about sharing personal info&guard your anonymity if it’s crucial.If being anon is desired but not vital trust your instincts.Ive trusted many women&quite a few men with my name.Theyre genuine&have protected me.There are many good people here. As well as the odd cad
If you think someone might be a cad,don’t talk yourself out of it. Wait and see.More generally if you set up women only DM groups or DM groups to discuss imperative things then participants can verify themselves. One group I’m in had video calls to verify we were all women
If you’re revealing your personal life or political strategy etc in private, it isn’t unreasonable to want to know who you are revealing it to. An important weapon against both infiltrators and creeps will always be women talking to women. A lot of women do talk to one another
We know who women aren’t sure about. And who has crossed lines he shouldn’t have. (And occasionally, she). Women sticking together helps. If you’re an account who doesn’t have a network of Terven women friends and someone violates your boundaries, reach out to other women.
If someone mistreats you,makes you feel scared or otherwise gives you pause, come to one of the women you trust who has a longer established, a named or a bigger account. A lot of women are here for women and will listen. Ive been here years, and you can come to me too.
People who target women rely on you feeling powerless but you’re not. Just come find us.

Also, letting other women know that they don’t have to be your firm friend in order to come to you with their own concerns is useful.
There will be very few times a woman will tell you a serious thing about a man&be malicious about it instead of genuinely worried. Mostly she has given a great deal of benefit of doubt to him before she had her final straw and spoke to you. She deserves to be treated fairly.
And if you’re a good man in this movement, make sure your brothers know they can’t pull any nonsense on your watch. And tell your sisters, and mean it, that you will prioritise our safety and well-being no matter who it is who is transgressing

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7 Jan
Book 3 of 2022 was something a bit special. Taken from a publisher who highlights “forgotten books” I managed to find on kindle “What I remember” by Millicent Garrett Fawcett, the famous suffragist. Her words take you straight back to the 1800s…
She covers her life from her own perspective which is fascinating. Not only to understand the time she lived in (she was 4 when Prince Albert had his great exhibition and 2 at the start of the Irish potato famine) but also to glimpse the world in motion in that era
She met her husband at a party when he overheard her views on Lincoln’s assassination. She was a supporter of the north, horrified by slavery and thought Abe was a hero for fighting against it.
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6 Jan
This gives me pause.This is not the direction of my fight. Im not interested in seeing people with DSDs as the problem just because TRAs used them to try&assault women’s boundaries

Yes those with CAIS are genetically male.

They are also taken to be female at birth
Contrary to TRA assertion,women like me don’t want to karyotype people before giving them access to female spaces. CAIS is a special case. If youre born into a world that instantly sees you as female because of how you’ve developed you are at the same risk other girls are
Then,when you discover your medical condition and that you will never be pregnant you must have so much grief as a result. Discovering youre genetically male,contrary to the apparent external appearance&development of your own body must be a dissonance or difficulty for many
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I’m amazed at how apologetic I was when i joined this fight. How much I felt the need to soften the blow of every simple truth in order to protect the very people currently removing my rights and threatening me and my fellow women with outrageous harms for not accepting it.
That isn’t compassion,although it pretends to be&feels like it. When someone stamps on your foot hard,&you feel like you need to apologise for putting your foot in their path,that is part of their harm against you. It’s part of their power&it keeps you subordinated to that power
“Please let me justify why I don’t like someone stamping on my foot. Please understand Im not a hateful vindictive person for saying so.”

That’s where many of us start

Guilty for having human needs and monstered for expressing them.
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1 Dec 21
I’m intending to reread Men Trapped in Men’s Bodies but in the meantime I thought I’d do a thread with some extracts from the narratives of men with autogynephilia from the book

Understanding this paraphilia is imperative for all of us talking about the erosion of women’s rights
I think reading this book means a lot of confusing things fall into place for women

Such as the constant evocations of being a “girl” that we see from transwomen. As well as the surprising desire to have a cervical smear or “gynaecological care” that we have sometimes seen. Image
Despite the quote attributions, these are the words of anon agp transsexuals, not Lawrence.

This informant explained to me why, perhaps, some transwomen go out in extremely revealing and astonishing outfits. Such as the fishnet, breast revealing, top from yesterday Image
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