There are a lot of guys out there who legitimately need help in becoming desirable to women.
Society, movies, and porn have seeded their minds with falsehoods and the results are “nice guys” who aren’t nice but are frustrated and don’t know what to do.
Society, movies, and porn have seeded their minds with falsehoods and the results are “nice guys” who aren’t nice but are frustrated and don’t know what to do.
Alpha male accounts and “teachers” need these nice guys to buy into the crap they’re selling.
But the truth is these alpha dudes are duds in important areas that being a good man requires.
But the truth is these alpha dudes are duds in important areas that being a good man requires.
Having been a “nice guy”, let me drop 5 rules that will help those dudes actually become men and not alpha asses.
1. Do not change for anyone but yourself.
That doesn’t mean you’re perfect and it’s everyone else that needs to change.
You need to realize that you ARE WORTH changing for. You need to be your inspiration. Not some woman. Not some lifestyle.
That doesn’t mean you’re perfect and it’s everyone else that needs to change.
You need to realize that you ARE WORTH changing for. You need to be your inspiration. Not some woman. Not some lifestyle.
You need to like and love you enough to do what is best for you.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a woman by your side.
But if you change “for her”, you will use her as the excuse why you’re miserable.
Change for yourself.
But if you change “for her”, you will use her as the excuse why you’re miserable.
Change for yourself.
2. Learn to communicate well
Don’t hint. Tell people what you think. Learn tact but don’t beat around the bush or make them read your mind.
Clear communication would solve so many problems but no one wants to speak up first.
Don’t hint. Tell people what you think. Learn tact but don’t beat around the bush or make them read your mind.
Clear communication would solve so many problems but no one wants to speak up first.
3. Be physical.
Exercise. Find something you like to do and do it. Ride a bike. Go for a walk. Lift heavy things and put them back down.
This isn’t for vanity or to make you look better (although you will). Exercise releases hormones your body wants. It’ll help your mood.
Exercise. Find something you like to do and do it. Ride a bike. Go for a walk. Lift heavy things and put them back down.
This isn’t for vanity or to make you look better (although you will). Exercise releases hormones your body wants. It’ll help your mood.
It will give you confidence as you can bike/walk/row/lift longer or more difficult settings.
And as you become confident, people will notice. Which will give you more confidence.
Looking better and feeling better will happen, especially combined with a better diet.
And as you become confident, people will notice. Which will give you more confidence.
Looking better and feeling better will happen, especially combined with a better diet.
4. Learn your style and dress nice.
Imagine you finally land a date with that beautiful woman and you go to pick her up. Out she walks in a nice evening dress, and you’re there in shorts and a tee shirt.
Imagine you finally land a date with that beautiful woman and you go to pick her up. Out she walks in a nice evening dress, and you’re there in shorts and a tee shirt.
It bugs me a lot to see a dressed up woman with a dude that put in no effort.
At least put on some pants and a collared shirt.
There’s nothing wrong with wearing shorts and tees regularly.
But they need to be clean and in good condition.
At least put on some pants and a collared shirt.
There’s nothing wrong with wearing shorts and tees regularly.
But they need to be clean and in good condition.
If you’re not a shorts guy, that’s fine. Find your style. Find the look you want to rock and rock it.
Just don’t be dirty, worn, stained, or unkempt.
Just don’t be dirty, worn, stained, or unkempt.
5. Focus on your 5.
Everyone has 5 parts: spiritual, social, physical, mental, and emotional. Work on being healthy in all of these areas. We’re not seeking perfection but attempting to bring your life in balance will show to other people.
Everyone has 5 parts: spiritual, social, physical, mental, and emotional. Work on being healthy in all of these areas. We’re not seeking perfection but attempting to bring your life in balance will show to other people.
Okay, so I said 5, but I’m giving you two extras.
6. Stop being nice.
“Nice guys” complain that they’ve been nice and they’re not getting anywhere.
That’s because you’re not being nice for being nice’s sake. You’re hiding your ulterior motives behind the mask of being nice.
“Nice guys” complain that they’ve been nice and they’re not getting anywhere.
That’s because you’re not being nice for being nice’s sake. You’re hiding your ulterior motives behind the mask of being nice.
“If I’m nice to her, eventually she’ll see I’m a good guy.”
That’s called manipulation. Truly nice people don’t do that.
Be nice to be nice, not to get anything out of it.
That’s called manipulation. Truly nice people don’t do that.
Be nice to be nice, not to get anything out of it.
See, nice guys get mad when women still don’t respond to them because women can feel the actual motives behind the crap.
They say they want a nice guy and they mean an actual guy who is genuinely nice.
Be that.
They say they want a nice guy and they mean an actual guy who is genuinely nice.
Be that.
Ironically, one way to be genuinely nice is to stop being a doormat. Stop being available all the time. Stop talking to her about her boyfriends.
Set boundaries and stay within them.
She’ll respect you.
Set boundaries and stay within them.
She’ll respect you.
By setting boundaries, when you say “yes” you’ll actually mean “yes” and not “yes so maybe you’ll like me.”
Because by setting boundaries you will also say “no”. And so when you don’t want to do whatever, you politely say “no”.
She will respect you for this.
Because by setting boundaries you will also say “no”. And so when you don’t want to do whatever, you politely say “no”.
She will respect you for this.
7. Finally, your goal should not be a woman or sex or money or anything else like that.
Your goal should be to able to look yourself in the mirror every day and see someone that you are proud to be, someone with integrity, someone that is a good man.
Your goal should be to able to look yourself in the mirror every day and see someone that you are proud to be, someone with integrity, someone that is a good man.
You should be able to happy with just yourself even if no woman wants to date you.
Because when you find that peace, when you reach that happiness, chances are a woman will come then.
Because when you find that peace, when you reach that happiness, chances are a woman will come then.
Because there’s nothing a woman hates to see more than a happy man.
I’m kidding of course (a little) but seriously,
No woman wants to be with a miserable man. They don’t want to babysit you and have to constantly pet your ego.
Learn to be happy because you like who you are.
Don’t like who you are? You can change!!
No woman wants to be with a miserable man. They don’t want to babysit you and have to constantly pet your ego.
Learn to be happy because you like who you are.
Don’t like who you are? You can change!!
Btw, women who say they want a nice guy but date jerks don’t actually like dating jerks.
They don’t actually want to be treated poorly.
It’s just the jerks set boundaries and give them a challenge. Nice guys roll over and show their bellies.
They don’t actually want to be treated poorly.
It’s just the jerks set boundaries and give them a challenge. Nice guys roll over and show their bellies.
You don’t have to be a jerk to intrigue them.
Simply not being a doormat and setting boundaries will do a lot.
Simply not being a doormat and setting boundaries will do a lot.
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