We hear often from parents that schools' view of their child's gender ID issues made an already complex situation worse.
We ask schools: please understand gender identity problems from a child development & mental health perspective, not solely as a minority rights issue 1/6
Work with parents, and do everything to strengthen family bonds, not undermine them. Vulnerable adolescents need their parents, even as they may be railing against them. 2/6
It is staggering that schools need parental permission to take a pupil on a trip, yet can transition a child's gender without the parent's knowledge. Information-sharing is critical for safety. 3/6
Please recognise that social transition is an experimental psychological intervention with potentially far-reaching consequences that you are ill-equipped to intervene in without clinical oversight & the close involvement of parents . 4/6
Respect your pupil's search for meaning by doing all you can to keep a neutral space for uncertainty and exploration. Don't foreclose the opportunity for further change: these may be pupils working out their sexuality, or dealing with difficult feelings or past experiences. 5/6
Acknowledge that (1) teaching about minority gender identities (so pupils can participate as adults in a society that welcomes diversity & equal rights for all), and (2) supporting your own vulnerable pupils facing complex identity struggles, are fundamentally different. 6/6
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This week @ProfTanya failed a dad, who'd asked him for help about his 6th former child who IDs as non-binary. We'd like him to know he's welcome in our group, & we offer some advice, parent to parent. Tanya, please read it too if poss. thetimes.co.uk/article/my-chi…
Firstly, your evident closeness with your daughter is a strong protective factor. It's also excellent that you're trying to meet them where they're at. Your child needs you, and keeping that dialogue going will be vital in helping them overcome their distress about gender.
You're right to be alarmed that they might remove healthy body parts for the sake of "authenticity".
Here's the reality as experienced by a mum in our group only weeks ago:
We're glad Sonia Appleby got justice from @TaviAndPort. Genuine concerns about GIDS were dismissed as transphobia - an accusation @PaulJThinks has levelled at us too recently. We publish our correspondence with him below, in the public interest. 1/
Last yr Dr Heather Wood of GIDS told 3000 UK psychologists that we were "not an appropriate resource" for parents & our website was "blatantly transphobic". Her problem stemmed from our link to @Transgendertrd, a site many parents find helpful and informative.
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We're parents devoted to our kids in tough times. Our doubts about the efficacy of life-long experimental drugs are reasonable. We're proud NHS users. As we told the BMJ, the NHS should work with us, not point judgmental fingers as Dr Wood did. 3/ doi.org/10.1136/bmj.m2…
A thread about unsafe prescribing and the exploitation of children for money.
A thread about a rotten apple in the midst of the LGBT advocacy sector.
A thread about GenderGP.
GenderGP feeds off the GIDS waiting list: without it, the rationale to go private is much reduced.
Advocacy groups offer parents no other way to understand a child's distress, than that they must ‘b’ock’ the emergency of a 'wrong' puberty, which lead to a lifetime's medication.
But puberty blockers are not an elixir that unlocks a child's 'true self', they are an experimentally repurposed cancer drug of now dubious legality that offers indifferent results.
Recently, @BBCNewsnight reported on a 2005-6 review of @TaviAndPort ’s Gender Identity Development Service (then known as GIDU), by Dr David Taylor. We have obtained the report via FOI and are publishing it below.
Taylor’s report was prompted by staff disquiet at GIDS, which has continued ever since. @sueevansprotect was the whistleblower then, and has continued her work to safeguard children at GIDS most recently by launching a judicial review with Mum A and @keira crowdjustice.com/case/protect-c…
The report’s concerns are ominously familiar to those raised by staff more recently. As The Times reported in April 2019, many more staff have turned whistleblower in the years since.
The ‘social laboratory’ of the internet is widely acknowledged. GIDS itself sponsored a D.Psych thesis by Xinyi Lee, on “transgender youths’ experiences of using social media”, based on 11 patient interviews. Download it here:
As Dr Lee wrote, “parents & clinicians [should be] working together in ensuring that social media use does not pose a risk… it is important for parents to be equally aware of the nature of social media platforms and the potential benefits & risks posed”