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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Feb 2

THREAD: Male sexual energy I like vs male sexual energy I do not like
(these are examples, not absolute, just an attempt at pinning down a loose thing)

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I DO NOT LIKE (in social gatherings):
*positions himself directly facing me, especially if blocking view/flow of others
*seems to agree with me too much, or
*does 'performative' disagreements; stuff that feels not-important or like he doesn't 'really' believe it
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*seems both afraid of bringing up sex work and also interested in bringing it up at the same time
*downplays things about himself he thinks i might not like
*looks at me more than others, but also gives off like... sheepish vibes about it? like if i pointed it out he'd deny
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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Jan 26

WOULD YOU STOP PPL FROM BEING BORN: A THREAD
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Do you have ADHD? || If you press the button, no person with ADHD is ever born again (or develops ADHD through other means), though existing people are left unchanged. Do you press the button?

Are you overweight? || If you press the button, no person who becomes overweight (unless they decide to be and actively try) is ever born again, though existing people are left unchanged. Do you press the button?

Are you autistic? || If you press the button, no person with autism is ever born again (or become autistic through other means), though existing people are left unchanged. Do you press the button?

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Jan 24

A computer screen has clear info you can engage with, but the circuit boards shooting 1s & 0s everywhere have no info we can interact with; it makes no sense to say something like "oh, more 0s came out of this corner of the board, does this correspond to mom emailing me?" 1/

I feel similarly about very deep psychedelic experiences or very young childhood; something is going on, that *does* end up corresponding to something meaningful, but it's occurring at such a different plane of meaning that squinting at it with computer-screen eyes is useless. 2/

So I'm sus about things that try to connect current psychological states to your birth experience, or thinking you could do good communication with someone blazed on psychedelics. Seems full of projection to me, viewing through a lens you aren't aware you have. 3/

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Jan 22

You do not have ownership over other people's behavior! They have no inherent obligation to you, and you have no right to demand they behave differently than they want to.
You *can* create boundaries around you own behavior - e.g. "if you make me feel bad, I'll leave"

Other people's right to their behavior does *not* extend to violating other people's rights to theirs; as in, people do not have the right to sexually assault you. Your property, your bodily autonomy, these basic things all 'protected classes' in my eyes.
But besides this:

Your pain is your responsibility, it is created by you, owned by you. Because it's your responsibility, it's also your *right* - you have an unquestionable right to it, it is inherently valid, and nobody can tell you you shouldn't have it.

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Jan 8

hearin lots of ppl talkin about how psychedelics can cause harm; this is true, you should be careful - start with small doses and work your way up!
but psychs can also be great, i did a bunch 8 yrs ago and permanently stopped "suffering" - *without* losing contact with reality

For some ppl, psychedelics sort of 'erase' beliefs from your mind; the question is, is your brain the kind to fill in the erased gaps with anything (e.g., "i lost belief in materialism... so there *must* be the supernatural!") or is it the kind of brain to let them stay erased?

My theory is this is the thing that differentiates harmful experiences vs really wonderful experiences like I happened to have. Imo the benefit of starting doses real small and slow is you can figure out which type of brain you have before you hit big doses.

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