usually one of the first aspects of gender ideology young girls accept is “trans women are women”
why are trans women women? because they wear 5 pounds of makeup, have fake nails, get silicone boobs, ass implants, lip fillers, dress provocatively, and act very sexual
then those young girls look at themselves and their life and see that they don’t do any of those things, in fact all of those things sound really exhausting and scary, so that must be a sign that they could be trans!
they think that’s what “femininity” is. and it doesn’t help that they’re also constantly being fed beauty industry propaganda and social media influencers. without having many normal friends or knowing normal older women, it’s easy to get confused and think that stuff is “women”
they think because they aren’t like a trans woman or an instagram model, that therefore they’re “masculine” and “not a girl”
in reality most of them are fairly average girls, they just have a really confused picture of what femininity and womanhood are
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a suicidal person feels hopeless for a multitude of complex reasons, and may latch onto one idea they think will change everything. like changing genders, for example.
even the idea that death will relieve the pain itself is such a desperate leap of logic.
responding to any situation by wishing for death or feeling that life isnt worth living betrays that a person has been seriously mentally and emotionally wounded, and does not have a life with connection, worth, and meaning. these are problems far deeper than not liking your body
if someone is convinced that X drastic idea is their only chance at escaping a life not worth living, those who know better should help that person heal those other problems contributing to the hopelessness
not reaffirm their belief that they have no choice but to do X
a lot of the girls who get caught up in wanting to be trans are the type who are very emotional, very sensitive, overthink, and feel things passionately
in ways that their parents and peers can’t keep up with
theyre “too much”
trans/sj is appealing bc it itself is very melodramatic, so they feel like they can be intense among these people and not feel so out of place
it’s one of the only scenes to fit in with other intense people and artists these days
the trans community also “validates” their incremental exploration of being trans which feels refreshing compared to feeling misunderstood and downplayed by family/peers
they feel everything intensely so each time someone misunderstands/downplays it feels like massive rejection
a lot of "beauty" body things viscerally freak me out... i always feel like filled lips are going to explode and splatter lip matter everywhere,,, i always wonder like "what if that girls piercing snags on something and gets ripped out ouch ouch ouch" EEK
the absolute worst is when a girl with lip filler has one of those piercings that goes DIRECTLY THROUGH THE MIDDLE OF THE LIP
some of the staunchest fat acceptance advocates are thin or normal weight girls who are coping with being able to internally regulate their body image issues
anyone who has spent time in eating disorder recovery spaces knows what i mean
"if i can convince myself its okay for other people to be morbidly obese then maybe i will start to be okay with my own weight which is significantly less than theirs"
and on the other hand i think some girls are almost like reactionary against fat acceptance because they know being fat is not healthy or attractive but they just take it to the extreme due to their psychological issues
i feel like a lot of girls (including me before) think long skirts are like too dressy, too feminine, too old fashioned etc but hear me out... theyre kind of one of the only longer garments that comfortably fit many womens body types
i used to think it was either leggings or stuffing myself into some awkward pair of jeans that hurt after 30 minutes or looking like lori lightfoot in trousers baggy enough to actually fit over my thighs 💀 but skirts are so low effort, comfy, and pretty
another problem with pants when u have a curvier body type is that even if you find ones that are more designed to accommodate your body type, they accentuate those features too much and u end up feeling kind of oversexualized when you werent going for that at all