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'Big Eyes' (2014) was on the TV the other day. It doesn't mention abuse or #CoerciveControl and most disturbingly (or well-fittingly) it is a Weinstein production but it is actually an excellent watch to follow the dynamics of coercive and controlling behaviour and its impact./1
The story begins with Margaret just having left her husband and the father of her daughter. He is described as controlling. We get a feeling of her escaping an abusive home. He attempts to remove her from M's care by claiming that she is 'mental unwell'./2
M attempts to rebuild their life. She gets a job in a new city and channels a lot of her love, energy and time into her paintings. She meets Walter while selling paintings on the street. She is in a vulnerable place and needs stable people that she can trust and lean on. /3
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WHAT HE SAYS TO YOU
- versus -
WHAT HE SAYS TO OTHERS

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#coercivecontrol
To you: You’re too beautiful to do the housework. I don’t want you to cook/clean/tidy.

To others: She thinks she’s too good to do the cleaning. She never does anything around the house.
To you: You are so good to your friends, they don’t deserve you and everything you do for them.

To others: She thinks you’re ungrateful and don’t appreciate everything she does for you.
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Let’s talk about #AndrewTate He was arrested in 2015 for rape. The investigation took 4 years. The CPS decided not to prosecute. In that time he was in Big Brother & ALLOWED to build a name for himself as a self proclaimed misogynist & coercive controller vice.com/en/article/bvm…
He made lots of money from targeting, love bombing & manipulating & exploiting women. He coerced them to go on webcams & perform sexually. He called it the “lover boy method.” I call it coercive control. It’s a CRIME in 🇬🇧
He set up an ‘academy’ to teach boys how to groom, exploit & manipulate girls. He called it the “Pimpin Hoes Degree.”I call it organised crime, grooming & coercive control. He TOLD everyone what he was doing. It’s no secret. It’s on his website too.
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#OrangeTheWorld - A thread on reproductive control, coercion and entrapment 🧵

As a #trapped populations scholar, I have lately spent a lot of time thinking about reproductive #coercion, #control and #entrapment. (i)
The #familycourts appear to fail to understand, acknowledge and interrupt these dynamics of #coercivecontrol in their current system. (ii)
Many perpetrators of #coercivecontrol will already begin to put pressure on or introduce the idea of a child during the early love bombing phase. (iii)
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Eftersom polis, åklagare, ansvariga politiker fortfarande inte förstår vad #coercivecontrol är, att det finns forskning om vad som föregår mord på kvinnor och eftersom polis bortförklarar mord på kvinnor som "naturliga" trots en kontrollerande man, följer de #8stages igen.🧵
The Homicide Timeline – En forskningsbaserad modell för att förstå och värdera risken för mord på kvinnor i relation utarbetad av f.d. polisen, kriminologen och professorn Jane Monckton Smith. #8stages
Den här modellen kan rädda liv. Vad kännetecknar ett farligt förhållande/en dödlig relation? Vad säger forskningen? Jo, de åtta stegen som föregår mord på kvinnor är:
#8stages
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Let’s talk about the chronic low self-esteem following a campaign of psychological and emotional abuse.

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We live in a world that sees physical violence as harmful and psychological/emotional abuse as minor.

A significant reason is down to the fact that physical violence is easier to evidence and so, therefore easier to *SEE*.
And whilst this is true, it fails to understand and acknowledge the severe harm that is inflicted in the absence of physical abuse.

And it’s deep-rooted longevity.
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Let’s talk about the trauma of not being believed.

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Too many of us have personal experience of not being believed by a person we trust.

Or of going to the police to report a crime (domestic abuse, rape or assault, for example) and not being believed…
What is it like to go to someone you know and trust, or to report to someone who is supposed to protect you, and to be ignored, dismissed, not believed or accused of lying?
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🧵The govt must tackle the abuse of the Child Maintenance Service, a scheme that victims say is being used against them as a means of continuing #economicabuse and #coercivecontrol.

More than a third of parents who owe money under the scheme refuse to pay.news.sky.com/story/woman-wh…
CEO of @Gingerbread, @_VictoriaBenson said:

"We are really concerned the CMS doesn't support survivors of domestic abuse.
"We hear a lot of stories from people who phone our helpline or who speak to us, where they feel...their ex partner is using the CMS to perpetuate the abuse, to perpetuate coercive control.
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🕚AT 11am PST we will be hosting a discussion on the many forms that #DomesticViolence can take and recent policies that seek to address this ongoing challenge. Watch the livestream 👉ethnicmediaservices.org/media-briefing… @jennalane @nnedv @NSVRC
Welcome to today's briefing, Domestic Abuse Takes Many Forms. We'll be live tweeting today and of course you can watch the livestream here: ethnicmediaservices.org/media-briefing…
1 of every 2 people in California, including children, have been exposed to #domesticviolence, notes EMS director Sandy Close citing data from @BlueShieldFound
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1/Thread 🧵 Trigger warning

Dear @MarkSpeakman

I need to talk to you about the Coercive Control bill you are trying to quickly push through before the election.

First, let me establish that I very much want to see coercive control criminalised.

However….
@AbigailBoydMLC
2/ this bill is not fit for purpose & here’s why

Your bill says that the survivors must be able to prove that the abuse was carried out with ‘an INTENT to control the victim’

But, here’s the thing…
#auspol #coercivecontrol @coercivecontrol @DrEmmaKatz @DrKathlWild @DrProudman
3/ Coercive control is ALL ABOUT disguising abuse with a benevolent intent.

Almost every component of coercive control has a false, BUT superficially good intent.

Let’s go through each component.
@sally_stevensxn @LynAnge11 @jessradio @RonniSalt @sammostyn @DrKate_Miller
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As a society, we struggle to recognise false presentation.
We even have an acronym WYSIWYG- What you see is what you get which- a computing term, which applies in a wider context.

Except that with #coercivecontrol abusers what you see is NOT what you get.

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Whilst we are told that presentation is important and first impressions count, we seem to *forget* to look behind what is being presented and place reliance on the veneer.

So, of course, we aren’t going to recognise an abuser who diligently strives to come across favourably.
And the MOST IMPORTANT thing we need to understand about #coercivecontrol is that the FIRST THING a controller will do is control the image others have of them.

So they will strive to come across as:

☑️ Soft spoken
☑️ Kind
☑️ Generous
☑️ Charitable
☑️ Popular
☑️ Successful
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MGK is abusing Megan Fox and no one cares because she’s not their idea of a “perfect” victim: a thread 🪡
Megan’s friends are concerned for her well-being. If it was a completely healthy relationship, why would “alarm bells” be going off?
Colton introduced her to psychedelic drugs that traumatized her early in their relationship
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When it comes to recognising and evidencing #coercivecontrol , it is crucial to have an understanding of a whole different set of vocabulary.

Why? Because, in the absence of physical injury, we need to to *see* differently.

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First we need to define #coercivecontrol.

“A strategic course of oppressive conduct that is typically characterized by frequent, but low-level physical abuse and sexual coercion in combination with tactics to intimidate, degrade, isolate, and control victims”.

-Prof Evan Stark
Red Flag 🚩

A sign of danger or imminent danger. Red flags are signs that a relationship may turn abusive.
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Police:
1-ignored Wing #Animez_UK ‘s #techabuse to me.
2- claimed speak up aggravated male anger #coercivecontrol- implied>stay silent & endure 14yrs of techabuse as long as I am physically safe.
3-my fault to be abused & for Wing to harm me physically?

ABSURD
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Wing from #Animez_UK calls himself ‘eternal’ who never goes away & stops techabuses me.
-A serial #stalker will find his way to stalk & monitor me.
-I never send tweets, he stalks my tweets.
-I never contacted him, he forces himself in to techabuse me.
#DAVRO #coercivecontrol Image
How can I stop speaking up when he never stops the #techabuse to me which is equally serious to physical abuse? A complex case doesn't degrade its seriousness when the scars and injuries are less evident to physcial and sexual abuse. #Animez_UK #coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
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Wing from #Animez_UK #hates I speak up against his #techabuse and have #freedom to enjoy life. Wing tried deadly to #hack & #abuse my BBF till he was unable to communicate with me. #Coercivecontrol

Wing enjoys malicious hacking #power to #destroy whoever he hates the most. ImageImageImage
Wing from #Animez_UK compromises my BBF A’s Apple ID to glitch internet, control & #restricts his freedom to talk to me on #instagram. A needed me. Wing ensured he will further #oppress A who was suffering till he was eliminated. #Domesticabuse #techabuse #coercivecontrol Image
Wing from #Animez_UK select and pick his targets he hates and witness their suffering. When target is suffering in life, Wing ensures he aggravates the suffering and pain from people for Wing to elevate the #abuse of power to be in #control of everyone he hates. #CoerciveControl
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Since your malicious cyberattack timelines matched cybersecurity’s research to strengthen security for years and now, you hack alone but with a cooperative goal to damage national security. Which Advanced Persistent Threats group/s #APTs are you in, #Animez_UK? Image
Converting traditional crime to cyber-enabled crime and becomes a malicious attacker against the UK, for

1- financial income,
2- #sexual desire and #harassment with #pornography sent to #women,
3- attacks for #politics against the UKGOV.

#Animez_UK ImageImage
1st stage- early life:
-Experienced #exclusion/#discrimination.
-Didn’t learn to communicate with #women.
-favours #authoritarianism.
-enjoys #control targeted women & whom against his will.
- Expresses hidden #hatred & #violence on through cyberattacks.

#Animez_UK ImageImage
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This thread 🧵is aimed to show every way Depp controlled Amber on what experts have called "all the hallmarks of a #CoerciveControl relationship"

How their relationship affected Amber? "was like watching a slow-motion gunshot" Whitney testified
#IStandWithAmberHeard 1/17
Her sister began to falter, Whitney declared. "She was so physically unwell... she was emaciated"

Let's remember between many offensive things Depp also called Amber "fat-ass" on audios
#CoerciveControl 2/17

How it started/how it ended
Control over Amber’s appearance: Depp controlled every aspect of Amber's life, including her clothes. He set his own stylist to dress Amber, which turned her style more and more conservative
#IStandWithAmberHeard 3/17
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Johnny Depp has always been abusive. A Quick 🧵 of examples because #JohnnyDeppWillAbuseAgain.

Winona Ryder told us that Depp used to smash up everything. #CoerciveControl #DARVODepp Image
#JohnnyDeppIsAnAbuser #JohnnyDeppWillAbuseAgain

Winona was a minor & Depp well into adulthood when they started dating.
Winona Ryder told us more than once that she was a minor when Depp started after her. #JohnnyDeppWillAbuseAgain #JohnnyDeppIsAnAbuser
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There is so much #domesticviolence
#coercivecontrol in songs.

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Every Breath You Take- Police

Every breath you take And every move you make Every bond you break, every step you take I’ll be watching you Every single day And every word you say Every game you play, every night you stay I’ll be watching you Oh, can’t you see You belong to me?
Run for your Life - The Beatles

Well I’d rather see you dead, little girl
Than to be with another man
You better keep your head, little girl Or you won’t know where I am
You better run for your life if you can.
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Having fun with cyberstalking #UKGOV, attacking organisations, universities & individuals connected to the justice system, UK #military against #NCSC, treating #intelligence & #GCHQ as jokes to your 15- 20 yrs malicious #hacking for #China & #Russia inside #Britain, @Animez_UK?01
Converting #traditional crime to cyber-enabled crime and becomes a malicious #cyberattacker against the UK, for

1- #financial income,
2- #sexual desire and #harassment with #pornography sent to #women,
3- attacks for #politics against the #UKGOV.

@Animez_UK @NCSC

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1st stage- early life:
-Experienced #exclusion/#discrimination.
-Didn’t learned to communicate with #women.
-favours #authoritarianism.
-enjoys to #control targeted women & whom against his will.
- Expresses hidden #hatred & #violence on through cyberattacks.

@Animez_UK @NCSC Image
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It can be difficult to recognise emotional cruelty.

Let’s talk
- Ghosting 👻
- Cutting Off ✂️
- The Silent Treatment 🌬
- Stonewalling 🧱
- Withholding ❤️‍🩹
- Destabilisation 🎢

as emotional and psychological abuse.

#coercivecontrol

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An abuser enforces power and control in a number of ways,to dominate and force their victim into submission.

They often do it by deliberately WITHDRAWING their love and affection if their victim doesn’t comply with their *rules* or conform to what is expected of them.
This deliberate rejection causes confusion and panic in the victim as, often, they don’t understand what they did to be ignored in this way.

It is passive violence that can profoundly damage the person on the receiving end.
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A THREAD:
Can't get over how this whole genocide is a macro example of how coercive control/abuse turns into deadly violence. 1st they get you to alienate or withdraw from those around you, make false promises, make you believe you can trust them. Then... 1/4
Comes the gaslighting, the fake stories to everyone around you to make you seem irrational, then when you or anyone begins to question them they get physical. Now, they try and convince you it isn't their fault(someone else made them do it), let's just talk it out, they say: 2/4
If only YOU do x,y,z then THEY won't hurt you anymore. That's a lie, the next time will be worse, then if you try & escape/get help they threaten to kill you, everyone you love, and even threaten to kill themselves(nuclear). We see this dynamic on a micro scale all the time! 3/4
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Today marks ten years since my sister Sarah Gosling lost her life.

Sarah met Ian Hope in 2010 on Facebook and quickly they began a digital relationship. In no time they decided that Ian would ride up from Newcastle to Norfolk to collect her on his motorbike.

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They did a ‘midnight flit’ and set up home in Newcastle - moving into the flat he’d previously shared with his former girlfriend.

Charming and ‘impulsive’ he’s convinced her that they were better off together.

She was unable to properly explain to her husband and kids...

2/.
...why she’d left. Phone calls were short and limited and when she visited them the visits were punctuated by texts and calls from Hope ‘just checking’.

By November 2010 her life had become one of walking into eggshells and trying to please him. He was checking her...
3/.
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Thanks @outofhiscontrol for sharing this. Exactly what I was looking for. I'm going to comment on this knowing it is draft form.
In reading the case study after para 195 I was happy to see how high quality mental health services for a child survivor was presented. My other reaction was to the invisibility of her perpetrator father, who she is still having contact with.
Her ambivalent,totally understandable feelings about him are the center of the counseling. Yet there is zero mention of: whether or not he is engaging in continuing post separation #coercivecontrol; the quality of his parenting toward her and coparenting with her other parent;
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