Seriously it's like I need to write a list of the people who care and respect for me and frequently refer to and update said list.
I wish I didn't experience this but it's a symptom and not a choice. As you can imagine this has lead to me frequently querying people who I considered to be close to me about what I might have done to upset them and why they don't care about me anymore... when of course I never
did anything to upset them and this perceived abandonment is completely in my mind. When this behaviour cycles again and again I lose trust in the people I'm closest to and push them away to protect myself.
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Fear of Abandonment - when you're autistic you confuse social interaction easily. If you drive people away simply being your self you start to fear being yourself...
And the abandonment.
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Unstable Relationships - when you don't understand your neurodivergence you think everyone thinks like you.
They don't.
This causes relationship instability, especially because you're autistic and don't know it. Shouldn't everyone love your special interest like you?
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Uncertain Self-Image - your entire life people have tried to mould you into what society expects of you - except that isn't you.
This results in a complete inability to see your self as inherently acceptable. So you shift it.
(this term is really quite offensive and stigmatising, if you don't have this disease you're not allowed to use it at all in this context)
A short thread!
I'll present a bunch of common thoughts from a lived experience, common responses and how you can respond instead to create better outcomes for everyone involved.
Borderline: Why did you do that thing? (Concern & Confusion)
Common response: I wanted to, stop trying to control me, why does what I do matter so much to you?
My current understanding of COVID pathophysiology!
First, wtf is pathophysiology? Why that’s where
- pathology (disease process) &
- physiology (cellular biochemistry)
…collide!
A thread on why I haven’t stopped wearing an N-95 yet.
I’m comprehending that the only way to communicate the importance of avoiding COVID one has to comprehend why.
COVID is airborne vasculitis. So what? Well that’s never happened before.
Why is it scary? Heart and blood vessel health is one of the main purposes of healthcare.
Pathological damage to the human body is not “reversible” it is managed and there are limits on our ability to manage, especially when confronted with a new disease process.
We take time developing effective responses.
The question is how is COVID affecting blood vessels?
It is commonly done in groups with guidance. Please seek medical help for excessive distress.
5 modules
Dialectics - The Forest
Mindfulness - The Sea
Distress Tolerance - The Storm
Emotion Regulation - Within
Interpersonal Effectiveness - Heart/Brain/Soul
Plans aren’t actions, repetition creates foundation (ie: you need to learn the alphabet before you learn to read)
Module 1 - Dialectics - The Forest
Dialectic is a word rooted in philosophy and is defined as:
- The art of investigating or discussing the truth of opinions
- Inquiry into metaphysical contradictions and their solutions
I have broad understanding of what COVID does and my disease (BPD)+ ND helps me process things into easier to understand information.
I'll probably get things a bit wrong and annoy people but my approach is better safe than sorry.
A short layman thread on COVID pathophysiology.
Catching COVID doesn't mean you can't catch it again. In fact, you're more likely be infected again.
If people claim otherwise I would ask their approach to unacceptable levels of global infection destroying our healthcare system.
New healthcare takes SO LONG to train.
COVID attacks your endothelial tissue. This is the lining of blood vessels (literally every part of your body), cellular scarring is a thing and our body works best with smooth lines (scars make wiggly lines & ⬇️efficiency, ⬆️ tension over time).
I can't talk about my industry publicly. I work(ed) in healthcare until resigning due to needing to protect the people I was endeavouring to help from COVID. I understand enough about human bodies combined with life span to know we shouldn't mess about with COVID.
My partner asks, why aren't other medical professionals as upset as you are? Why aren't GPs upset like you? That's because the health industry has become capitalistic in nature. GPs don't fix things, they put the best bandaids they have on and move to the next person.
A GP doesn't really care that you've developed a chronic lung condition. Or kidney condition. Or hepatitis. Or increased your heart attack risk. Or lost cognitive function. They can assess it and point you towards the best band-aid care available.