There is so much misunderstanding about trans people in this world. I’m still learning, and probably always will be trying to understand more. But it is not about gender conformity, or about trying to fit a child into the parents’ gender boxes. 
As the parent of a trans child, I never would have made the leap from gender non-conformity to her being trans. She came to me, with some trepidation—not because she didn’t trust me, but because she was still learning to trust who she was. It was a lot for her to process.
I’ll admit to being unsure at first. I hugged her, told her I love her, and started using what she told me is the name she wants to use. Meanwhile, I read all I could, reached out to others who have been through the self-discovery process she is going through.
I listened, as well as I could. We tend to think we know better as parents, and in many ways we do. But we can’t know what is going on in our child’s head or body, beyond approximating from our own experience. So I try to move with some humility through my own learning here.
I don’t know the motives or experiences of the poster in the initial screen grab, of course, and don’t seek to judge him. Factually, though, he is wrong. I don’t know the full transition path my child will follow, but I do know it is not about “fixing”; it is about affirming.
I love both of my kids for who they are. My trans daughter is beautiful and kind and smart. As she continues to discover herself, I will keep loving and supporting her—not for the body into which she was born, but for the human she is. No “fixing” required.
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