#Tasawwuf is an integral part of how we find meaning in our lives. We can behold Allāh, thereby fostering gnosis, or internalize it as being attached to the ego. The latter often leads to anxiety, depression, self-rejection, various forms of addiction, and even suicide…
What is so critical to understand is that the process of finding meaning and healing is a *devotional*, not a cognitive, nor academic one. This sets tasawwuf distinctly apart from any psychological method, be it ‘Islamic’ or otherwise.
This doesn’t mean there’s no place for psychology, it just means that it doesn’t take the place of tasawwuf. Tasawwuf draws upon God for strength. Psychology draws upon the mind (ego). Tasawwuf targets root ailments of the heart. Psychology provides techniques for symptomic care.
Psychological care is administered by a practitioner of that field. Tasawwuf is administered by a sūfi master.
Put simply, even if you have need for a psychologist (which is entirely fine), you still have (greater) need for tasawwuf.
A sūfī guide is a master of the inward and outward *sacred disciplines*. A psychologist is a master of _an_ inward *secular science*. It would be foolish to attempt to take spiritual mentorship from them regardless of how ‘Islamic’ it is. The two are fundamentally different.
As for books & articles, the only thing they can do is facilitate taking of the ‘prescription’. Ironic how none would ever say that psychological treatment can be taken from an article, yet there are ‘spiritual’ articles abound that entirely circumvent the *system* of tasawwuf.
Tasawwuf is about adherence to the shari’a, point blank. It’s about placing God on His Thrown _in your life_. This comes in stages and dawns upon one internally but is entirely precluded without the proper *spiritual first principles*.
الرحمن على العرش استوى
Those principles used to be second nature in understanding the Religion, yet now are consider a cryptic code distant from reality. One of the simplest aspects of #metafiqh is to set those spiritual first principles straight, because there can be no building without usūl…
In fact, if we reflect deeply, we may realize that the mental health crisis in our Community is because we’ve abandoned these spiritual first principles and so, instead of treading through this life as strong believers, parents, spouses, and scholars, we’re not making headway…
The sūfis have an exaggerated saying that is so relevant here.
لا ينفع عمل مع كبر ولا بطالة مع تواضع
meaning, no deed benefits along with arrogance and no inactivity harms along with humility.
Humility to the Islāmic tradition is a force in itself. It should be the drive.
In preparation for the descent of the ‘Ramadān Quran’ upon us, in tongue through the ta’awwudh, and in heart through goodwill toward all believers, let us also prepare our minds through humility.
The Quran is a cure because it mentors us through the Divine Knowledge of ar-Rahmān about His creatures. If we had this knowledge about ourselves already, we wouldn’t need the Qur’ān in the first place…
We can’t get to Allah except *through Him*. This is another way of stating the primary axiom of #metafiqh. Divine knowledge is above human knowledge. A simple, obvious principle that is so often breached. Ramadan is a fast from the ego, allowing the heart to re-emerges strong…
The revelation came to Rasūlullāh ﷺ when he was deeply reflecting on the earthly harms of his time. The light in his blessed heart was then reflected by the celestial realm through the descent of the Qur’ān, the teaching of ar-Rahmān.
My friends, if we’re seeking cure, finding love & mercy eclipsed by hatred & oppression, perhaps we aught to start by having rahma on yourselves. Fast from the ego. Be humble to your Loving Lord. The ego plays a game where it’s always the winner and you’re always the loser…
In conclusion, in comment on this post which I really had no idea was so…’different’…I forgot to say that I named my first born cub Abdur-Rahman. Pray for him and all my sweet children, please.
On the morning commute, my daughter asked to review the structure of Arabic verbs. She said,
الفعل المضارع مرفوع أليس كذلك؟
Present tense is marfū’, right?
I said, “Yes. It’s معرب (grammatically variable), as opposed to the past tense…
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“…which is مبني (grammatically inherent).” I gave her some examples, then said,
“Do you see the miracle of the Arabic language? It mirrors reality. Can we change the past — no, but we can change the present.”
In her intelligence, she said, “Mama, what about فعل الأمر ?
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I said, “The command tense is also مبني (inherent) but appears in different forms. Do you see now, my love, why Allāh chose the Arabic language for the Quran? It mirrors Reality.”
Meanwhile, she was eating breakfast. She said, شبعتُ (I am satiated). We said the masnun du’ā’.
A common sufi metaphor, in reference to the ‘masculine’ trait of generous sovereignty & the feminine trait of humble receptivity. All true believers (male & female), in relation to God, exhibit the ‘female principle’.
…but rather an expression of the relationship with the Divine in it being so beyond words that only the closest of human relationships could approximate it to the limits of the rational mind. Tasawwuf is supra-rational. Spiritual intelligence is the most sophisticated of all…
People are always enemies of what they don’t know, finding more comfort in denial than learning. Such is the curse of ignorance. Tasawwuf is the most courageous of all form of knowledge. The mind can only take one so far. Only cowards limit themselves to it. Those who know, know.
One of the most devalued tools of tarbiya is the spiritual harnessing of family fun.
Children, in their relationships with others, are deeply affected by non-rational influences...
This makes them both vulnerable and impressionable, in heightened sensitivity to their caregivers, who have only to exert the most positive emotions they can conjure to create a loving, lasting bond, stiched in time with the thread of beautiful memories.
The main objective of social media is to use, even manipulate, the evocative to *influence* the ‘public customer’.
That’s why the *rational* hardly has a place in the digital jungle.
There is a fundamental rational problem with any sort of pontification on social media. It’s mutlaq, meaning mentioned ‘in the general’, as a principle, despite it coming from the posters *personal* vantage.
This creates many problems….
1 The illusion of understanding. The reader takes the ‘principle’ and applies it in their mind wherever they see fit and in accordance to their (non-expert) conceptualization of it, when, in reality, they’re processing it through the ego, in accordance to their whims….
2 The illusion of ownership. “Liking” something has implications associated with it, namely that one has grasped the full ramifications of it and can transition it from theory to application. Even among scholarship, it’s an advanced skill. Laymen don’t even have basic skills…
About now, you’re all aware that I’m no fan of social media. I opened an Insta account last year and, well, from ‘how it started’ to ‘how it’s going’…let’s just say that I have a folder entitled #messed_up. On occasion, I’ll share some “goodies”…
Our first exhibit is the ~80% of posts classifying women based on their “mindset” toward men as the determining factor of their “value”. How droll. As women, we’re supposed to be brainwashed into thinking that our intrinsic value is completely dependent on how we attract men?
Do pardon me. When a person’s value is made subservient to another’s actions, we have a word for that in English; it’s called slavery. The intrinsic human value of a woman is exactly as that of a man, because it’s fully dependent on how she relates to God, her (and his) Creator…
1 in 6 U.S. children aged 2–8 years (17.4%) had a diagnosed mental, behavioral, or developmental disorder.
So young. Look at the increase over age bracket.
Reminds me of an incident with my daughter when she was 4 and had observed…
a group of (Muslim) teenagers. She was perplexed by their behavior and asked me one of the most insightful questions I’ve been asked by anyone, including adults.
“Mama, aren’t people supposed to get better when they’re older?”
I smiled, took her into my arms and said…
“Yes. They are.”
Entirety satisfied, she cheerfully jumped off my lap and went to play, and I just stood there, amazed by her intellect and simultaneously frightened because I knew that children, most of them, even Muslims, were not “getting better when they’re older”…