Pls don‘t ever say „Welcome to womanhood“ to a trans woman.
It‘s extremely condescending. Imagine her or them saying the same thing to you when someone misgenders you? Would that feel better? „Welcome to transness. That‘s what it‘s like to get harassed for being different than the cishet norm.“
You are not the master of womanhood. You don‘t have all the experiences women have. What you‘re saying is „You weren‘t a woman before and this is what it‘s like to be a woman and it sucks.“ Not only does this make womanhood into a monolith but makes maleness look better…
…in comparison. It sucks even more when a cis men does this who has no place to even talk about this. If you wanna really welcome another woman to womanhood use her name and her right pronouns. Don‘t make yourself better than her. That would otherwise be cis supremacy.
I have to add to this: if you‘re a trans person doing the same thing you‘re not better than the cis woman. A trans woman did this to me once after my bottom surgery, literally after I got out of the hospital. It‘s not nice. I was a woman before too. Genitals don‘t make women.
The amount of times trans people try to justify this phrase in the comments while people tell them that they made very different experiences where this was meant in a very condescending, belittling way is kinda shocking.
I mean I‘m not trying to steal your joy from being introduced into womanhood but you miss the point: often times TMA people hear this as a way to shut down their discussion about sexual harassment and misogyny. It tells me more about people‘s willingness…
…to discuss misogyny in a private setting than anything else. If you feel like you need to justify this then ok but it‘s not everyone‘s opinion about this. Feel free to disagree.
Muting this thread before the cis find it. Don‘t wanna deal with the harassment. 😩
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