I will die on this hill of honoring kinksters at pride and here's why.
During the HIV epidemic, the LGBTQ+ community (largely gay men) were dying left and right. In San Francisco specifically it was the biker clubs, the lesbians and the kinksters who kept us alive.
Families would disown you, and/or as soon as you die from AIDS, takes your possessions, life, leather gear, etc and throw them out. We were undesirable, shameful.
It was the kink community (and again the lesbians) who made sure our lives didn't disappear even when we did.
The kink community made sure our memories weren't forgotten. We made parts of the quilt, we got loud and upset at congress, we preserved not just the kink history and gear, but the memories of those we lost as we continued to celebrate and remember our loved ones during pride.
So for the final freaking time. KINKSTERS belong at pride. We have gone through so much hate, shame, stigma and still to this day continue to do good. Raise money and educate our community about sex, consent and the history that would otherwise be lost to homophobia and hate.
We are not wearing leather at pride to have sex in public.
We are remembering how hard our community hurt, fought and helped each other to stay alive and we will continue to do so at #pride.
Also just a final note of like, thank you lesbians specifically. They dont get enough love and credit for holding our hands through that shit. Butch, femme, leather or lace. Yall are also the true MVPs. ♥️♥️♥️
Hey if you like educated discussion and critical talks about queer sex and kink I have a YouTube and twitch where we stream 5 times a week: twitch.tv/WattsTheSafewo…
Our YouTube with sex ed stuff and this talk specifically:
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"Kinks and fetishes don't belong at pride" - A thread by me, a kinkster who has been going to pride for years and has a few things to say on the matter. ❤️🏳️🌈
"Why?" is always my first reaction. What do kinks mean to you that you that kinksters don't deserve to be represented when our identities are so entwined with our kinks? Kinksters have been at the forefront of fighting for our rights since the beginning. We have lost people too.
"Kinksters aren't part of the LGBTQ+ community!" - Community is a flawed and overused word, but it's the best we have sometimes. Kinksters teach classes, do outreach, fundraise, and are accepting of all the intersections of identities that exist under LGBTQ+, where's the inverse?