Thread by @davidgmandel

Thanks @outofhiscontrol for sharing this. Exactly what I was looking for. I'm going to comment on this knowing it is draft form.

https://twitter.com/outofhiscontrol/status/1495769021567971335

In reading the case study after para 195 I was happy to see how high quality mental health services for a child survivor was presented. My other reaction was to the invisibility of her perpetrator father, who she is still having contact with.

Her ambivalent,totally understandable feelings about him are the center of the counseling. Yet there is zero mention of: whether or not he is engaging in continuing post separation #coercivecontrol; the quality of his parenting toward her and coparenting with her other parent;

whether or not he has acknowledged his behavior, admit he was wrong, is willing to listen to her feelings especially those of confusion, anger, sadness distrust; whether he supporting her attending therapy or she needs to keep a secret from him

If we aren't promoting the importance of knowing these answers to these questions,we are setting up situations where responsibility for fixing the effects of abuse are still pushed onto adult & child survivors.I'm not naively suggesting that all perpetrators are capable of change

But all professionals can taught to pay attention to these dynamics.

We must stop confusing high quality support services for children exposed to perpetrators' behaviors for practices that name and respond to on-going post separation coercive control

...& articulate expectations of perpetrators' behaviors to support healing. Examples like this teach professionals to ignore accountability for perpetrators as parents,make adult & child survivors do all the work;fail at giving language to use in family & child protection matters

We need to support high quality service delivery for child survivors that integrates an assessment for post separation coercive control, & on-going consideration of the perpetrators' responsibility for the abuse of work with children.