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Mar 31 6 tweets 1 min read
CONVERSATIONS MATTER

In relationships, conversations matter. Deep, probing, uncomfortable discussions. This is because they provide context and elicit understanding.
A few years ago, I met someone who was brash and blunt. Because of his abrasive nature, I was tempted to cut him off.
One day, while conversing, he described his childhood. He grew up in a polygamous home where he was the runt of the litter. He competed for everything and learned to be vocal at a very young age.
Suddenly, his behaviour clicked. I understood where he was coming from and so my perspective changed.
I decided to become a non-threatening safe space for him. In return, he let down his guard. Eventually, we had a good friendship and he brought value to my life. Understanding him made all the difference.
Conversations matter. They transform relationships. So please don't shy away from them.

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