I used to identify as a Feminist.
I looked to the examples of the suffragists who marched for equal voting rights
I looked to the examples of notable African women who fought for the right of the African girl child to access Education.
I looked to the examples of women everyday around me who despite the hurdles they faced, continuously achieved their goals.
But recently, those who claim to be Feminists are not people I want to identify with.
They are those who are fighting misogyny with misandry forgetting that two wrongs don’t make a right
They are those who are kicking against basic human decency, forgetting that we are all capable of making our choices
They are those who seem to be limited by poverty and shortsightedness, fighting roles that a little money can solve
They are those who are kicking against God’s order for marriage ignorant of the fact that He loves them more than they can ever love themselves
I realised that nowadays the feminism conversation is beginning to trivialise what those who started the movement fought for.
There are more important things than cooking and cleaning.
Some girls still have to face the horrors of genital mutilation
12 - 14 year olds are forced to feel the weight of a man’s body even before they fully understand their own
Female Engineers are still looked at as weird or not womanly because of the roles they occupy, I mean, someone once called me Egbere simply because I am an engineer
Women in Nigeria today cannot give their citizenship to their children. I mean, if a Nigerian woman get’s married to a non-Nigerian, her children cannot identify as Nigerian
I could go on and on
Please, Please and Please
Let’s not allow the Devil to use us
Hating Men and Rebelling against God is not the focus
Let’s not get distracted.
I seek to remind us today as the world celebrates the woman, that there are more important things to fight for.