You do not know me, but I would like to tell you about the worst day of my life.
Two months after we got married, my wife and I found out we were pregnant. We were surprised, but thrilled.
Two months after we got married, my wife and I found out we were pregnant. We were surprised, but thrilled.
A few months later, on Christmas, we cut into a cake and learned we were having a son. There is a video of me. I have never had a bigger smile than I do in that video.
Pregnancy comes with a lot of appointments. Around 20 weeks is the "anatomy scan." We had ours at 21 weeks.
Pregnancy comes with a lot of appointments. Around 20 weeks is the "anatomy scan." We had ours at 21 weeks.
After the scan we were brought to a different room. Our son hadn't developed kidneys. That's why my wife's bump was small. Without kidneys there is no amniotic fluid.
He almost certainly would not survive to full term. If he did, he would likely survive for only minutes, no longer, and with great pain. There was danger to my wife.
We made the hardest no-brainer choice there is.
We made the hardest no-brainer choice there is.
An abortion at 21 weeks is done in a hospital. In the maternity ward.
They put a picture of a rain cloud outside your door. They don't tell you why, but you know.
They close the other doors in the hall when you leave so you don't have to see someone else on their best day.
They put a picture of a rain cloud outside your door. They don't tell you why, but you know.
They close the other doors in the hall when you leave so you don't have to see someone else on their best day.
Our choice was not a hard one, but it was a choice. And it makes me sick to know I live in a country where someone could get the news I got, and not be permitted to make it. It is shameful.
Like I said at the top, you don't know me. I run an anonymous account that does jokes about my alma mater's good basketball teams and bad football team.
But this is my story. And my wife's. And it is real.
But this is my story. And my wife's. And it is real.
A huge percentage of our followers are men. And, mostly, men don't share stories like this. This is my first time doing it. But we should.
Last week's decision is a travesty. For women you know. For women you don't. And for the men who are with them. We all deserve better.
Last week's decision is a travesty. For women you know. For women you don't. And for the men who are with them. We all deserve better.
I have been so touched by the replies, particularly those from others who faced similar circumstances. Thank you all.
It is easy for guys not to talk about this issue. I didn't for a long time. But I'm happy I did now. 💙
It is easy for guys not to talk about this issue. I didn't for a long time. But I'm happy I did now. 💙
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