Thread by @EnemyInAState

Malignant Narcissism: one of the personality disorders than can ensue, likely from childhood abuse of some kind, whether that be emotional, physical, poverty is narcissism personality—sometimes extreme enough to be diagnosed, often times, goes untreated and recognised

You can read more about it here—but I think many of us will have noticed that those who are anti-Covid safety hit many of the key traits of this disorder: survivingnarcissism.tv/malignant-narc…

The defining feature of Narcissist personality is a raging sense of entitlement, believing whatever they want is all that matters—at the expense of everybody else: people with this disorder have not developed a sense of stable self in childhood.

From when we are born we are seeking to develop a sense of identity and self—as children into adulthood we should progress through various stages of development: understanding first yourself through others (parents, caregivers etc) — Narcissist do not go through that phase.

Rather, developmentally they are essentially stuck in the mind of a 4-year-old who lashes out and throws tantrums when their whims cannot be met: if parents and carers have not recognised (1) the emotions of that child in the moment —but rather have derided or ignored them

(2) that we all feel like that sometimes, but other people are to be considered as well, then that child, after this repeated injury, doesn't develop those mechanism needed to navigate society—and for healthy relationships with others.

And so the angry toddler becomes the GBD advocate: enraged that they should be asked to consider others—sense of entitlement means that my way is the only way—if not being sensible and following rules backfires on me and I get sick—it can't be my fault—it has to be someone else

One of the things that's truly terrifying for those with NP is to ever be seen as at fault: doing that requires having a sense of self that can be looked into and fallen back on when need be: but for NPs there's nothing but a void of emptiness in that situation—thus terror ensues

The lack of self—never knowing who you really are, or what you're really about—is a terrifying experience for them: that's why you'll find these people are 1: never able to admit fault. 2 unable to take jokes (they're always miserable people, even when smiling) 3. don't care

about others—if you don't understand yourself, you can't understand others. This is why the behaviour is self defeating—it's coming from a mind that is stuck in that of the toddler who is throwing a tantrum.

What you'll find is with these people, that there's no happiness: period: now, they've got what they apparently wanted, and are free to go out and do whatever they want: but alas, it's not not enough: still they aren't happy—still they carry on acting like victims.

And indeed, they become genuine 'victims' of a sort—getting infected, and spiralling into all sorts of problems as a result: their lives are always painful car crashes—when other point that out—this triggers the rage that comes from a lack of sense.

But whatever happens: whichever of their whims are met—it never, ever leads to happiness or satisfaction of any kind—the cycle of misery just continues to march on.

Anybody who has had the intense displeasure of being around these characters for any period of time will be aware of the fact that some of the most dreaded days on the calendar are ones that are considered special in some way.

Birthdays and Christmas are the classics: whether it be their own or others: if it's not their birthday then it's to be ruined—if it there's nothing you do will make it good enough—it'll still lead to misery and arguments: nothing is ever right, nothing ever good enough

For many adults who've developed a stable sense of self, they'll have a more balanced approach to birthdays for example—not expecting that much: maybe a fee kind words and a present: not a be all end all–probably more of kid's thing really

But for NPs it's not the case at all: birthdays are about the self—a day when everyone 'has to acknowledge' you exist and 'be nice to you'—this is clearly going to appeal to people who have no sense of self—but, of course, alas due to the inbuilt destruction of NPs

It's to be ruined somehow, by themselves in reality, but of course, no sense of self=can't possibly be them ruining it, so because: ruined by everybody else. X wasn't good enough Y comment was sarcastic etc etc

Christmas' fair little better—a day where happiness is supposed to shared (we can't have that, of course, everyone has to miserable as they are. So, year after year, the same nonsense.

Often times, inbuilt into NP is an intense paranoia that isn't easily seen: but once you get to know the person, you'll realise it's very much present: and it never stops—and is like an out of control script in their head that everybody is talking about them all the time

Of course, to elevate yourself to that level of alleged importance is already deeply narcissistic—but that is the only world they can imagine: them and nothing else.

Compounding matters: capitalist society reinforces the doctrine of the self in order to keep people atomised and distant, so that they do not work together to change the oppressive system.

As such,narcissism is in built into the system: and in itself attempts to creates narcissistic people: hence why we see mass normalisation attempts when it comes to this kind of unacceptable behaviour.

The worship of the self above all else: narcissism used as control of the population: making life as bare, empty and miserable for everybody, as it is in the brain of NPs.

It could be agued that just growing up in a capitalist system is enough to traumatise us in childhood into developing NP: so severe and un natural is the system of power in place.

The subject could be talked about for hours and days and years—so compelling and relevant is it. What should never be forgotten is that we don't have just one pandemic that's killing us all: we have many.

Capitalism is in itself a pandemic everywhere that it goes—and aside from Covid, the climate crisis: the product of the system is itself enough to wipe us all out: driven by all the disturbing traits we've covered here.

Final note as it was mentioned in comments: there's is treatment available for people who have this disorders; but it requires them to want to get to help, and commit to it, as well as finding the right help: which isn't easy actually.

Attachment based therapies are probably the best way to go—'re-parenting' and so on. But if those with NP wish to get help, then with enough effort, things can be improved. Of course, the disorder itself stops people from getting help—admitting you have faults?

What you'll often find is with people like this they do not believe that anybody can help them (nothing can ever be better), and the mere idea of talking about feelings or how you feel to somebody else who says they want to help you is often too much for them to handle.

In childhood, people like this, tended to be ridiculed or dismissed when they spoke about how they felt—so the default is to never engage in how you really feel (unless it's too hurt somebody else).