Dear #writers, #writingcommunity,
In your scenes with sex, how much of you, the person, is in the scene?
Do you know?
Let’s investigate.
🧵👇
In your scenes with sex, how much of you, the person, is in the scene?
Do you know?
Let’s investigate.
🧵👇
This is what I hear from writers:
“They’ll think I do this.”
⏩Judgment
“I don’t know if I can write body parts.” ⏩Embarrassment
“I’ll skip sex and write it later.”
⏩Anxiety
“What if I don’t get it right?”
⏩Fear
“They’ll think I do this.”
⏩Judgment
“I don’t know if I can write body parts.” ⏩Embarrassment
“I’ll skip sex and write it later.”
⏩Anxiety
“What if I don’t get it right?”
⏩Fear
Writing sex in your story is an art and a craft.
Like sex, it is a learned skill.
Like sex, it is a learned skill.
What stops you from writing scenes with sex?
1-Lack of education
Who has had comprehensive sex ed for themselves, much less for their characters?
Mostly NO ONE.
When you write about sex, you probably write what you know, what you’ve researched, or what you’ve heard.
But education for yourself and writing is possible.
Who has had comprehensive sex ed for themselves, much less for their characters?
Mostly NO ONE.
When you write about sex, you probably write what you know, what you’ve researched, or what you’ve heard.
But education for yourself and writing is possible.
2. Shame is a cultural, familial, and institutional sexual message that you may carry.
When you stop and gather a new perspective along with a way to evaluate your skills and self, you can replace shame with respect founded in facts and science.
When you stop and gather a new perspective along with a way to evaluate your skills and self, you can replace shame with respect founded in facts and science.
3. With no real tools to write sex, it is difficult.
I’m creating a template that provides your foundation in
perspective,
sex history,
factually accurate and fictionally realistic elements,
the meaning of sex
and…
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I’m creating a template that provides your foundation in
perspective,
sex history,
factually accurate and fictionally realistic elements,
the meaning of sex
and…
medium.com/@authordrj/as-…
4. You.
Identify and stop author intrusion in your sex writing.
Learn about boundaries, how to set them and how to use them.
Use assessment and evaluation in your own life to gain perspective on how to create the sex in your story and scenes.
medium.com/@authordrj/the…
Identify and stop author intrusion in your sex writing.
Learn about boundaries, how to set them and how to use them.
Use assessment and evaluation in your own life to gain perspective on how to create the sex in your story and scenes.
medium.com/@authordrj/the…
The bottom line, there is a macro and micro level of storytelling and sex is part of that.
Once you take the first step to consider the holistic nature of sex, you open yourself to a new world that will provide the richest elements to your writing.
Once you take the first step to consider the holistic nature of sex, you open yourself to a new world that will provide the richest elements to your writing.
If you want to learn about this approach, sign up for my newsletter and get the info on my new book.
How to Write Scenes with Sex: A Sexuality Guide for Writers.
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Use me well!
All the best,
Dr. J.💜💜💜
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Use me well!
All the best,
Dr. J.💜💜💜
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