One of the things I want to say on this #TransDayOfVisibility to young trans and nonbinary people is that family acceptance of one's coming out is not a requisite for a fulfilling trans and/or nonbinary life.
CW: transphobia

As my friends and perhaps some of my long-time followers know, I came out to my blood family as trans when I was 19 and was met with severely negative responses which led me to retract my coming out because I did not feel safe at home otherwise. (1/x)
I had faint hopes that they would be understanding and I had practiced my coming out many times before doing so and when things turned out how it did, I was devastated but was resolved that I no longer could have these people in my life. (2/x)
I started saving money and when I had just enough amount of money, I left my family at 20. That was 12 years ago. They no longer know where I am or what I'm doing with myself, and I'm fine with that now b/c I'm older and had a lot of time to process the pain. (3/x)
I was able to survive this long b/c I had access to the internet, was able to speak English, & had online friends. I already knew there was a community of people outside of Japan who was living a good life than I had been at home, where I was miserable for a long while. (4/x)
But to be frank, my relationship with my family was already troubled before I came out. Now I believe that it was for the better that they rejected me for being trans, because that was the final straw that made me decide to leave my family for good. (5/x)
After leaving my family, a whole lot of things happened in the last 12 years (good & bad), but I've finally settled down right now. I have kind friends both online & offline who are good to me. I'm now living peacefully in an environment where I can focus on my well-being. (6/x)
I can't give a general advice for situation like this b/c circumstances can vastly differ from people to people.

I just wanted to say: I hope you don't lose hope even if your family is transphobic. A good life without the presence of your family can still happen. (7/7)

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