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Feb 8 • 8 tweets • 1 min read

Hey white guys who facilitate trainings that include anti-harassment modules: when you say “I hate these trainings- just don’t be stupid”, it tells me two things. 1) you’ve never recognized harassment in your life and 2) you don’t take hostile work environments seriously.

Also not a comprehensive anti-harassment statement: “don’t be an asshole”, “don’t act like a dick”, “be smart”.

Anti harassment and anti hostile work environment trainings should include how to recognize harassment of others and yourself, what to do in those situations (FIRM steps), and an examination of biases.

“Don’t be stupid” is a passive approach that negates both your power in the workplace and shifts blame when you enable harassment or are the aggressor.

A little follow up: this is especially frustrating coming from men because 1) you have almost all the power, 2) men make up the highest percentage of harassers, and 3) I’ve know several men who were shut down by other guys when they were victims and it’s disgusting.

On this last point: men I know have been unable to identify they’re being harassed because other dudes dismiss their harassment, tell them to grow a thicker skin, or reinforce the myth that men can’t be harassed.

OR they identify the harassment and other men treat them like they’re weak, not trustworthy, or just generally exclude them and make their life hell.

You’re not serving ANYONE by not thinking critically about your place in a work environment and taking these things seriously- especially not your bros.

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